Finding partner for serious relationship.

marleyboy

I'm a strong believer in Love finding its own way, it finds its match without the need for online dating agencies.

However, I would be put off by a woman who appears desperately clingy whilst trying to be picky. I imagine any woman would be likewise.

You come across as almost obsessive in your demands of criteria, a woman may fear the idea of being alone with someone with such uncomfortable demands. Especially if your thinking of online dating or assuming meeting a stranger in a pub will automatically mean your a couple.

Your best bet is to stop looking for love and look for friendship, there is nothing to stop you having friends of the opposite sex and romance will more likely blossom from knowing someone as a trusting and fun loving friend.

DUTR

Gulash wrote: »

I am human! I have strong tamperamental character, but always within normality and respect.

The girls have huge fears, many of them are paranoid, they are often traumatized, they afraid to explore a non-conformative man, they want men to tick their 'safe' boxes, which is often ridiculous.

Considering you want someone intelligent, the least you could do is ensure you have correct spelling
Girls are not women.
Trouble is your character description of yourself, is not what on lookers agree with.

FBaby

Gulash wrote: »

I want a good girl with values, beautiful, above 1.70m, not fat, university educated. But it's so hard to find that combination! And most of these girls don't reply to me.

Indeed, as most men do, so these women have plenty to chose from and you are likely to be at the bottom of their list. You say yourself you're not a looker, so like you being selective on looks, they probably are too.

You can't expect to be selective yourself but the girls you like not to be.

Gavin83

Maureen43 wrote: »

I respect that choice but therein lies the problem for those looking for love in their forties.

Women in their forties tend to have children and history and are looking for the same in a partner.

Men in their forties tend to have children and history and are looking for women in their twenties with neither.

Just my opinion of course.

I can't really comment on what men in their forties are looking for but lets be realistic here, the appeal of much younger women for a man of that age is obvious.

I can only really comment on what I want though and I'm fairly set on not dating someone with kids but I think my reasons are sound. However my opinion might change if the woman in question had adult children as that is an entirely different prospect.

Gulash wrote: »

I want a good girl with values, beautiful, above 1.70m, not fat, university educated. But it's so hard to find that combination! And most of these girls don't reply to me.

Do you not think it makes you a bit of a hypocrite to state that you want a beautiful woman when you've criticized women for rejecting yours? What do you have to offer a woman? Beggars can't be choosers comes to mind here.

I can't tell if your trolling or your not native to this country and don't really know how things work here. I'm assuming it's a culture difference as you seem to want the perfect woman who's an obedient wife and ticks every box. Why can't you date within your own culture?

Gulash

!!!!!!, I offer the same and more! I am highly educated and successful, good looking, tall, etc. Your assumptions are ridiculous. The only barriers that prevent me from meeting interesting girls are objective barriers, like the high percentage of single mums, etc, and the subjective barriers within the heads of many women, like 'oh he doesn't have a pic with friends, so he is a serial killer'!

Pollycat

Gulash wrote: »

!!!!!!, I offer the same and more! I am highly educated and successful, good looking, tall, etc. Your assumptions are ridiculous. The only barriers that prevent me from meeting interesting girls are objective barriers, like the high percentage of single mums, etc, and the subjective barriers within the heads of many women, like 'oh he doesn't have a pic with friends, so he is a serial killer'!

If you have such positive attributes, I'm sure it won't be long before some discerning young lady snaps you up.

Do you not meet single, childless ladies in your professional life?

Are there really no clubs at all in your area?

tea_lover

So why not add a photo with some friends in it then?

FBaby

I am highly educated and successful, good looking, tall, etc

You seem to have forgotten what you wrote on your first post...

Last, most women don't even look at you unless you look like a model.

Candyapple

Gulash wrote: »

!!!!!!, I offer the same and more! I am highly educated and successful, good looking, tall, etc. Your assumptions are ridiculous. The only barriers that prevent me from meeting interesting girls are objective barriers, like the high percentage of single mums, etc, and the subjective barriers within the heads of many women, like 'oh he doesn't have a pic with friends, so he is a serial killer'!

From your other posts on this thread I gather you are in your early 30s and also from another country? Have you tried other more specific dating sites such as JDate (Jewish dating site) Shaadi.com, Muslim Matrimonials (Asian dating sites) etc?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and what do you class as tall? Some men think 5'9 is tall. Some women think anything below 6'2 is not tall. It's all subjective.

Being highly educated and successful is by no means a guarantee of having a relationship with someone, you may have the personality of a dead fish or no charisma or charm. Women will always outnumber men on dating sites so you are in competition with many others. You even stated yourself you don't have a clear pic of yourself on the dating site, why not begin with that?

Gavin83

Gulash wrote: »

!!!!!!, I offer the same and more! I am highly educated and successful, good looking, tall, etc. Your assumptions are ridiculous. The only barriers that prevent me from meeting interesting girls are objective barriers, like the high percentage of single mums, etc, and the subjective barriers within the heads of many women, like 'oh he doesn't have a pic with friends, so he is a serial killer'!

Wait, in your first post you state women only look for attractive men so I assumed you were saying you were 'average' and it seems many other people had the same assumptions too.

The arrogance of your post is remarkable. Of course the fact you haven't met a partner yet is down to everyone else in the World but you. I'd suggest it has nothing to do with not having 'pics with friends'. Your really not coming across well on here at all. If even a slight amount of what you've demostrated on here is reflected in your online dating profile or real life interactions I'd suggest that has something to do with the struggle you face.

I'm sure you'll ignore this though so I wish you the best of luck.