Women who keep their married name YEARS after the divorce.

Pollycat

LameWolf wrote: »

From a purely practical point of view, an ex-wife who has an atrocious credit record retaining her ex-husband's fairly unusual surname makes it very awkward for a second wife who is debt-phobic but has the same initial as the ex when the banks get the two of them mixed up.

Did this really happen or are you just worried it might?

Unusual surname?

I can sort-of understand a mix up between 2 Mary Smiths, but less so with 2 Mary Winklepickers (or whatever).

balletshoes

LameWolf wrote: »

From a purely practical point of view, an ex-wife who has an atrocious credit record retaining her ex-husband's fairly unusual surname makes it very awkward for a second wife who is debt-phobic but has the same initial as the ex when the banks get the two of them mixed up.

but thats not how credit works.

TBagpuss

LameWolf wrote: »

From a purely practical point of view, an ex-wife who has an atrocious credit record retaining her ex-husband's fairly unusual surname makes it very awkward for a second wife who is debt-phobic but has the same initial as the ex when the banks get the two of them mixed up.

Well, it would be open to the new wife to chose not to take her husband's name. If *she* is the one for whom it is an issue then she has the option of taking action about it.

coolcait

Mojisola wrote: »

Why wouldn't they use Ms for all female correspondents?

They don't label male correspondents as married or single so why should they make that distinction for women?

My point was more directed towards the newspaper's need to put any label at all on the correspondents.


If correspondents are happy to sign their letters with simply their name, why should the newspaper feel the need to add any label to it?


You'd think they'd have learnt their lesson after the 'Mr Cameron Diaz' and 'Ms Vivian Richards' incidents! [names changed of course]

coolcait

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I accept that but surely, even in Scotland, you hear the title Ms used when referring to female politicians etc on the television?

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The only politician that I can remember being introduced with a title was the Reverend Ian Paisley!

I honestly don't remember any female politicians being introduced as 'Mrs', or 'Ms' or 'Miss'.

I remember them being introduced by their job title, or 'status' within the House of Commons - Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher; Labour backbencher Clare Short; Speaker of the House of commons Betty Boothroyd.

The same thing that happened in my work arena - "This is Jemima Bloggs, Job Title, Department/Company".

The only reason I ever knew whether colleagues/clients/etc were (in alphabetical order) Miss, Mrs or Ms was due to checking their preference, to make sure that we addressed correspondence correctly!

Lunar_Eclipse

There are lots of reasons.

For famous people, it's probably essentially for financial reasons.

For others it could be emotional, preferring the name, wanting to keep the same name as children, what they're used to. Lots of good reasons. I would probably keep my married name if I got divorced. It's who I am now, having been this surname for almost as long as my maiden one, most of which was as a child. I also probably prefer it, couldn't be bothered with the hassle and have kids.

mumps

Do widows ever revert to maiden name? Or stop using Mrs?

notanewuser

lush_walrus wrote: »

Nice try at deflection where an answer is not there. I have read the thread and have not found an example of a woman who feels an inequality in their current or past relationship I have however seen a lot of shouting down of women by women of those not sharing the same view.

Not sure if this is what you meant but I have an examples:

I had a job interview whilst newly engaged. I attended without my engagement ring because "engaged female in mid-20s" screams "maternity leave" to [STRIKE]most[/STRIKE] some employers and at that point in my life I had no intention of having children. Men don't generally wear engagement rings so this was me feeling uncomfortable about my relationship status as a female. I doubt a male candidate would need to think about this at all because employers don't generally make assumptions about male candidates' relationship status or potential fatherhood.

notanewuser

mumps wrote: »

Do widows ever revert to maiden name? Or stop using Mrs?

It's only this year that my nan started having bills addressed to her rather than my grandad. He died 20 years ago.

TBagpuss

mumps wrote: »

Do widows ever revert to maiden name? Or stop using Mrs?

Yes. I know one woman who was widowed after a fairly short marriage. She went back to her maiden name as it felt more 'her'.

It's less likely, I think, as in most cases a widow is less likley to have unhappy associations with the name than someone who is divorcing, in many cases may have had the name for much longer, or may feel loyaty to their late husband.

But there is nothing to stop a widow using whatever title or surname she wishes.