Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

System

whitewing wrote: »

And yet again, a reminder of what a darling your Swain is.

MU, rather than Swain bailing you out, could you ask if work could pay some of your wages in advance?

I'm not sure they can but will ask my manager tomorrow, everything is done and automated by this stupid computer system they installed, honestly its terrible. For example pre-system if we worked past the end of our shift, we still got paid for it. Now we don't. It produces rota's that don;t fit with our shop and is generally a nightmare so i think its unlikely i'll get an advance as the computer will most likely say no. :mad: worth asking though

I'm very lucky Swain is so understanding and wants to help so much.

System

I need to try and remain positive, yes its a setback but everything will be ok.

This is an improvement on my default state of having a meltdown and panicking

saver-j

messedup - well done for trying to stay positive. I haven't read back a long way but from your last few posts it sounds like you have some supportive people in your life which is definitely a positive.

Hope my gate crashing the thread is ok. Just seems a place I might feel safe tonight when lying awake.

faerielight

I just got back from A and E.. my lower back gave way when I bent down to feed the cats. I've got a slipped disc in my low back, and I've come home in crutches. I'm so upset, it was only 2 days ago when I saw my surgeon and he talked about core abdo strength never coming back. I'm in absolute agony, it's like electric currents of pain. I'm not surprised it happened after all the surgeries/ hernias etc, but I'm really worried.

The doc said that it is hard to tell if it's pushing on the spinal chord because the tests are if you have incontinence and I already do. They were too busy to do an MRI so I have to get my GP to refer me for one. In the meantime my PTSD has been badly triggered by a journey in an ambulance off my head on gas and air. The paramedics were horrible. They didn't want to take me, accusing me of 111 sending an ambulance that I didn't need. As soon as they knew my BPD diagnosis I got the familiar treatment of an attention seeking timewaster. I told them that for me to beg to go to that hospital, it proves how bad the pain was, as my PTSD does not make me want to go back to that hell hole hospital. They were laughing their heads off at me cos I was so off my head from the gas and air. It was a half and hour battle to get them to take me. They told me there was nothing wrong with me, it was just a sore muscle(they didn't examine me, just thought it was my mental health. Anyway, I got there, it was horrendous.. flashback city. The dr was nice though. She did lotsa of physical tests, and said if my legs go numb to come backin and they will have to operate. I'm so upset and it's just so far reaching, the damage done by that hospital, and I've got enough pain syndromes and medical crap to last me a lifetime. I never get a chance to recover before the next medical thing appears. I'm truly at my wits end with everything, I really am so devestated. And my spine's got enough to deal with, with osteoarthritis in my neck/shoulders, and hands/feet

Torry_Quine

saver -j welcome hope the night isn't too bad for you.

faerie that's just not on. You poor thing . Hugs

saver-j

Oh faerie that sounds awful. I hope your pain eases soon. Thinking of you. I keep reliving a hospital experience myself and that is bad enough when all the staff were as kind as they could be. It makes me so mad that people don't get treated fairly because of MH.
Take care of yourself.

jobbingmusician

Morning all (I think that's what this time of day is called - a bit early for me!)

Welcome, saver-j - I hope your night wasn't too bad!

saver-j

Thank you for the welcome. Well I made it through the night and even slept a little. Next step to be able to get out of bed and make it through today. Should have support for the day though which may make it easier.

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Wellyboots6

Escapette is recovered and I am down with the lurgy. Bearded one had the day off work to look after her. Can hear her playing downstairs and I'm so jealous!