I Think She Has Munchausen's Syndrome?

moomoomama27

If you are worried, and you have witnessed this type of behaviour and believe this child is at risk, then you should report it to the relevant agencies.

If you just dislike this person and disagree with her lifestyle choices, then you need to distance yourself away from the situation, and to put it bluntly, mind your business.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Sounds like she's desperate to give up work and stay at home with the little one. Whether that's due to missing her child, being incredibly broody, an unpleasant atmosphere/workplace stress or bullying or mental illness, I have no idea; I wouldn't automatically assume it's due to MBP, though.

bluelass

No im not making this up. No im not being awful and I don't dislike her but this isn't natural is it. We all have our anxieties and insecurities I certainly have even more so since I lost my mum earlier this year. But what if like another poster has said if she accuses a childminder or nursery staff of abuse? That could ruin a person's life not just job prospects and not every nursery or child minder she has used can be at fault. Please tell me what nursery in the right mind would allow a 10 month old baby to play with a can of shaving foam alone in a cot? even my hubby thought it sounded strange. Come on now its a aerosol if he had been hurt the place would have been in very serious trouble and for what? And she has posted comments about these 2 nurseries online in their comments section giving fictitious accounts. The first one replied and asked her to remove the comments which she hasn't done she is at risk of being done for libel.

bluelass

BBH123 wrote: »

I'm not one of those who thinks mind your own business or don't interfere . From what you say and as long as you are sure you are giving a factual account of things I think that the actions of this lady are worrying and for the little boys sake something should be done.

At the very least he is being pushed from pillar to post with numerous changes of nursery and that cannot be good for the emotional
Security of a small child.

Personally I would call a family summit with the four adults involved and including your SIL who needs to step up.

I think you need to openly discuss your concerns and state your husband cannot be at the beck n call of this lady having to constantly be in touch with the nursery . Maybe this lady enjoys the attention from your husband because her own sees through her.

If you do not have a clear way forward ( there can't be something wrong with every one of these nurseries) then yes I would raise my concerns, probably get some guidance from the family doctor, and if something untoward does happen there is a record of it.

The worst thing ever would be her falsely accusing some innocent party of abusing her son or her herself putting hazardous items in his reach .

She is clearly struggling and for the boys sake someone has to offer her any support she needs whilst balancing the needs of the boy.

I would be very upset if a innocent person got put out of work or worse have their life ruined if she accused them of abuse. At least someone on here see's my point of view.Why would child minders give a baby a can of foam to play with ? or leave him soaking and not the other children.

LilElvis

bluelass wrote: »

No im not making this up. No im not being awful and I don't dislike her but this isn't natural is it. We all have our anxieties and insecurities I certainly have even more so since I lost my mum earlier this year. But what if like another poster has said if she accuses a childminder or nursery staff of abuse? That could ruin a person's life not just job prospects and not every nursery or child minder she has used can be at fault. Please tell me what nursery in the right mind would allow a 10 month old baby to play with a can of shaving foam alone in a cot? even my hubby thought it sounded strange. Come on now its a aerosol if he had been hurt the place would have been in very serious trouble and for what? And she has posted comments about these 2 nurseries online in their comments section giving fictitious accounts. The first one replied and asked her to remove the comments which she hasn't done she is at risk of being done for libel.

Why are you raising this now? This incident happened two years ago, not two days ago.

Mojisola

BBH123 wrote: »

Personally I would call a family summit with the four adults involved and including your SIL who needs to step up.

I can't imagine that the son and DIL would be willing to attend such a meeting.

duchy

I was thinking you were probably retired with too much time on your hands however I see you are 37 and obsessed with your step son's partner and resent all sorts of things about her-including eating chocolate !!!

As you are only thirty seven it's unlikely you had much involvement with your stepson growing up and perhaps some of your resentments are down to the fact you feel she's "competition". If this is the case your husband will probably get heartilly tired of it - and may even grow to resent you if the couple get fed up with your attitude and stop seeing you so he doesn't get to see HIS grandchildren. Do you have children of your own too?

If a child had been taken to A&E for no reason eight times social services would be involved so either she's winding you up or you are exagerating or mistaken. If she's starting to be a bit of an obsession with you then perhaps a bit of counseling for you might help the situation before any real damage is done.

ellesbellesxxx

Just an aside as all advice you have been given is great, shaving foam itself is used as a sensory activity to sculpt, play with etc... However children wouldn't use the can, it would be set up for them. I agree that they wouldn't be left in a cot with it!

Pollycat

bluelass wrote: »

The boy in three next month and his father is my hubby's son I am not his natural mother. I think my hubs son is fed up to be honest. Every time she says something to us the boys father repeats a different version to hers, my hub says he thinks she is a bit mixed up. She works 30 hours in a office type sales job and her mum does a lot of child sitting when he isn't at the nursery so she isn't without support. I think it is her mum who is wanting her to have a second child too, she seems to be over zealous herself.

This stood out to me.

Do you and your husband automatically always take your step-son's side?
Why does your husband thinks she is a bit mixed-up?
Why not his son?

DomRavioli

OP, it seems like you're the one with the mental health problem.

Leave them to live their lives and stop being the interfering step-mother in law from hell.

Your previous posts about her are filled with spite, venom and hate. I suggest you get counselling and deal with your issues before you point the finger at a young parent. Your son doesn't seem to have the problem, you and your husband do. Get a hobby that doesn't involve ripping pieces off people because you blatantly have far too much time on your hands.