Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

calleyw

oh fly have a massive squish.

some men are major idiots. why they act like children I never know. and personally if they want to mess around don't be in a relationship.

It makes me laugh. Its a catch 22 situation. As if they did not mess about or cheat why would a woman keep them on a short leash. So its their own fault.

Its reading stuff like this that makes me hedge towards not bothering again. As not sure I can ever trust them or myself again. And when I mean myself. I don't mean in cheating. But if I can behave in a normal fashion after my ex. I just hope I can.

I would put the t-shirts in a bin bag and dump them in his car. If asks why say they are cluttering up the place.

Yours

Calley

calleyw

Fly,

I was not suggesting your husband was a cheater it was just a general statement.

yes that is not nice being friends with people who drop you like that just because you are not male.

I asked my husband many years ago if it was offered on a plate to you and no one would ever find out would you. And he said no as he would know. And I believe him. When I have said that before to people the men all go he is a liar. But I know deep down he is not a liar and would not do it.

Just don't get why people male or female think it is ok to cheat when off on a stage/hen do.

I am no prude but really do think that moral standards have dropped a lot since I was young. If a relationship is not working. Stop and look at it and see if you can work it out. If not leave then find someone else. But don't cheat. It hurts to many people.

Yours

Calley

Wellyboots6

Fly, is it worth sitting down with him and explaining all over again how it makes you feel? Otherwise you are going to be simmering until it is all over.

Family issues again Really could do with finishing my EMDR, but the stress of getting childcare makes it feel not worth it.

Just been a long walk and Escapette slept most of it. Now it's nap time and there is some sort of baby disco going on in her cot. Looks like we will have a very grumpy madam this afternoon.

Hubby is sorting his old car out to sell, in an attempt to add to our £1500 in 16 days challenge. I'm watching the baby disco on the baby monitor whilst trying to find things to sell. It's car boot type stuff though rather online selling stuff but we won't have time to do a car boot so not sure what to do

Flybaby

Sorry - decided to delete last post as all a bit too raw at the moment and feeling very emotional.

calleyw

Flybaby wrote: »

Sorry - decided to delete last post as all a bit too raw at the moment and feeling very emotional.

Oh Fly,

have another massive squish. He should not be making you feel like this.

You take care today.

Yours

Calley

jobbingmusician

Lots and lots of squishes, fly.

FWIW I think he is being a pig, and so are his friends. But the only thing I would say a little bit in his defence is that there is tremendous social pressure on men to be studs and macho in their peer groups. Probably a lot less goes on than they tell each other, IYSWIM. (Still doesn't properly explain £1000 on booze, though. Although he may have (over)paid for services never received *cough*)

mellymoo74

((((Flysquish))))

Talk to him Fly it may help. Do it in letter if needs be so you can make sure it gets feelings across without accusations.

Me aand dogs are curled up under blankie. My cunning plan failed and their samples haven't arrived from CSJ so I am improvising food for them.

I am going to be good and go back to gp my BMI is concerning, it's continuing downwards and I am using the money situation as an excuse to not eat

Starting to feel unemployable which is foolish

Upstairs are being given upstairs

Wellyboots6

I tried Little Sod on csj, but then found Autarky which was similar but cheaper. Now he is on Burgess Sensitive which seems to be OK for him.

mellymoo74

They have been on csj for years welly and do well on it
Samples was to keep them in food till I can order and receive their bag.
3 samples, will do about 12 days, order food Wednesday usually get it within 2 days
Thought I was being clever.

Pyxis

Fly, I didn't see your post, so no idea what's gone on, so can't say anything helpful. (You don't have to tell me, so don't worry).






I was sorting through the vacuum-pack bags in a wardrobe. Now loads of things that were in them are filling the bedroom until I can take them somewhere.

Some vintage curtains from the 50s and Mary Quant material/duvet cover from the early 70s, and another king size cover and sheet from the 70s. The Mary Quant one was the very first duvet cover I ever bought, when they were called continental quilts. It must have been 1972 or 73.

Pillows and duvets and mattress covers and sheets. As I don't have a spare bed at the moment, it's pointless keeping them, even though they're good quality, mostly. Am not sure if Charity shops take duvets and pillows. Do you think a homeless shelter could use bedding?

Then there's the sheepskin bedspread I made by sewing together by hand dozens of sheepskin squares, again in the early 70s. It tore my fingers to shreds sewing them. I won't use it again, though. Don't know who'd want it.

Towels. I'm keeping some because they'll be useful if I ever get another dog. The rest I could offer to the RSPCA I suppose?

A sheepskin rug that I've had for 35 years. Thought I'd keep that for said dog. Elderly dogs like sleeping on sheepskin.
Maybe the RSPCA would like the sheepskin bedspread?

There's stuff everywhere.

It's going to be such a lot of work bagging all this stuff up and carting it around to places. My wrists are hurting.