Would you be annoyed/upset at this scenario in the workplace?

moomoomama27

I would be annoyed too. A card saying get well costs less than a £1!

Most of these 'funds' don't specify how many times you can be ill, grieving etc, so it doesn't seem fair!

Counting_Pennies_2

While it is upsetting not to think you are being thought of, often these things slip peoples minds and then the time has moved on.


If anything I would see this as lesson learnt not to get involved in so many of the schemes as they always end up in a political minefield.


Good practice for knowing what to get involved with in the various groups that spring up relating to baby


Good luck with the birth

hieveryone

Mojisola wrote: »

Have you got a good friend among the staff who you could talk to who wouldn't make an issue of it to other people?

It could be that a card has been sent but has got lost somewhere in the post.

I wouldn't want to make an issue of it and then all-of-a-sudden receive a card and flowers out of guilt or being forced! :rotfl:

justme111 wrote: »

No I would not. I would see it as illness while pregnant specially that close to delivery can be seen as part of it and people can see it as if you were on maternity leave already as many take it a month or two before delivery.

I'm not due until the end of December, so not sure if it would be taken that I'm on maternity leave, as still have quite a while to go. But I will maybe try to think of it that way, instead of thinking I have just been left out!

singlestep wrote: »

If you're still ill enough to be signed off by a doctor, then there is no need to feel guilty, especially when you have somebody else to consider who is far more important than any job. You can't do a thing about it so stop! Your colleagues will cope, you'll be covered and it's never going to be easier for them to do so than at this time of year.

I'm being a massive hypocrite here because the first week I was to be signed off, I had such a panic attack that the GP gave me a two-week line instead of a one-week one.

Concentrate on yourself, though. Everything will be there when you're ready to go back.

Thanks singlestep, this is very true, and it has taken me this long to really get my head around it to be honest. I have never been off work in my life - so much so that I didn't even know what to do with the sick note! :rotfl:

hieveryone

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I would be annoyed too. A card saying get well costs less than a £1!

Most of these 'funds' don't specify how many times you can be ill, grieving etc, so it doesn't seem fair!

Exactly, and the funds are already there - my own money is sitting in the pot! :rotfl: maybe I will just go and purchase my own and then ask for my contribution back :rotfl:

I have worked in a few schools where there was all sorts of 'rules' about who qualified for a card/gift based on how long you had worked there and what the scenario was i.e. ill or in hospital? Big birthday or normal? etc - it was awful!

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

While it is upsetting not to think you are being thought of, often these things slip peoples minds and then the time has moved on.


If anything I would see this as lesson learnt not to get involved in so many of the schemes as they always end up in a political minefield.


Good practice for knowing what to get involved with in the various groups that spring up relating to baby


Good luck with the birth

Thank you counting_pennies, I haven't been particularly upset about it, but I hope that when I get back to work it doesn't fester in me and get me really worked up :rotfl:

Next time someone is off with the cold and a card/flowers is mentioned I'm going to go ape! :rotfl::rotfl:

sweetilemon

This would annoy me too. I work in a school too although in the kitchen. I don't pay into the weekly fund but I contribute each time money is needed (our weekly fund is more a staff saving scheme for these things and work nights out but each persons money is counted and added up - each event they can choose what to 'spend'). Anyway, I usually give £3-5pp per event however when I was putting in and having to ask 'who's that?' it was getting silly. The final straw was when I put in for a nursery classroom assistant (£5) and a week after she left I met her, said hello and she totally blanked me I thought this is not right!! Also I knew a member of staff who NEVER paid in and got numerous bunches of flowers when off sick. I've only been off once in years. These systems annoy me, I now am more selective who I give too.

Hope you get well soon and hope you get a baby gift!

hieveryone

sweetilemon wrote: »

This would annoy me too. I work in a school too although in the kitchen. I don't pay into the weekly fund but I contribute each time money is needed (our weekly fund is more a staff saving scheme for these things and work nights out but each persons money is counted and added up - each event they can choose what to 'spend'). Anyway, I usually give £3-5pp per event however when I was putting in and having to ask 'who's that?' it was getting silly. The final straw was when I put in for a nursery classroom assistant (£5) and a week after she left I met her, said hello and she totally blanked me I though this is not right!! Also I knew a member of staff who NEVET paid in and got numerous bunches of flowers when off sick. I've only been off once in years. These systems annoy me, I now am more selective who I give too.

Hope you get well soon and hope you get a baby gift!

The system with the float is meant to remove any 'favouritism', and allow a fund for everyone to at least get a card/flowers for each scenario.

Where it is a bigger occasion, a whip round is done, and it is then you can decide whether or not to contribute - I have seen myself contribute more or less depending on who the colleague is and how close I am to them.

Your example shows how they can get out of hand, and I would in no way expect anyone to contribute to a whip round for me if they didnt want to, but the card and flowers thing is already paid for (by me!!) :rotfl:

Ms_Chocaholic

The same happened to me so I know exactly how the OP feels. I had a close family bereavement last year and, although I think I received a card (I can't totally remember), I never received flowers. Yet another person in our office had a family bereavement (same relationship) in the last couple of months and a whip round for flowers was sorted. I did contribute but didn't feel like I should.

sweetilemon

Yeah exactly hieveryone!! Hopefully they are to come...if not I'd make a 'funny' remark next time your signing a card for someone else...."oh where was mine when I was off sick" *laugh* then pause lol. It might be someone has just completely forgotten...I would be just as irritated as you though!

Mojisola

hieveryone wrote: »

I wouldn't want to make an issue of it and then all-of-a-sudden receive a card and flowers out of guilt or being forced! :rotfl:

That's why I wondered if you could trust someone enough to talk to - he/she might say that a card had already been sent or could quietly ask whoever sends the cards whether one has been sent to you.

If it has been a misunderstanding/oversight and a card gets sent, accept it with good grace.

Anatidaephobia

I agree that if there's a rule (particularly when designed to remove favouritism and avoid problems like this), everyone should be treated the same. However, my personal feeling is that if this happened to me, I wouldn't be bothered by it at all.

I worked in a group of ten people once and we all contributed £5 for birthdays. We got through six birthdays then the next was about a month later and nobody made any effort for this person for a combination of reasons - stressful/busy time at work, he was off on holiday, our manager normally told us when birthdays were but didn't tell us this one, etc. When they realised it had been his birthday, they decided we'd already missed it so not to bother (I had a day's annual leave and missed this conversation). My birthday was next and I got nothing; the other two team members were a few months later and got nothing as well. So, four of us spent a total of £120 on the birthdays for the other six but didn't get anything back, not even a card. These types of funds at work are rarely fair.