Frump to Fab 2016 - Lets make it AWESOME!!!

sugarbaby125

Hello Ladies,

I had a really good date with Wayne last night. Both of us kept making us laugh and smile. He left me very thoughtful, as he asked if he could come for Christmas Day. I have still not made up my mind as it is a big ask, especially as I had not expected it. We are going to be spending time together on Christmas Eve for definite. I will give him his presents on Christmas Eve. Wayne complimented my skirt even though it is just a skirt that I wear to work or to pop out to do top up shopping. By sheer coincidence he was wearing a cream jumper with black t-shirt and black jeans and I was wearing a black skirt, black t-shirt and a cream with black trim jumper, so we were both wearing black and cream.

I am still wrapping presents today. I can not get on with any deep cleaning until all the presents are wrapped. It is a long, laborious task but will definitely be worth it.

maman

Thanks for the Christmas wishes ellsbel, never too early.:xmassmile


I surprised myself yesterday and got all the decorating done. It wasn't until I opened the box that I remembered that the tree lights had packed up last year:eek:. Instead I did everything else and then popped out for some new lights and got all the remaining non-perishables in Sainsbury's while I was there.


So the house is looking very festive and welcoming. Today is DD1's birthday and they'll be over later to eat. we'll have a take away so no work for me:).


I went into town for a short while this morning as I needed to go to the bank (more local branches now closed:() and do a few errands. Once this evening is over, all I've really left to do now is my meal plan and shop for fresh food which I'm planning for Friday or possibly Thursday.


Can I add my congratulations to your daughter sugarbaby. I really think she's showing the real spirit of Christmas and I can see why you're so (justifiably) proud of her. It's a difficult one about Wayne on Christmas Day. Maybe if you told your family he's a good friend on his own and not to read too much into it?? It'll be interesting to know what you decide.:)

lessonlearned

Good morning lovely ladies.

Quick update ........dad not too doing well. Still in hospital. Fighting a streptococcal infection. They are pumping him full of gentomycin.......the nuclear option of antibiotics. It usually works but it's rough, especially on the kidneys.

I'm not sure if he is strong enough but he's a tough old bird so we will,just have to wait and see. It would be nice to have just one last Christmas.

FInally got the tree up yesterday, most of the gifts are wrapped and cards done and posted.

I'm very tired and looking rather washed out. Had to cancel my hair appt but did manage to go to Physio - I have to keep,that going otherwise I would seize up. I have a chiropodist appt for Friday, just hope I don't have to cancel that because I'm way overdue and my feet are quite sore.

Anyway I'm still reading and following you all.

Will come back later when I can.

maman

Thanks for the update LL, thinking of you.:)


Ate far too much junk last night so going to have a super healthy day today: no booze and lots of veg.


One task I left off my list (thanks for reminding me ellsbel ) was ironing. I might tackle that later today and settle to some gentle sewing. No sign of our bedroom carpet (was warned it might not be here before Christmas) so haven't pushed myself to do finishing touches.


Interesting piece in the news today about how sales of shampoo have dropped. I think it needs further analysis but one theory is that people are washing their hair less frequently and home working is being given as a reason. Personally I've always aimed for every other day as too much leaves my hair very dry and/or limp but the issue seems to be that people are less careful about appearance when they're not going out. I must admit I often don't bother with make up at home and I have 'house clothes' but I do have a minimum standard of fabbing. Any views?

chanie

LL Sorry about your Dad. I hope he is comfortable.


Maman I have been reading up on this and I'm not convinced its down to people working from home. As you wrote, I think its more about people having a more relaxed approach to their appearances. Gone are the days of the big 80's hair and even now, you can get a Brazillian treatment to straighten your hair, which means you don't need to use as much product on it.


I have been thinking about my targets for next year, so I'll pop back later.

mummy2threeboys

Re shampoo sales down. I have lots of friends going no poo around here, more natural methods, I wonder if others are doing it also?

