How well do you know your partner?

Spendless

My husband's sister is a schoolfriend I've known since we were 15, so when I met up with her brother again when I was in my 30s and we were married and had a child within 3 years, I thought I knew most things about him.

When our eldest was around 9, I noticed that he was going through no end of shoes. I even started a thread on here about it! One day grumbling to a RL friend, she saw DS barefoot in the garden and said that he looked flat-footed to her, sure enough he was and he needed insoles. This was the cause of how many shoes he was going through as his feet hadn't been supported. On telling DH, he announced 'Oh, I'm flat footed too' :doh::mad: He'd never mentioned it even after me going on about DS's footwear. We'd been married 10 years at that point.

tea_lover

OP, do you know what a metaphor is? Doesn't sound like it!

MacMickster

AubreyMac wrote: »

I don't believe I gave away anything that is identifiable. I'm not concerned anyway as I've already suggested that it could have been a metaphor to generate this discussion thread. But I do understand about being suspicious of someone, I post on a couple of other message forums and have recognised a couple of other posters (and I know it's definitely them) but this is a separate topic perhaps.

I knew my last partners shoe and trouser size but that coz I mainly did the laundry. There were some stuff that I didn't know until later on as he withheld it due to being ashamed, and it actually only came out by someone else talking about it (whom didn't know it was meant to be a secret). However, that was a big thing and I understand his reasons for being ashamed. I did know of other stuff like holidays he went to and pets he had and what footie team he support. I may not have known what exactly he did in his job day to day but I knew the company he worked for and which office.

Either you came on here to start a thread about how weird you found something that didn't actually happen, or else you shared part of a confidential professional conversation with the internet.

One is particularly weird in itself whilst the other is downright unprofessional to the point of gross misconduct.

You clearly aren't going to remove that confidential information from your posts. I hope, for their sakes - not yours, that your clients don't come across it. You need to find another job as you clearly have no understanding of the concept of confidentiality.

tea_lover

Or any understanding of how important the adoption process is.

I'm truly astounded by this thread. I'm hoping it's all a weird figment of your imagination OP, because the alternative is that you're involved in making the most important decisions in people's lives and that is just scary given how utterly unprofessional you are.