Husband of 40 years admitted he cross dresses

nonnatus

Hmmm, Like others have said, the Cross-Dressing wouldn't bother me in the least, it's the 40+ years of lies that would kill me. That can't be justified, especially as Les was revealing his "other side" to Claudette on week long holidays abroad etc. Totally out of order!

Now it seems the wife wants to meet Christine (which means we are all going to be TREATED to the sight of Les Coker in drag....:o)
Not sure I can watch!

Skintski

We saw it last night. He looks like Audrey Roberts from Corrie Lol.

VeGGie-STyLe

Skintski wrote: »

We saw it last night. He looks like Audrey Roberts from Corrie Lol.

Noooo, it's absolutely definitely Ruth Langford!!

Torry_Quine

:rotfl:He didn't look too bad!

Scrapaholic

I thought he looked ok , I've seen worse . After 40 years together I'd be upset that he'd confided in someone else . He might well still be the same person but it'd take some getting over that he'd kept it from her all that time . DH and I have been together over 40 years and I'd find it hard to accept f he wanted to wear women's clothes . There was a cross dresser in Coronation St. a few years ago . Audrey's friend , she couldn't accept it .

moneyistooshorttomention

VeGGie-STyLe wrote: »

I'd say that's fine... but you can move out now.

ETA: we can still be friends.

Ditto.

Logically and rationally - then I think "What difference does it make?".

Emotionally though - and "Yuk:eek:". My reaction would be very much "I wanted a man - so I married a man and errrrm....."

Add the fact that my mind would then come back into the equation, after my emotions had gone "Yuk" and think "I don't agree logically with being deceived - and I have been deceived in a pretty major way".

End result would be = mind and emotions in agreement that deception was "not on" and I tend to think I would probably keep him as a friend - but certainly wouldn't keep him as a husband (not after the initial "Gotta be liberal/it is the 21st century" type thoughts of possibly trying to - which I anticipate would only last a few weeks).

Voice of (some level of) experience of being "on receiving end" here. That "liberal" voice in head did only last a pretty short time before I just did not feel comfortable with it.

PuzzledDave

I guess some of these responses show why someone might want to keep the secret when the spouse of multiple decades, who promised to love and support "till death do us part" them drops them like a hot potato and pushes them out of their home for wanting to play dress up.

moneyistooshorttomention

I follow the logic on that. But that's assuming you've married the person you thought you had iyswim.

Another case would be where I might, for instance, have married a man that I thought was generally a decent, upright, honest sort of person and believed him when he said his income came from a career. Then to find out that he wasn't actually like that at all - he was pretty darn dishonest and his income had come from being a criminal.

In that case its a sort of moral Trades Description Act - that you married one person (you thought) - but got another very different person instead iyswim.

Rather like buying a harp - but getting given an accordion instead.

So - no condemnation implied here - but just the fact that someone had married a very different person to what they thought they married.

I believe people should share all major facts about themselves BEFORE they get married. If the other person then chooses to go ahead and marry them knowing those Major Facts (whatever they happen to be) then they've gone ahead in full knowledge and it should be "till death do us part".

mumps

It wouldn't bother me if he was doing it in private. I can't help thinking that my husband dressed as a woman wouldn't look very convincing and I think I would find it a bit embarrassing to go out like that but in the house, who cares? He certainly has never objected to me wearing trousers. I did have a very nicely tailored pinstripe trouser suit back in the late 60s and it never put the boys off in fact if memory serves me correctly I got quite alot of attention in it.

I do remember seeing Marlene Dietrich when I was a child, she seemed to be incredibly feminine when dressed in very masculine suits but I do think it is hard for most men to carry it off as well.

Nenen

I guess from Grayson Perry's openness that his wife has always known that he likes to dress as Claire sometimes. The fact that Grayson is so open about it suggests his wife accepts him as he is.