Sorry just posting here so I can see if there is a 2017 thread I need it badly . Have a great christmas all x

lessonlearned

Happy Winter Solstice.:rotfl:

The days will now start get longer again. :j:j

Yes there will be a 2017 thread.

maman

mummy2threeboys wrote: »

Re shampoo sales down. I have lots of friends going no poo around here, more natural methods, I wonder if others are doing it also?

Sorry just posting here so I can see if there is a 2017 thread I need it badly . Have a great christmas all x

I'm sure that's an element of it. I think the story is based on sales of two branded shampoos going down so maybe it's also a corollary of people shopping in Aldi and Lidl or £shops which sell cheaper toiletries. I think dry shampoo is making a bit of a comeback too.

chanie

targets for 2017

I'll post these on the new thread, once it's up, but so I don't forget:

Reduce overdraft and save more.

Loose weight

Smarter shopping - arget of £800 savings on purchases through surveys, discounts, freebies and anything else to save money.

Only buy what I love - don't make do. Focus on quality.

Home fabbing - decorate rooms, New soft furnishings. Again, focus on quality items.

Keep on top of paperwork at home. I've saved about £300 on my cat insurance and I should have moved companies years ago.

Keep on top of Xmas for 2017 - I've done relatively well, but not as well as last year.

Hair - I'm growing it, but I'm thinking of getting some colour in either balayage or highlights.

Wear more jewellery or accessories.

Buy a new work wardrobe - cheaply.


Read more books.


Try new recipes and bake more.

indiepanda

Good to hear most people are having a good time getting ready for Christmas.

LL, sorry to hear about your Dad, it wouldn't be easy any time of the year but I think it's harder at a time of the year when we are all expected to be happy.

I am not feeling very fab at the moment. Went to buy a couple of new bras in M&S last night and their mirrors are rather cruel - see yourself from every angle and whilst front on I don't look so bad, side on it's so obvious my stomach is poking out beyond my boobs again, and am not flat chested or anywhere close, and at the back I can really see the back fat. Am so cross with myself for letting things slide backwards and unwinding some of the progress.

Anyway, then I came home and had messaged my ex, the one I am still friends with, to see if he would be free for dinner in the new year when I am due to go to a meeting near him. He replied saying he should be free but would need to clear it with his new girlfriend but he thought it should be ok as she knows we are still friends.

I know I have absolutely no right to feel upset by this. I chose to end it after all and I was out dating within a month although it turned out to be a mistake and I have been single since the spring. It's just I ended it not because I didn't love him, but because my feelings weren't reciprocated. I'd allowed myself to believe this was because his independence was more important to him than relationships in general. This wasn't pure fantasy on my part, he had admitted he has issues with relationships and losing any of his freedom early on and even one of his best friends after we split admitted he had been surprised to see him dating at all given his bachelor tendencies.

Anyway, now it feels rather like it was a personal rejection of me that he wasn't willing to put more effort in rather than a desire for freedom in general and that hurts like hell. Hardly slept last night and am writing with tears rolling down my face.

I suspect this is partly as I didn't allow myself to grieve properly in the first place - we have a tendency to bottle things up in our family - it's not healthy but I have never learned to do anything different. Something else to put on the list of things to work on in 2017.

Struggling to feel positive right now. I know I have lots of lovely friends, a decent job where I feel appreciated, a nice home (if with a scary big mortgage) and lots of fun travel plans for the new year and I should feel really lucky, and mostly I do.

I would say hopefully I can shake it off over the holidays and get over it, but maybe I just do need to allow myself to feel things properly instead of just medicating with excessive food and keeping myself so busy I don't have time to think about it. It's not really worked as a strategy so far - either in terms of sorting out my feelings or as a healthy lifestyle - so maybe time to do something different.

I think that's my theme for next year - to try doing things differently. It's not that my goals will be much different, but that I need to find different ways of tackling them as having failed on them so far it's clear what I did before doesn't work and it's the definition of madness to keep trying to do the same thing and expecting a different result.

Right, working from home today so better get on with it... having said distraction isn't healthy overall, I do need to justify my pay!