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  • peachyprice
    peachyprice Posts: 22,346 Forumite
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    *max* wrote: »
    Do you have any reason for even considering asking "the internet" about what is, really, a very sweet message on a card, from your mum?
    It would never have occurred to me to wonder about it, let alone ask people's opinon. But then, I love my mum, and she loves me, and neither of us have any doubts about it. :/

    I have a feeling the card was to OP's boyfriend from his mum ;)
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  • ognum
    ognum Posts: 4,879 Forumite
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    OP I actually think that if you are worried about this then it's you who has the problem not his mum!

    It's a few words written in a card, why worry. Do you have other instances that concern you?
  • System
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    Its my sons 20th birthday in a few days.

    This:
    On your birthday a heartfelt "thank you" for just being mine!
    lots of love from
    Mum and Dad xxx

    ... is something i'd like to say but of course i wouldnt. He sees himself as his own person now (which of course he is) but in my heart he is still my baby boy!

    I just see the person who has written this inside of the card hasnt quite mastered the art of 'letting go'.
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  • 74jax
    74jax Posts: 7,930 Forumite
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    LittleMax wrote: »
    Just after some unbiased opinions. Is this a strange thing for a mother to write in her grown up son's birthday card (punctuation is as written)?

    On your birthday a heartfelt "thank you" for just being mine!
    lots of love from
    Mum and Dad xxx

    I see it in a proud,loving way.

    I had to read the comments to see other ways to look at it.
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  • liney
    liney Posts: 5,121 Forumite
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    Thank you for being my son.


    What a dreadful thing to say. How dare she! LOL
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  • DigForVictory
    DigForVictory Posts: 12,150 Forumite
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    A generous heart, loads of affection & possibly a sip or two too much christmas spirit to double check she's not triggering her beloved child's paranoia.

    She's a mum. We get things a bit wrong sometimes. (Indeed for years our place seems to be In The Wrong, even whilst at the wheel of the taxi.)

    Love her anyway & toss the card if its stressing you.
  • Lily-Rose_3
    Lily-Rose_3 Posts: 2,732 Forumite
    LittleMax wrote: »
    Just after some unbiased opinions. Is this a strange thing for a mother to write in her grown up son's birthday card (punctuation is as written)?

    On your birthday a heartfelt "thank you" for just being mine!
    lots of love from
    Mum and Dad xxx

    I don't think there is anything odd or weird about this; it just sounds like a mom who is besotted with her son. Many are.

    As several people have said, there is a mother-son bond in some families that no-one can penetrate. And some moms are quite clingy! Our daughter's boyfriend's mom is a bit clingy. (Single mom for 13 years, doesn't work, no real close friends, and very little family; just a brother and another younger son (20,) who moved out in 2013.) But she adores our daughter fortunately.

    I don't envy a girl who is dating a man who has a besotted mother though! My husband was close to his mother but she wasn't obsessed. Then again, she had a career and lots of friends.
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  • duchy
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    I came back to see if the OP had responded with more info.
    I hope they do.
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  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    LittleMax wrote: »
    Just after some unbiased opinions. Is this a strange thing for a mother to write in her grown up son's birthday card (punctuation is as written)?

    On your birthday a heartfelt "thank you" for just being mine!
    lots of love from
    Mum and Dad xxx

    not really - her son is "her" son. I'd be looking at it like "thanks for just being you" kind of thing.
  • scooby088
    scooby088 Posts: 3,385 Forumite
    OP stop over thinking it, your mind will take you to some pretty strange places. Just think of it as a throw away comment.
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