Frump to Fab 2016 - Lets make it AWESOME!!!

greenbee

I've been weighing and measuring my food for the last week, and working on a 1000 calorie deficit in what I take in to what I use (fitbit records activity, food info is added via the app) and weighed myself this morning - 2kg loss, despite bread, wine, chocolate, icecream and biscuits at various points during the week. The good thing is that as your activity determines how much allowance you have left, as long as you don't have a late-night binge, you can generally counteract any indulgence!

coppers

I haven't had a chance to catch up on the thread yet but I'm sending you all best wishes, hope everyone's fab.
I've had an unexpected overnight stay in Yorkshire, it left me feeling really grotty, but I've had a nice pampering session now I'm home & feeling fab again.

indiepanda

lessonlearned wrote: »

Good Morning Lovely Ladies

Indie - well done on Kondoing your man. It can't have been easy for you but I agree with everyone else - he's not for you. You are worth more than that. No one - man or woman - should ever settle for less than the best - and no one deserves to be treated like a second class citizen. Better no man than the wrong man.

The more you tell us about yourself makes me think that you are one fine woman and an "excellent catch" for any man. Have a rest from men for a while and when the time is propitious then Mr Right will come walking into your life - probably when you least expect him. IN the meantime concentrate on yourself, get out and about and have some fun.

Thanks LL, totally agree being single beats being with the wrong man. The romantic in me dreams of meeting that special person, but the reality hasn't quite lived up to it so far. And I am lucky to have some fab friends, am not short on company or things to do with my time. I also consider myself lucky that financially I don't need a man to share living expenses with, must be so hard splitting when it leaves you in a financially precarious situation.

Definitely taking a rest from men for a while. I have worked hard at finding boyfriends in recent years via internet dating but it really can be hard work sifting through all the nonsense to get to the odd decent ones in there, takes up energy I don't have right now.

As you say, concentrate on me for now. Mr Right might appear when I least expect it... but if he doesn't life can still be pretty good. Very sweet of you to say I sound like an excellent catch. I don't really feel it at the moment, but I expect a good holiday will put the spring back in my step.

Amylouwho

Oh my word I absolutely love this thread! I am new to the forums but this definitely caught my eye. I've been saying to my (mostly girl) friends how this year all the !!!!!ing and belittling ourselves and others has got to stop, I have been reading a lot of self improvement books and listening to positive affirmation videos on YouTube it has definitely made me more inspired. I realise this will look like spam but while I am here I would like to mention a Facebook page I have made off the back of reading one particular book "Girl Code". I had been listing stuff on eBay which I won't slate it sometimes it really does help with making money but sometimes things just doesn't gatherer interest, watchers or bids, it is quite frustrating. So my new motto for 2016 is "swap don't shop". My Facebook page is "SwishMySwag" a meeting point for eBay users to either share their listings or negotiate a clothes swap with other users.


Today I will definitely be wearing a nice spritz of perfume as suggested in tip one, I think Marc Jacobs Decadence is this Wednesday's scent. Have a lovely day everyone, stay fabulous x

lessonlearned

Good Morning Fabbers

Just got back from sorting out dads Pensions and general finances.......all done now. .......Wahey.:j:j.

This afternoon my lovely plumber is coming to fit a new shower so whilst I have to stay in and wait I will do a bit more Kondoing.

I have made a decision.......I'm going to go through my wardrobe and remove every item of beige........apart from summer linen trousers.

I don't know why I have it in my wardrobe, it doesn't suit me, it makes me looked washed out, tied and ill. My husband hated me in beige - he said it made me look dull and old......he was right, it does.

So under his influence I never wore it, however, somehow it has insinuated it's way back into my wardrobe.

I have a a theory about this.........when I am sad, unhappy or uncertain I seem to want to wear clothes that don't draw attention, to blend in so I go for the safe options........the bland boring beiges.

The problem is they make me invivisble and whilst I'm not in the market for a new man I'm fed up with being invisible.

I cheerfully admit that I am vain enough to want to make an impact, to turn heads and get noticed. I admit I miss the admiring glances I used to take for granted. :rotfl:

I don't have to act on them.......but it would be nice to get one now and again.;). So it's out with the bland, no more invisibility cloaks - bring on the colour, glamour and glitz.

maddiemay

LL- great idea to Kondo the beige:D

For the last 30 years of my working life I lived in and mostly worked in a (very) small town, in an affluent retirement area in the west country. 80% of the people I dealt with were retired and reasonably well off and the vast majority of the women wore beige:eek: I promised myself that when I became old I would not be joining them and I haven't. I have one cream roll neck sweater, some cream linen trousers and 2 pairs of cream summer shoes, but not a single item of beige. Lots of red, grey, navy, purple and fuchsia pink and a few splashes of jade/teal. Even my hair highlights (grey hair)are done in bright colours when I have them.

I do hope that you will not feel sad and unhappy in the future, given your losses no doubt you may have down times, but hopefully you will be able to buy cheery things that make you feel and look good.

Indie - So sorry that things did not work out with your ex, but as others have said, you deserve better and were able to recognise what was happening before he took away your feeling of self worth.

lessonlearned

Some great colour ideas Maggie. Tbh im still finding my way a bit with colour now that my hair is white rather than auburn.

I like teal and have a couple of sweaters and a boyfriend cardigan in teal. I also like that denim/airforce blue. That seems to suit me. I never thought I could wear them but I'm starting to think that bright pinks, fuscias and purples might work as accent colours too.

I might look out for some chazza bargains in the pinks, fuscia ranges. I've discovered that I can now wear baby or rose pink, colours that previously clAshed with my hair.

I have decided to keep my winter white/cream wool coat and my cream trench coat. I seem to be ok with cream. I have a lovely fur lined suede coat - I'm not sure about it. It's not exactly beige but not exactly tan - somewhere between the two. I might hang ont it for the time being because I do like it. It was a Costco bargain but it looks really expensive and it has a certain Dr Zhivago/boho chic about it.

I know what you mean about old ladies and beige. I think that's whAt my husband was driving at. I really miss our shopping trips because he had great taste and always helped me find the perfect outfit.

When we first met I was quite a conservative dresser, given my height and curves I always afraid of looking tarty so I think I was a bit too cautious. He did encourage me to be a bit more adventurous.i think of late I have slipped back into my cautious ways and need to give myself a bit of a jolt.

indiepanda

Love the banning of beige. It's not a colour that does much for most people, and even those that it does suit... why would you want to live in it - it's such a bland colour.

I feel the same about black - so many people (women especially) live in black and it flatters few people, and even for those it suits, there's no excuse for wearing it all the time when there's a rainbow of colour out there.

Floss

Have to own up to wearing black, but always with a bright cardi and usually a scarf, that, grey & navy are base colours for my work wardrobe of shift dresses, with a couple of jackets for more formal days.

coppers

I'm liking the ban beige philosophy going on but I think it can have its place eg trench coats, & I do think hanging on to your fur lined suede coat would be a good idea LL. maybes we just need to be a bit more selective & less play it safe.

Today I got told my skin is looking much better, glowing, so all that cleansing & moisturising at least twice a day must be paying off. I'd had a home spa steam facial today. I've booked in for a cut & blow dry as I feel times exactly right for a trim, rather than doing what I usually do giving it a bit longer until I feel like I desperately need it done. Keep on Fabbing everyone.