Christmas present - fair or not?

Homeownertobe

duchy wrote: »

So you as a couple tell them right back it's like the three musketeers - All or none.

Your partner sounds a bit of a wimp - more scared of his Mum and sister than the wellbeing of his wife and child.

Play is advertised as not suitable for under 5's -I suggest you *tell* them your son doesn't go to shows that are inappropriate for his age and they can like it or lump it.

If granny wanted to teach him fireeating and "told" you she was doing it.....would you let her ?

Wellbeing? Going to a play. Seriously? I have to say it's my experience that once children are removed from over-attached parents that they can begin to enjoy themselves and soon get over the alleged fear they have.

My goodness...

FBaby

Your partner sounds a bit of a wimp - more scared of his Mum and sister than the wellbeing of his wife and child.

Or he doesn't feel that it is worth a fall-out over. I get the feeling that he feels stuck in the middle. He doesn't mind taking DS (and probably believes that he can comfort DS as well as OP), and thinks that OP should make the best of having the day for himself. He probably would rather not go and that it didn't upset OP, but in the end, considers that one day is not worth a potential argument and bad feeling for many days to come.

Families do things that are annoying and upsetting, but then they also do things that no-one else would do for us. Sometimes you just have to grind your teeth. Just in a middle of it myself, wish I could scream at DH's family over something they agreed not thinking of the impact it would have on me, but it is not worth starting ww3 over, I'll just get on with it and then forget about it.

duchy

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Wellbeing? Going to a play. Seriously? I have to say it's my experience that once children are removed from over-attached parents that they can begin to enjoy themselves and soon get over the alleged fear they have.

My goodness...

Most responsible parents don't deliberately expose their children to non age appropriate activities. The theatre has advertised the show as unsuitable for under fives . Whether age inappropriate is n a children's show that might give them nightmares at four or a violent or sexually explicit movie with an 18 certificate that isn't suitable for a ten year old - the principle is the same -It is a parent who decides what their children watches and they shoudn't be railroaded by anyone grandparent , sister or otherwise.

That isn't over protectiveness as you imply -it's basic parental responsibility.

pinkshoes

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Wellbeing? Going to a play. Seriously? I have to say it's my experience that once children are removed from over-attached parents that they can begin to enjoy themselves and soon get over the alleged fear they have.

My goodness...

Over attached parent??? Lol!

My son is free to try things that he wants to, and I actively encourage him to be "brave" and have a go at things he hasn't done before!!

My son is more cautious than me though when it comes to bravery, so when I know something is going to frighten him, I support him. I am aware he will find the panto frightening, and although I know he will enjoy bits of it, I want to be there for him for the frightening bits so I can explain what is happening. He is a mummy's boy, always has been, and not much I can do to change that!!

I am certainly not an over attached parent - quite the opposite!

sheramber

You and DS don't have to go just because your SIL buys tickets for you.

Let DH go himself. Let her waste her money on tickets that are not wanted.

Unless you are prepared to stand your ground you will always be doing what 'they' want.