Relationship issues

trolleyrun

The dog issue would be a dealbreaker for me. His dog ran away and he can't be bothered to look for it? Not acceptable. In contrast, my dog went missing last year and I was out looking for her all hours until she was found, I put up posters everywhere and sent her viral on social networks.

The jealousy and constant questioning would also be a dealbreaker for me. I've been in the situation before and it was exhausting! Why is he with you if he doesn't feel he can trust you? Why are you with him and putting up with the questions and tantrums?

The pain-pen thing was not funny and you shouldn't have done it. I don't know what such an item is but I really don't understand why you'd have one or "pretend" to use one, especially in public.

On the issue of getting him into your mum's house, you know he's introvert and shy so why force him in to parade him around to introduce himself?

A relationship (in my opinion) should be loving, caring and respectful. It needs trust from both sides. This early on it shouldn't be so hard. You're supposed to still be in the honeymoon stage with rose tinted glasses, butterflies in your tummy and a cheesy grin on your face. The two of you don't seem compatible and for what it's worth I think you should at least consider cutting your losses and run in the opposite direction.

Pollycat

awolo1 wrote: »

I'm starting to take no notice of your comments, it was not an electric shock pen. See previous responses.

Do bear in mind that I posted my "Wow! That's nasty" comment in reply to redacted's link to Amazon at exactly the same time as you posted your confirmation that it was a pain relief pen (11:45).

Did your boyfriend have a pain in his neck at the time you tried to use this 'pain pen' on him?

If he didn't, maybe you could explain why you tried to use the pen on him - and if he knew what it was.

Gigervamp

Product Description

If you are like most people and need the gratification of seeing your victim actually being shocked, I have some useful suggestions. Ask your friend for their address and hand them a piece of paper and the shock pen. The next time you are at the doctor's office signing in, replace their standard pen with your shocking pen and watch the next patient get a hell of a rude awakening. Perhaps the most comedic use of the shocking pen would be to replace the pen being used at a wedding registry with your faux shocker after you have signed your name or better yet, how about replacing the registry pen at a funeral showing. Talk about instant classic prank! Please be aware Not advised for elderly people, people with pacemakers and pregnant ladies.

So, it suggest using it at the doctors, where the elderly, those with pacemakers AND pregnant women are likely to be.

prosaver

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prosaver

No he had the other pen

BigAunty

I think the pen isn't the main issue (even if it is supposed to show some kind of mutual antagonism or abuse).

The main issue is the OP has found themselves another charmless, anti social and cruel boyfriend.

I understand that shyness can be mistaken for rudeness but I think avoiding meeting the father (for whatever reason, rudeness or psychological issues) is a big no-no.

Yes, there may be cultural factors at work that can cause relationship issues but the guy seems a bit charmless, whether that is from cultural conditioning, I couldn't tell you....

BigAunty

awolo1 wrote: »

. He is 30 if that helps.

Doesn't help....

prosaver

BigAunty wrote: »

I think the pen isn't the main issue (even if it is supposed to show some kind of mutual antagonism or abuse).

The main issue is the OP has found themselves another charmless, anti social and cruel boyfriend.

I understand that shyness can be mistaken for rudeness but I think avoiding meeting the father (for whatever reason, rudeness or psychological issues) is a big no-no.

Yes, there may be cultural factors at work that can cause relationship issues but the guy seems a bit charmless, whether that is from cultural conditioning, I couldn't tell you....

Well the germans are a biit miserable too

Pollycat

prosaver wrote: »

No he had the other pen

We know that now but we didn't until links to both pens had been posted and the OP confirmed which one it was.
From the OP's first post, it could have been either:

awolo1 wrote: »

We were walking to the local town center once to get some breakfast, and I touched him on the neck with a 'pain pen' (it emits an electric shock), before I had even pressed the button, he got me by the arm - dug his nails into my wrist and caused them to bleed and bruise. His reaction was completely over the top.

One is called 'Pain relief pen pain gone', the other is called 'Electric shock pen'.

Out,_Vile_Jelly

If you have to go on the internet to ask complete strangers about your relationship, then that would seem to be a clear sign that there's something wrong with it.