Would you be annoyed/upset at this scenario in the workplace?

Counting_Pennies_2

hieveryone wrote: »

Thank you counting_pennies, I haven't been particularly upset about it, but I hope that when I get back to work it doesn't fester in me and get me really worked up :rotfl:

Next time someone is off with the cold and a card/flowers is mentioned I'm going to go ape! :rotfl::rotfl:

Much better to save going ape for something important. I would suggest responding calmly that you thought the fund had run out and the scheme been stopped. Smile sweetly and carry on.

singlestep

At schools, though this tends to be a bit more organised and almost formalised. Not for birthdays, but for other things. I work in a bigger place where there's a committee that deals with this sort of thing plus social events for staff. I think our office alerts the committee if nobody on it would automatically know.

I can totally understand why hieveryone is surprised. Not sure why this has happened. Maybe it is a combination of feeling awkward about what this the right thing to do is in her particular situation or a possible mix up/pressures of work thing.

I'd try not to dwell on it. It's easier said than done when you feel cut off when you'd usually be busy and involved in everything. There will be an explanation, even if is that it has slipped somebody's mind or lines of communication have broken down. I am positive that you are being missed, that you are valued and that everybody will be pleased to see you when you're up to going back.

I love counting_pennies ' advice

mgdavid

hieveryone wrote: »

Yes, I can't take 'holidays' as such in my workplace (term time).

The whole staff know I am off ill as cover has had to be arranged for me etc, and a few people have messaged me to see how I am.

Is pregnancy an illness?
You expect something now, *and* after the baby is born?
Amazing sense of entitlement in the world today....

Corelli

mgdavid wrote: »

Is pregnancy an illness?
You expect something now, *and* after the baby is born?
Amazing sense of entitlement in the world today....

If you'd read the thread properly you'd know that the OP has been ill enough to be in hospital. Your nastiness is misplaced.

Wishing you a speedy recovery, and an easy labour, hieveryone. Yes, I'd be hurt too at being overlooked. Hopefully there is a reasonable explanation. Whatever the reason you should find yourself far too occupied with the new baby for this worry to take a high priority in your mind. Hope so any way

C x

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I'd be worried that all was not well with the baby and very reluctant to do anything lest Mum was sent a present or card that was completely inappropriate for the situation - flowers arriving just as something awful happened, using the money put aside for baby presents for a Get Well Soon present just as the baby arrived, things like that.

I was sent a massive, beautiful arrangements of flowers when rushed to hospital with a suspected late miscarriage/threatened premature birth - there wasn't enough money in the pot (and workplace salaries were too low) to actually do anything when I eventually did leave to have DD. Being at my most mercenary, the flowers were pointless, they died whilst I was in hospital - holding on and getting me some babygros and nappies would have been far more useful.


TL;DR - they're not picking on you, they probably don't know what to do for the best. Give them a chance.

coolcait

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I'd be worried that all was not well with the baby and very reluctant to do anything lest Mum was sent a present or card that was completely inappropriate for the situation - flowers arriving just as something awful happened, using the money put aside for baby presents for a Get Well Soon present just as the baby arrived, things like that.

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That was my thought too.

gettingtheresometime

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

I'd be worried that all was not well with the baby and very reluctant to do anything lest Mum was sent a present or card that was completely inappropriate for the situation - flowers arriving just as something awful happened, using the money put aside for baby presents for a Get Well Soon present just as the baby arrived, things like that.

I was sent a massive, beautiful arrangements of flowers when rushed to hospital with a suspected late miscarriage/threatened premature birth - there wasn't enough money in the pot (and workplace salaries were too low) to actually do anything when I eventually did leave to have DD. Being at my most mercenary, the flowers were pointless, they died whilst I was in hospital - holding on and getting me some babygros and nappies would have been far more useful.


TL;DR - they're not picking on you, they probably don't know what to do for the best. Give them a chance.

This in spades.

Its our company's policy to send new parents flowers on arrival of little ones.....however with one, it was touch and go as to whether the little one would survive. Whilst it was recognised that the arrival (whether it was a case of good news or not) would be acknowledged, it was decided to wait until the situation became clearer so that nothing inappropriate was done

Wilma33

I agree that the issue is probably due to your pregnancy. When Fred is off with a broken leg it is very easy to pass a card around and for everyone to write in some light hearted comments. But when a pregnant women is in hospital people will be aware that it's a potentially sensitive situation and won't be sure what to do in case it's bad news. They are probably doing nothing for fear of doing the wrong thing!

singlestep

mgdavid wrote: »

Is pregnancy an illness?
You expect something now, *and* after the baby is born?
Amazing sense of entitlement in the world today....

Totally unnecessary comment, especially when the OP has been in hospital, has been off ill for weeks and is still signed off.

Male or female, any colleague's absence of that length is usually recognised.

It's not misplaced entitlement - it's a question of what is done in workplaces like ours, something we all contribute to in the knowledge that it might help absent colleagues feel less isolated. It's an attempt to be supportive and show that they are valued regardless of personal friendships etc.

Other posters have identified why this might not have happened (yet) this time. On past experience with my own colleagues I'd imagine they are concerned and might appreciate a quick update via somebody the OP is close to.

hieveryone

Thanks all, to be honest I didn't think that the thought may be that it's not appropriate due to pregnancy etc, which is a valid point.

Thank goodness it actually isn't anything that would risk baby, more a risk to me - but I guess I don't know exactly what staff have/haven't been told.

Thanks again all x