Would you be annoyed/upset at this scenario in the workplace?

hieveryone

summerspring wrote: »

Well, hope you get better soon, card or not

Thank you, I am getting there!

Maybe next week shall bring a delivery, we will see!

singlestep

I work in a school too and was off for a few weeks last year. Even though I too always pay in to the fund, I wasn't expecting it - because I was convinced at every week that I'd be going back the next - but flowers arrived for me in week 4. I think that's later than normal for us.

I felt a bit embarrassed as I'd thought that flowers etc. were for people who were 'really' ill (in retrospect, I know I was), but it was a lovely gesture. Maybe yours will arrive soon? Perhaps the committee member/colleague who usually arranges for these things has been under pressure of some kind themselves and just hasn't got around to it?

ETA: Feel better soon.

hieveryone

singlestep wrote: »

I work in a school too and was off for a few weeks last year. Even though I too always pay in to the fund, I wasn't expecting it - because I was convinced at every week that I'd be going back the next - but flowers arrived for me in week 4. I think that's later than normal for us.

I felt a bit embarrassed as I'd thought that flowers etc. were for people who were 'really' ill (in retrospect, I know I was), but it was a lovely gesture. Maybe yours will arrive soon? Perhaps the committee member/colleague who usually arranges for these things has been under pressure of some kind themselves and just hasn't got around to it?

I think in the back of my mind that has been what I've thought too - but I've been off for almost a month now and still nothing. Like I say, it's not that I am angling for material things, as I have plenty of family and friends looking out for me, but not being counted in the 'rule' is a little hurtful almost?

lika_86

If you aren't going to say anything about it then what does it matter? Work is work, unless these colleagues are people you would call friends then all of the other stuff is just a nonsense that you don't have to and shouldn't get worked up about. Either ignore it and carry on as usual and/or stop putting money in when you get back from maternity.

Nicki

I think I'd be upset too

I remember losing a baby at 17 weeks and being off for 3 weeks and it not being acknowledged in any way by my boss. A few months later a colleague's wife lost her baby at 6 weeks and our female boss sent her flowers, even though she didn't even work for the company. My colleague and I had joined on the same day and had both been there for about 4 years when this happened. I definitely noticed and was upset by that.

hieveryone

lika_86 wrote: »

If you aren't going to say anything about it then what does it matter? Work is work, unless these colleagues are people you would call friends then all of the other stuff is just a nonsense that you don't have to and shouldn't get worked up about. Either ignore it and carry on as usual and/or stop putting money in when you get back from maternity.

As I've said, I'm not particularly worked up about it, I can buy myself nice flowers and have been well looked after by my close friends and family, but perhaps a part of me thought I was more well thought of?

I doubt I will pay in anymore, as if the rules change from one person to the next then it's not a very efficient system really.

Mojisola

hieveryone wrote: »

I hope I'm not coming across like I want my 'pay out', just that it's the 'done thing' to send a card and flowers to someone who has been off, and I've seen it numerous times whilst I have worked there - even for people who have been off less time than me. The 'float' money is there, and any bigger presents are bought from a whip-round/collection, so that would be separate.

If it's going to be done, it should be done for everyone.

It's a horrible feeling to know that your colleagues haven't bothered to do for you what they have done for other people.

hieveryone

Nicki wrote: »

I think I'd be upset too

I remember losing a baby at 17 weeks and being off for 3 weeks and it not being acknowledged in any way by my boss. A few months later a colleague's wife lost her baby at 6 weeks and our female boss sent her flowers, even though she didn't even work for the company. My colleague and I had joined on the same day and had both been there for about 4 years when this happened. I definitely noticed and was upset by that.

Oh no, sorry to hear that Nicki, that would have really upset me too.

I'm not particularly bothered by this as like I said, it only actually occurred to me the other day (after being off for 3 weeks already).

I also haven't heard from my boss at all.

hieveryone

Mojisola wrote: »

If it's going to be done, it should be done for everyone.

It's a horrible feeling to know that your colleagues haven't bothered to do for you what they have done for other people.

That's exactly what I was trying to convey - it's not the material act of receiving a bunch of flowers etc, but the fact that everyone else has had the rule applied and I haven't

singlestep

hieveryone wrote: »

I think in the back of my mind that has been what I've thought too - but I've been off for almost a month now and still nothing. Like I say, it's not that I am angling for material things, as I have plenty of family and friends looking out for me, but not being counted in the 'rule' is a little hurtful almost?

I know what you mean. Apart from anything else, you're the one stuck on your own with more time than usual to think of these things. I was off at exam/coursework time and was feeling so guilty about that I didn't expect colleagues to have time or goodwill to think about it. Perhaps in your shoes I'd be feeling the same. As you say, you pay in and you deserve what anyone should have under the circumstances