I Think She Has Munchausen's Syndrome?

clarryd

Maybe she is just an over panicking first time mother. When you have the responsibility of a child and never done anything like this befor, it is very overwhelming and scary. Give her some help, maybe ask her if she is okay or offer to take the child for a few hour, so she can have a relaxing bath or some sleep.

If all fails speak to your husband and get him to have a word with his son.

Mojisola

clarryd wrote: »

Maybe she is just an over panicking first time mother. When you have the responsibility of a child and never done anything like this befor, it is very overwhelming and scary.

If this child is now three, the mother shouldn't still be panicking over every little thing.

RuthnJasper

bluelass wrote: »

Oh very funny Spinkz. One when he does go round its only for very short periods of time and his son is mostly there. And he is 54 im 37 therefore 17 years his junior and I look about 30 and im a size 12 and well groomed. She is 32 but looks nearer mid 40s is over 20 stone (wears size 30 clothes) and always wears tracksuits (even to work) hair scraped back and never wears makeup. My hub thinks she looks common so he would not even go there. She is Vicky pollard type whereas im more pippa middleton if that helps.

This young lady is the one with whom your husband's son has chosen to build his life. Not only that, she is the mother of your husband's grandson. If things come to a head then who do you think will claim his natural loyalty?

Pippa Middleton is a complete airhead (c/f her book on having parties: "If you are having a sack-race, you will need a sack for each person; the winner is the person who crosses the line first.") but at least she has class and dignity.

I am sorry Bluelass, but your attitude disgusts me.

Laconic

They do say that 'he who would hang his dog first gives out that it is mad'. Why do you want this lady hanged so badly, Bluelass?

GlasweJen

This doesn't sound like Munchausens, my mum was accused of using me as a proxy for munchausens and 15 years later (and a heart transplant) we are still waiting for an apology.

Munchausens involves attending lots of doctors and hospitals with medical complaints that can't be proved. Often the proxy (if there is one) will be subjected to lots of medical tests and procedures (sometimes even exploratory surgeries) without any positive results. The symptoms will only occur when the proxy is with the sufferer and other members of the family will often not ever see the proxy being ill but will back up the sufferer as who would lie about a sick child?

In my case it was that the hospital doctor had assumed I had X condition and when all the results were negative he decided it was a weird combination of my mum having a hysterectomy and me having middle child syndrome. Our GP suggested a test that the hospital refused until he said he had personally seen a seizure and that the school had documented multiple seizures in front of multiple different people, got referred to the correct department and bam, suddenly I was a heart patient with a caring mum.

If I had to make a guess at what was going on with your daughter in law. I'd say she's insecure, feels unsupported and has sky high levels of anxiety because even her partner isn't supportive and she has to rely on her father in law who has a toxic wife who does nothing but criticise her, making her anxiety worse and it goes round in circles.

My advice? Back off, tell your step son to support his wife and get her to a doctor for some advice and support. Little one is still young enough for your daughter in law to have a health visitor so encourage your husband to get your daughter in law to contact the health visitor and then step back.

Indie_Kid

My mum, too, was accused of making up some allegations of ill health with me. She said for many years (I don't remember this at all - apart from once waking up at 4am to vomit and go back to bed) that she'd come in of a morning to discover that I'd vomited at some point during the night. She would constantly take me to the doctors because I'd fall over a lot and the doctors would always say it was down to my eyesight.

We discovered by accident that my mum was actually right some years later - there was something seriously wrong. Someone had written in my notes that I have epilepsy. But had neglected to tell my parents about it. The neurologist (who we were seeing for an unrelated problem) was rather stunned that we weren't aware of this.

We've enver received an apology for the mistakes made. But this was the same people who managed to miss the fact that Ive got part of my brain missing too.

I've been following this thread. You sound really awful. Maybe instead of slagging her off, you should support her?

GlasweJen

Indiekid I found out I have cysts on my brain the same way, a GP let it slip years after the scan that we were told was clear!

pebbles88

Thankfully, the 'nutty' post has been removed by the forum team

Andypandyboy

Person_one wrote: »

:rotfl:

That's the funniest thing I've read on here in ages.

A clue, it doesn't help.

Well it does, but not in quite the way the poster hoped it would.:D

OP you are coming across as quite nasty. If you have the opinion of the girl that comes across on here it is very likely she is aware of it, that your "hub" is aware of it and that your step son is aware of it. My guess is they also have opinions of you which would not fit the flattering, self agrandising, pippa middleton description.

She may very well be ill, stressed or just not coping well as a first time new mum. To be frank, she doesn't need you adding to the stress by accusing her of having Muchausens by Proxy. Stay out of it, let your son turn to his father as he is doing and let her turn to her mother. It is actually none of your business.

lemonpopcorn

OP your unfounded arrogance that your hubby wouldn't be having an affair with your DIL based solely on her appearance and your hubby's description of her to you just makes me shake my head.

If your hubby is having an affair with her, one sure fire way to throw you off the scent would be to be nasty about her.

If your hubby is having an affair with her, maybe your vile attitude in general turns him off regardless of how wonderful you feel you look.

however back to the DIL, hopefully she can get some understanding and support from the GP cos there seems to be a lot lacking from anyone associated with her at this time.

As for your presumption about her mental health, again very arrogant and misinformed.

I sincerely hope your DIL isn't having an affair with your hubby, not for his sake but for hers and the child involved in all this.