KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

greenbee

I have to say, I'm going to give up on letting people know about the situation so they can make contingency plans.

Work have just added to my stress my getting me to help with the contingency planning. If I'd just called in and taken leave they'd have had to deal with it.

And now, having called to let the plumbing company know that I might need to rearrange but it could be complicated, they've just called back to tell me I'll have to pay for the parts. I'm FURIOUS. I haven't actually cancelled yet. And I didn't say I'd cancel - I said I may have to reschedule. I made very clear to the girl on the phone that it was an inappropriate call, and appalling customer service and that she may feel she has to do what her boss tells her but she needs to tell him that it's not the right thing to do. They certainly won't be getting my business in future.

MMF007

Greenbee, while a plumbing firm may panic about lost business and act inappropriately (ie, having turned down other work to do yours, then losing that), your employer, to whom you are loyal and an asset, should show some respect. I am appalled.

I bet that if you were very stressed in the presence of your Dad's GP, they would insist on giving you a sick note... Looking after you and your dad in that way. A friend of mine was actually told by her mum's GP that she must be signed off sick for at least 2 weeks, in these same circs. There are plenty of sensible, right-minded medics who will concur.

If your work insist on doing your appraisal at this time, thereby requiring your attendance and
adding stress, make sure you include a written note to this effect in the said appraisal (assume you have a right to written input, on the record). Better yet, put a written request into senior management and HR asap, for a slighlty deferred appraisal date, setting out your reason in detail.

My blood is boiling on your behalf.

I hope they see sense, I really do.

Mx

Siebrie

I have had a goal setting meeting in February, where my boss and I could not fathom the questions and instructions issued by HR We decided to stop, my boss would seek further instruction from HR, and we would meet again at a later date. That never happened..... I'm good; I'm sure they'll tell me if things are not to their liking. I do not want to change position, my ambition is restricted to my home life. My current job has enough challenges, and enough routine, to make it pleasant, and we have a really nice team at the moment. Current crisis and possible take-over make the situation a bit insecure, but if they offer me a nice package, I'm not unhappy to go. We'll see. Now wondering if I will regret everything I got rid of, if I do get laid off.

greenbee

I've given up trying to make my boss understand how to deal with people. She was appalling over the issues with my ex harrassing me. I'm hoping to move teams soon.

I pointed out to the plumbing firm that I hadn't actually cancelled - I specifically said I'd need to reschedule but wouldn't necessarily have a date at the time. I specifically said the work would still need to be done.

If necessary I will drive back down overnight to let them in. They can do this job, but unless I get an apology they won't be getting anymore work from me. They'll also lose the work I source from them on behalf of a management group (they probably haven't made the connection as it isn't obvious). They're not a one-man band, they're a reasonably sized company, and they weren't going to lose any money, just have to deal sensitively with a delay. They need to think about customer service.

mavvymoo

Morning all

Greenbee I am sorry you are having such a hard time of it.With stupid uncaring idiots.:mad: At a time when you so dont need it. Please try and take care of yourself.My heart goes out to you and your family at this time.

Not a lot to report here apart from I waited on the platform for the train and crawled aboard and feel so much better for it. I have taken control back somewhat and applied the brakes to the rollercoster who had started going off the rails at brakeneck speed :eek:and had taken me with it

This process really is such a journey but it does make you stop in your tracks and rethink things so much quicker than before.I so wish KM and her odd little book was around years ago.:D

Thank you KM you have changed me and my thought process for the better I like to think.Maybe some people around me wouldnt agree with that. But to be honest I no longer care :TI dont worry about the small stuff any more


Mav x

Floss

Greenbee, I've had a couple of those bosses - the most recent a senior role holder who blatantly ignored the HR policies she couldn't be bothered following, made several major errors with my pay & accrued holidays and had the compassion of a very uncompassionate thing!

Hope you can find a way around those blocks to allow you to move back to support your family.

Hugs,
Floss xx

GreyQueen

Afternoon all.

I've got the smaller CD player up to BHF after w*rk so that's one less thing on the premises. It's amazing (to me, anyway, I am probably too easy to amaze ) how time-consuming the physical acts of responsible disposal can take. I can quite see why people who are up against it just chuck things in the skip or the tip.

I have cleared all the carp off my table and cleaned it. Quite unusal to see the top of this small table, I only know it must be under there as I otherwise have a bunch of stuff levitating at the same horizonal plane, which would be a tad improbable.:rotfl:

Making staunch efforts to keep the really small amount of surfaces in my tiny kitchen clear, even though it involves washing up rather more frequently than I'd like. But it's so worth it not to be disheartened with Stuff everywhere.

Got a bit of an amusement here, if you've never seen it before. Contains some language https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvgN5gCuLac

MMF007

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:, love it, GQ!

Am kondo-ing 2 garments straight back to shop. My treat for weight loss turned out to be non-sparking of joy They fitted but I just didn't like them! Decided in about 3 seconds, or less, when I put them on. So no dithering, they are on their way back (going into town tomorrow).
Strangely, I didn't feel disappointed, I felt quite liberated that I could tell immediately that they weren't joyful and could dispense with them :eek:

Well done Mavvy, great to hear you are back on the journey. Can't have been easy but you did come back on board really quickly and that's a good thing! :T

M

GreyQueen

I love that bit about how your house is just a pile of stuff with a cover on it. Really sums it up.

Was chatting to Dad this evening and he managed to find another box of wine glasses from Nan's which he's taken to the chazzer today. I shudder to think how many sets of glasses we took outta there, I swear there was easily more than 100 for one little old lady.

He really resonated with my comment that it's much better to give than receive, as the recipient is the one lumbered with the dusting.;)

I'm only giving consumable stuff this Crimble as I don't want people to be lumbered with a pile of Stuff to tend.

Great news that you're able to make fast decisions about the joy-factor of clothes. I'm getting so on the rare occasions I'm in clothes shops, I can hear my Inner GQ beyatching that she wouldn't want any of this Stuff as a gift, never mind pay money for it.............

oceanspirit

Thanks GQ for the much needed laugh.

Three box files emptied, three pairs of shoes in CS box, more papers shredded or recycled and, wait for it, a square foot of carpet in the study is now actually visible :j. First time in 9 years.