Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

tea_lover

Have small people relying on me. I just need to stop feeling sorry for myself and crack on with things. Sunday should be quite good fun once I get to it, just tiring. Saturday is a full day of training and I don't know anyone else going - so less fun! But I have to get it done to get those parts of the qualification signed off.

tea_lover

How's escapette doing today welly? Hope you both got some sleep last night.

Wellyboots6

She's still poorly tea, but currently sleeping, thank you for asking. Just hoping it won't end up in another doctors trip. They always manage to make me feel like I'm being neurotic, and then it turns out I was right all along!

Is it worth contacting women's aid regarding the joint account and asking their advice? They will deal with this sort of thing regularly. Last thing you want to do is contact FOH and give him mixed messages (in his mind, sounds like your messages have actually been very clear!).

Regarding the police involvement, resources are that stretched currently that if they didn't think it was worth persuing then they wouldn't bother. They obviously feel there is a level of risk, so I would rely on their professional judgement if you have a wobble.

Waves_and_Smiles

Big hugs for Welly and Escapette, I hope you both feel better soon and can get some sleep.

Tea, I agree with everyone else. Lists and reducing activities may help you feel better. If you can't reduce the big things go for the little things, the odd ready meal won't hurt, skipping dusting for a few days won't hurt, who needs ironing? etc. Give yourself a week or two cutting back where you can to give yourself little breathing spaces where possible. Have a hug and a squish, too.

Wellyboots6

If anyone is bored and fancies helping me google....

I'm looking for a drugs/alcohol/substance misuse course to do. Just be either online or distance learning with few practical days. Doesn't matter how long it will take to complete. Must be cheap or payable in installments. I'm unlikely to get any help with finding due to already having qualifications.

Either that or a nursing course I can afford to do and fits around child care!

Waves_and_Smiles

This organisation is very good, Welly. They aren't the cheapest but they are respected.

http://www.instituteofcounselling.org.uk/diploma-in-addiction-counselling

Also have a look down this list-

http://www.addiction-ssa.org/courses

Have a look in related topics too. I did my drugs and alcohol course through an HIV/AIDS charity. Although that was only one aspect of training that was offered by the charity the course was very good and you didn't have to take others. Although in my case I then went on to study the related courses of bereavement counselling and HIV counselling itself but I wanted to work in that field so it seemed sensible to me to take all of the diplomas I could under one roof.

elsien

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

If you can't reduce the big things go for the little things, the odd ready meal won't hurt, skipping dusting for a few days won't hurt, who needs ironing? etc. .

If it makes anyone feel better it's got to be 3 weeks since I last dusted or hoovered. Possibly longer in the Gitdog free bits of the house.

Pyxis

Wellyboots6 wrote: »

If anyone is bored and fancies helping me google....

I'm looking for a drugs/alcohol/substance misuse course to do. Just be either online or distance learning with few practical days. Doesn't matter how long it will take to complete. Must be cheap or payable in installments. I'm unlikely to get any help with finding due to already having qualifications.

Either that or a nursing course I can afford to do and fits around child care!

This one's free and has just started! You could do it while looking for a longer one!

https://www.futurelearn.com/courses/understanding-drugs-and-addiction


It doesn't matter if it's started as you do it in your own time. You don't have to wait a week for the next chapter either,; once you start it, you can do it as fast or as slowly as you like. There is accreditation too.

I've done several of these FutureLearn courses, (Open University free courses) and they're very good!

Wellyboots6

Thanks WaS!

Waves_and_Smiles

I am tempted to do that course myself, Pyxis! I do have to be careful though because when I feel mentally well I tend to pack as much in as I can and with preparing for the future and taking on the crisis line I probably have enough, especially as we are now reducing the medication back down slowly. I am also still working with my sleep professor and doing my american friend's anthropology course with her just because I like the subject.

It's interesting that I still do this when I feel well. This is how I ended up with a full time job, working on a crisis line a night a week and working as an HIV counsellor at the weekend. I ended up burning myself out, I don't seem to have a stop button when I feel ok and just keep adding more and more things to my life. Then when I am unwell I can't manage to get into the shower, it always seems to be extremes. I have never managed to get this balanced.