*Change of plan - and maybe some good news!*

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jacs76 wrote: »

does she eat well snags?

She really does - she has a full jar of babyfood (or homemade equivalent), followed by yoghurt or fruit puree at both lunch time and dinner time, and quite a bit bowl of baby porridge etc at breakfast, plus other snacks. She's a skinny little thing though - I think she gets it from ME.... :rotfl:

I feed her until she starts spitting the food back out, which is how she tells me she is full. I think the breastfeeding is more of a comfort thing really, because she can't NEED it, so maybe I will just have to be tougher. She melts me heart when she snuggles up to me and gives me the big puppy dog eyes and gummy smiles though, and I can't bear to refuse, and see her cry.

I am too soft, aren't I?

System

Forgive me Mrs S, can I ask did they say how severe the Aspergers is?

jacs76

when you have never known anything else for 15 years you do just get on with it.
the heart thing i wouldnt wish on my worst enemy though.

as they get older it is harder for other people to understand small things to them, for example staying at other peoples houses its a complete no no with dan i can't even go to my mates during half term as within 10mins he will get stressed pulling on me want to go home now so we have to find other things to do and sometimes its easier if its not free. take today we popped into town and bought a few making/glueing things and kept him occupied for .....20mins lol. the only reason its possible to chat here for a bit is because dh is reading to him. tomorrow we are going to a small animal park that should be fun if anyone gets in his way and he calls them a bas*ard:rolleyes:

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lennymfo wrote: »

LOL sorry Mrs S it was a serious question. But I ve got this image in my head now.......

Is it an attractive image? If so, it's completely accurate....;)

But if it's just an image of me with painful, wonky shaped boobs, dribbling milk down my top, then....er.....that never happened.....honest.....:o :cool:

Bunnyinthelights

Listen to what Jacs and Zed say-they speak words of wisdom.

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lennymfo wrote: »

Forgive me Mrs S, can I ask did they say how severe the Aspergers is?

They didn't say Len. My gut feeling is that he's somewhere in the middle. It's severe enough to cause him quite a lot of frustration, but he's so flipping bright, he is already developing coping strategies that make him appear a lot less severe than he is, if that makes sense. They said that's why they had difficulty in diagnosing him.

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ZTD wrote: »

You're not exactly making a profit. A profit is when you bring in more than you spend. And that includes time...

Thank you, that's appreciated. xxx

jacs76

i know its a real personal thing so i think its totally up to you how you do the whole breastfeeding thing there is no black/white right/wrong really. dan couldn't be breastfed due to his high pallette (sp?) nasal passage etc he just couldnt latch on without half suffocating.
as they started weaning i would top up with milk rather than offer milk 1st as i always assumed more food =less milk wanted.
e.g 8am weetabix with formula/breast milk
10am feed top up/comfort for nap
12 noon lunch
2pm top up and or comfort for nap
4pm dinner
6pm last feed for bed
total example times plucked from nowhere!

bedtime one was always the last feed to go though as i always enjoyed the last cuddle of the day as i'm a soft touch too but shhhhhh lol.
having done both i think the breast feeding is harder to give up as its more of a personal thing.

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jacs76 wrote: »

when you have never known anything else for 15 years you do just get on with it.
the heart thing i wouldnt wish on my worst enemy though.

as they get older it is harder for other people to understand small things to them, for example staying at other peoples houses its a complete no no with dan i can't even go to my mates during half term as within 10mins he will get stressed pulling on me want to go home now so we have to find other things to do and sometimes its easier if its not free. take today we popped into town and bought a few making/glueing things and kept him occupied for .....20mins lol. the only reason its possible to chat here for a bit is because dh is reading to him. tomorrow we are going to a small animal park that should be fun if anyone gets in his way and he calls them a bas*ard:rolleyes:

Lol, I know what you mean - you may have noticed that I rarely post in the hours between Ryan coming home from school and him going to bed.....unless he's engrossed in Power Rangers!

Can I ask you - if he does call someone something like that, do you ever explain about his condition? Some of the Aspergers Mums have suggested a little business card to hand out to anyone Ryan offends or annoys, just basically saying 'my son has Asperger Syndrome, and may behave in an unpredictable or volatile manner. For more information on Asperger Syndrome please see (insert appropriate website).'

I'm trying to decide if it would be a good idea or not - obviously I would have to be very discreet about handing them out, otherwise Ryan might feel like he has something to be ashamed of.

Bunnyinthelights

I can vouch for that Snags-
Scott doesnt have a lot of experience with children but he though Ryan was a lovely, bright lad.
I though he was charming and so clever. It is difficult isn't it?

I also was in AWE of you as a mother-you have such a wonderful way with the kids-calm, relaxed and totally interested in all they do and say.

They are blessed to have you for a mother x