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fairclaire wrote: »

people should talk more about cancer. I have it as one in three of us will do in the future. it needs to be talked about and addressed. it's not a nice subject but neither is people avoiding you because you have it.

I've posted on here because I dont want to answer PMs and it be hidden. I've got incurable blood cancer. I'm going to die from it unless AAU gets me in his double decker bus first :eek:

As I've said to a very good friend tonight. Problems are only big if they are affecting your life....whatever they may be. life is too short to please other people.

Hello fairclaire,
As i told you in my PM, i was diagnosed with cancer in 2012.
I had Stage 3b and was given a 30% chance of survival, i've been in remission for 3 years next month but i know it can return at any time which is highly likely for me.
I hope your treatment works well and gives you many more happy years with your family.

I don't think people avoid talking to people with cancer, i think it's because they don't know what to say, plus they don't want to upset you. I find it hard talking to my partner and family about my cancer because i don't want to upset them.

Goodluck (probably wrong word to use) with Chemo, just ask if you want to know anything and i'll answer if i can.

Best Wishes to you and your family x

Tinyshoes

fairclaire wrote: »

not sure I've had enough anti bacterial handwashes to accept any of your dodgy stuff

TS packs her anti bac gel in her handbag for when she meets PD at IDH she knows some of her cakes can be dodgy.

fairclaire

purpledonkey wrote: »

I think you're thinking of Dotty

I'm perfectly clean, well on the outside at least.

So naughty

I wouldn't have you any other way :rotfl:

I'm off to Scotland tomorrow. I spent the whole day on the phone today getting a regiment to turn up for a funeral. it should be spectacular. A man who looked after the teenage me whilst my Dad was on tour and lived to tell the tale deserves it :A

fairclaire

tornado wrote: »

Hello fairclaire,
As i told you in my PM, i was diagnosed with cancer in 2012.
I had Stage 3b and was given a 30% chance of survival, i've been in remission for 3 years next month but i know it can return at any time which is highly likely for me.
I hope your treatment works well and gives you many more happy years with your family.

I don't think people avoid talking to people with cancer, i think it's because they don't know what to say, plus they don't want to upset you. I find it hard talking to my partner and family about my cancer because i don't want to upset them.

Goodluck (probably wrong word to use) with Chemo, just ask if you want to know anything and i'll answer if i can.

Best Wishes to you and your family x

thank you :A

I like this post because you are so candid about it.

I'll be honest, I got overwhelmed by the PMs and I gnored them. it seemed easier. I've had a couple of good friends that keep me laughing and I'm mighty grateful for them. they get my sense of humour which hasn't left me. onwards and upwards.

We should never tell people what they can and can't post on here. that's not a dig. it's just saying don't shut people up because they might need a particular branch of the tree

altojack

People need to be educated about cancer that's for sure. But you are all right when you say about people just walking on by. That's not my style. Some folk just don't know what to say, or don't want to say in case of causing upset. It's the same when someone dies. When mum went lots of folks I know avoided me and U thought of them as friends. Turns out they didn't want to make me cry. Thanks. I cried anyway.

FC it is good that you have come out so to speak, all the PMs help to a degree but I guess getting your own head around it before to tell all is what you needed to do. I'm pleased that my small part may have been of some help.

I know you will succeed with setting up a proper group, you have the strength and wherewithal to do it. You certainly are a fighter and can get through what this going to involve. Good luck with the group.

You are also upfront, and determined, strong willed too so these things will help you the treatment and fight this cancer. Now you have the Elite on board too to offer up prayers and loving thoughts to you.

Please get plenty of rest though as you need your strength to go through this gruelling treatment sweetheart. Your in my thoughts and prayers tonight x

fairclaire

altojack wrote: »

People need to be educated about cancer that's for sure. But you are all right when you say about people just walking on by. That's not my style. Some folk just don't know what to say, or don't want to say in case of causing upset. It's the same when someone dies. When mum went lots of folks I know avoided me and U thought of them as friends. Turns out they didn't want to make me cry. Thanks. I cried anyway.

FC it is good that you have come out so to speak, all the PMs help to a degree but I guess getting your own head around it before to tell all is what you needed to do. I'm pleased that my small part may have been of some help.

I know you will succeed with setting up a proper group, you have the strength and wherewithal to do it. You certainly are a fighter and can get through what this going to involve. Good luck with the group.

You are also upfront, and determined, strong willed too so these things will help you the treatment and fight this cancer. Now you have the Elite on board too to offer up prayers and loving thoughts to you.

Please get plenty of rest though as you need your strength to go through this gruelling treatment sweetheart. Your in my thoughts and prayers tonight x

bless you. you have been there and been quiet about it.you reached out to me when you were suffering yourself. I haven't forgotten

ok it's getting a bit lovey here now :eek:

Moff to Scotland to give an old soldier a good Send off tomorrow. no more going go bed at 9pm with a sherry glass full of wine in me. :eek:

RIP MAC I'm going to give you the best send off ever

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fairclaire wrote: »

thank you :A

I like this post because you are so candid about it.

I'll be honest, I got overwhelmed by the PMs and I gnored them. it seemed easier. I've had a couple of good friends that keep me laughing and I'm mighty grateful for them. they get my sense of humour which hasn't left me. onwards and upwards.

We should never tell people what they can and can't post on here. that's not a dig. it's just saying don't shut people up because they might need a particular branch of the tree

I understand what you're saying, just don't like stirrers.
I'm a bit like you, i say what i think, it's a good job i don't post on here, if i did i would probably have been banned ages ago, lol.

Anyway, back to lurking for me.
If i can be of any help then please let me know.
Take care x

northerngeezer

fairclaire wrote: »

people should talk more about cancer. I have it as one in three of us will do in the future. it needs to be talked about and addressed. it's not a nice subject but neither is people avoiding you because you have it.

I've posted on here because I dont want to answer PMs and it be hidden. I've got incurable blood cancer. I'm going to die from it unless AAU gets me in his double decker bus first :eek:

As I've said to a very good friend tonight. Problems are only big if they are affecting your life....whatever they may be. life is too short to please other people.

So sorry to hear about your cancer. Hope your treatment is successful and that you have many more years of glitches.

I have come to terms with my cancer and am currently on chemotherapy. I have my good and bad days but I am determined to beat it.

If ever you need a chat you are welcome to pm me.

May God bless you.

purpledonkey

Tinyshoes wrote: »

TS packs her anti bac gel in her handbag for when she meets PD at IDH she knows some of her cakes can be dodgy.

There was me thinking it's for when dirty security guards man handle you out of the door

Must go to bed and stop looking at flights Toodles :wave:

rose28454

fairclaire wrote: »

people should talk more about cancer. I have it as one in three of us will do in the future. it needs to be talked about and addressed. it's not a nice subject but neither is people avoiding you because you have it.

I've posted on here because I dont want to answer PMs and it be hidden. I've got incurable blood cancer. I'm going to die from it unless AAU gets me in his double decker bus first :eek:

As I've said to a very good friend tonight. Problems are only big if they are affecting your life....whatever they may be. life is too short to please other people.

Sorry to hear your news. Be strong and fight on. Hope the family are all well