Urgent help - very worried

Becles

shellsuit wrote: »

They have written to my ex and told him to pay £11.67 arrears and it will all be clear.

On the same day that letter was sent to him, another one arrived saying he had to pay £2447 in arrears.

That's what we got one day. 2 letters - one saying he owed £8.04 arrears and another saying he owed £4414.62

It's been 4 months of hell. We've had to fight hard to get them to remove 2 years worth of charges that were added after the claim ended, which reduced the amount we had to pay considerably. Plus we've had endless calls threatening balliffs and stuff. I'm just glad it's all over now and we never have to deal with them ever again.

Strapped

Becles wrote: »

Strapped - I asked for help and advice regarding a problem with the CSA. I never asked for opinions on my husbands character

If you have nothing helpful to say about the CSA, I'd be grateful if you didn't say anything.

I obviously touched a raw nerve, sorry. But if you read back through this thread, you'll see that I am not the only one who has suggested that perhaps your hubby might not have paid all those years that he told you he did. Maybe you'd like to jump down their throats too. You say it's a problem with the CSA, yes, in all likelihood it IS, as they often make mistakes, but for your own peace of mind, I think that you should consider that maybe, just maybe, the reason your hubby doesn't want to pursue it is because he's worried that, actually, he IS in genuine arrears.

Becles

I don't need "peace of mind". I know my husband far better than you do and I trust that he is not a liar.

As I said before, I would be grateful if you could keep your nasty opinion of him to yourself. Your posts are not helpful and not welcome.

Strapped

NAR wrote: »

But why if it is wrong? Go to the post office where the payments were made and speak to the manager - ask him how to track the slips and let him know that you are aware they have to keep all slips for 6 years before destroying them.
Or has hubby perhaps been fibbing to you?

NAR

Becles did you ever hear any more regarding the very rude member of staff you reported?

pandas66

kelloggs36 wrote: »

You have taken out a loan, so you are still in debt - this debt is absolute now because you have borrowed from somebody else, AND you are paying interest on it. If there is a chance that you can get this back, you would be crazy to just let it go! You could even argue that due to CSA error (once it is all sorted out and if proved that the debt does not exist) you have been forced into this situation and ask for the CSA to cover all costs of the loan interest. Had they done it properly you wouldn't have taken out the loan and so wouldn't be paying the debt - do you see what we are saying? Beccles, I urge you to fight this all the way. Even if you lose and you DID owe the debt, at least you know that you did EVERYTHING to ensure that the case is correct and you paid knowing that you did owe it.

This is brill advice...........for after Christmas.

I would get it resolved, but in Jan. If it were me it wouldf niggle at me whether I had paid the debt twice, but also I would let it all go for now and get on with your Christmas plans for your new family.......xx


*then in Jan I'd kick !!!*

Poppy9

Beccles,

If you can get free legal advice, either due to low income or as part of your home insurance legal cover, then hand all the information over to a solicitor and leave them to fight the CSA.

If your OH has paid then it's wrong to draw a line under it. Unless someone takes a stand and makes them sort it out they will continue to behave in this manner. You may think it's the end of it but from your posting it seems there is nothing to stop them having a rethink and writing to you with a new figure.

Get tough with your OH. Tell him this is a problem for you both as a couple and you are not happy to let it go as you feel robbed. If he respects you he will consider resolving the situation properly not just giving into their bullying.

Becles

NAR wrote: »

Becles did you ever hear any more regarding the very rude member of staff you reported?

Yes - apparantly they investigated, but unfortunately the tape with that call on couldn't be found :rolleyes:

Thanks panda - we are looking forward to Christmas very much. It's baby's first Christmas and she's just at the age where she's looking around and taking everything in, so she should find it all very exciting :cool:

NAR

Becles wrote: »

Yes - apparantly they investigated, but unfortunately the tape with that call on couldn't be found :rolleyes:

How convenient! :mad: Still hardly suprising as they seem to be so good at losing information. :rolleyes:

pandas66

Becles wrote: »

Yes - apparantly they investigated, but unfortunately the tape with that call on couldn't be found :rolleyes:

Thanks panda - we are looking forward to Christmas very much. It's baby's first Christmas and she's just at the age where she's looking around and taking everything in, so she should find it all very exciting :cool:

:j :j
so exciting!

my other advice still stands. They are inept but its still your (families) money.