*Change of plan - and maybe some good news!*

jacs76

Snaggles wrote: »

They didn't say Len. My gut feeling is that he's somewhere in the middle. It's severe enough to cause him quite a lot of frustration, but he's so flipping bright, he is already developing coping strategies that make him appear a lot less severe than he is, if that makes sense. They said that's why they had difficulty in diagnosing him.

i don't think sometimes its a fool proof scale.
dan is classed as having moderate to severe learning difficulties ....!!!!!!:rolleyes:
has ryan got a memory like an elephant? just out of interest

Snaggles

jacs76 wrote: »

i know its a real personal thing so i think its totally up to you how you do the whole breastfeeding thing there is no black/white right/wrong really. dan couldn't be breastfed due to his high pallette (sp?) nasal passage etc he just couldnt latch on without half suffocating.
as they started weaning i would top up with milk rather than offer milk 1st as i always assumed more food =less milk wanted.
e.g 8am weetabix with formula/breast milk
10am feed top up/comfort for nap
12 noon lunch
2pm top up and or comfort for nap
4pm dinner
6pm last feed for bed
total example times plucked from nowhere!

bedtime one was always the last feed to go though as i always enjoyed the last cuddle of the day as i'm a soft touch too but shhhhhh lol.
having done both i think the breast feeding is harder to give up as its more of a personal thing.

I could try to give her some breakfast before her first breastfeed, that might work. I think it's just a habit we've got into, to snuggle up on the bed and for her to have some milk before we have to get up and face the day!

PS - I wont tell anyone you're a soft touch.....promise!

jacs76

i'm the worst person to ask something like that, as i have a very childish sense of humour and even though i do get i do sometimes find it ......not funny but soooooo innocent its funny if you can understand what i mean:D

up their bum for all i care what they think dan was ram raiding in tesco's today if he is down right rude i ask him to apoligise, sometimes he doesnt but i can't make him but i NEVER apoligise for him.
it is a bit different i suppose because looking at dan you can tell something is not quite 'right' and his speech too but....well i dont know what to say really cause i dont really care what they think.
people are too judgemental or lead boring lives

Snaggles

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

I can vouch for that Snags-
Scott doesnt have a lot of experience with children but he though Ryan was a lovely, bright lad.
I though he was charming and so clever. It is difficult isn't it?

I also was in AWE of you as a mother-you have such a wonderful way with the kids-calm, relaxed and totally interested in all they do and say.

They are blessed to have you for a mother x

Wow Bunny, that made me well up. I always feel so proud of Ryan when he manages to interact with people, and he did so well the day he met you. I have to say though, a lot of the credit goes to you and your family, for being so great with him. He still talks about going on the rollercoaster with your DS now!

For the record hun, I think you are a great Mum too, your kids are so happy and well adjusted.

Bunnyinthelights

Well, that's a stroke of bluddy luck that is cause it's not from me they get the well-adjustedness from, lol

I hope that they always feel secure in our love, no matter what happens...

Snaggles

jacs76 wrote: »

has ryan got a memory like an elephant? just out of interest

Yes, unbelievably so. He was helping me change Natasha the other day (this story is a bit gross sorry....lol), and she'd done a poo. Ryan suddenly said 'Mum, do you remember when I did a sausage and beans poo?' :rotfl:

He was talking about an incident that happened when he was 2!!! (He did a big poo and some little bits of poo, and said it looked like sausage and beans.........don't say I didn't warn you!) :rotfl: :rotfl:

I hadn't thought about, or talked about that 'incident' for the last 5 years, but he suddenly spoke about it as if it was just the other week. Weird.

Snaggles

Bunnyinthelights wrote: »

I hope that they always feel secure in our love, no matter what happens...

I am certain of that.

System

Snaggles wrote: »

They didn't say Len. My gut feeling is that he's somewhere in the middle. It's severe enough to cause him quite a lot of frustration, but he's so flipping bright, he is already developing coping strategies that make him appear a lot less severe than he is, if that makes sense. They said that's why they had difficulty in diagnosing him.

My son was 12-13 (5-6 years ago) when he was diagnosed and he was told he was mildly autistic. 12-13 is quite late so Ryan has a great chance of leading a completly normal life and as you know the key will when he realises that he has it and he levels with it. My son is fine now, he's found peace with it and the coping strategies worked a treat, not to mention the paitence of his mother.

jacs76

snags for once in my life i'm gob smacked :eek:
i know i asked but i did not expect an answer like that one :eek:
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dan will say ' i fell over and cut my knees' and i will say to him dan that was about 5 or 6 years ago lol

jacs76

Snaggles wrote: »

I am certain of that.

dan is quite certain
ill say 'dan who loves ya' he says EVERYONE