KonMari 2016 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Slinky

Greenbee, sorry to hear your news.

Difficult though it may be, when my Dad was terminal we located all his financial paperwork so it was all in one place for us to deal with, and even wrote and got him to sign letters to close some of his accounts so it was easier to have his money in one place - far easier to do with the account holder alive. Trying to unpick somebody's financial affairs can be so difficult when you don't know what they've got.

Siebrie

Late last night I had a LBM: DH's electrical shaver and accessories are all together in the original box, but the way the box is stored in an undersink drawer makes it hard to get out, and, as he is impatient, hard to get back in, so all the pieces are all over the drawer and not in the box. I have now stored the box sideways, and now it is easy to take out/put back. How simple can these solutions be?

greent

sorry to hear your news, greenbee x

silvasava

Siebrie - I like to have a leisurely soak in the bath now and again and my LBM came when I thought 'why do I keep all my bath bits out when they're only used once or twice a month?' They are now being sorted into the bathroom cupboard in a container that can be lifted out when needed (I do shower regularly ) We had a 50/60's function at the club on Saturday so as I was looking for suitable shoes to dance in I've culled a pair of ankle boots and a pair of flatties - both hardly worn and not worn for at least 5 years! Feeling virtuous about that 'cos I'm a shoeaholic but my stash is slowly dwindling I am finding I can be more realistic about whether I will actually wear/use some things again and let them go.

Karmacat

greenbee wrote: »

My dad only has a few weeks left to live. He's now starting to clear out after years of resistance. Unfortunately due to the effects of the cancer this isn't actually logical... However, as he can't cope with discussion we're agreeing to everything and will sort it out ourselves afterwards. He wants to make sure he doesn't leave too much for us to deal with, and we're trying to make sure he isn't worrying too much.

Friends keep calling and asking if it's ok to accept offers... We've told them to say yes to everything and then we'll sort it out with them afterwards.

Sorry to hear this, greenbee ... but you've found a very kind solution to the "stuff" problem, thats really nice.

My family is going through the same thing, as you may remember, and it's come upon us so fast, she hasn't had time to do any of that outside of us three offspring, so we don't face that problem, at least.

You never know the problems that might arise. The district nurse told us that anyone not seen by a doctor within 14 days of their death must have a postmortem, which would be awful, but I just checked on the website of the Royal College of Pathologists, and it says "person who died wasn’t seen by the doctor who signed the medical certificate within 14 days before death or after they died" so we should be okay. Her next doctor's appointment is 15 days after the last one, though she's been seen twice by the district nurse and the Macmillan nurse in between.

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Slinky wrote: »

Difficult though it may be, when my Dad was terminal we located all his financial paperwork so it was all in one place for us to deal with, and even wrote and got him to sign letters to close some of his accounts so it was easier to have his money in one place - far easier to do with the account holder alive. Trying to unpick somebody's financial affairs can be so difficult when you don't know what they've got.

I've always been my mum's go-to person on the finances, and I've been clearing it with my siblings that when I go up there tomorrow, I'll start on the financial paperwork while my mum doesn't need me. Making sure there's plenty of cash in the house would be a good idea too ...

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silvasava

karmacat - my Mum was seen by a doctor 3 days before she died and still had to have a PM I think you may be OK because your Mum is being seen regularly whereas my Mum didn't have any apparent health problems so wasn't being seen regulalrly.

Floss

Greenbee & Karmacat when the death certificate is issued by your registrar, get several copies at that time, so that sorting things is not held up by the only copy being with DVLC / insurers / pension companies etc.

greenbee

Sorry to hear about your mother Karmacat.

You can ask for the GP to come out if you want - or the community nurse can. I know my dad is due a home visit this week (with the community nurse) to get everything set up. Macmillan are in touch too, as we need to make sure they arrange for Marie Curie support for night nursing as and when we need it. And I know my dad has already talked to the hospice and although he's hoping to use the hospice at home service, is willing to go if necessary.

Finances should all be OK. He has very organised filing and has shown us where everything is. I think part of this is him not wanting to leave us with problems to deal with, and part of it about feeling useful. We keep telling him not to worry and we can sort it all out but understandably he IS worrying about how we'll manage without him.

I'm just exhausted - it's a 200 mile trip each way, and doing that as well as trying to keep on top of normal life is difficult. I haven't been for a run (which I know would help) for over a week. There isn't much in the way of food in the house, I skipped pilates last week (MUST go this week) and am trying to make contingency plans for work.

I'm not due to go and see my dad for two weeks now as I'm working away next Sun/Mon/Tues but we'll have to see. Assuming he doesn't deteriorate I am frantically filling the diary with stuff that needs to be done - dentist and car service are booked for this week. Boiler repair for next Friday. I really do need to do something about all the stuff I've got waiting to go to various charities as I don't seem to have time to drop it off.

hebwood

Greenbee - so sorry to hear the news.


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shanks77

Greenbee so sorry to hear your sad news
MMF that paper looks lovely.
Was supposed to be getting my carpet cleaned on Saturday but the guy never came, however, the thought of him coming spurred me on to get some stuff to the tip, 2 large boxes and a black bag to charity and some things allocated a more permanent home so not a total loss.