Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Flybaby

Stapler .......giggle.......... Lmao - anyone can use a stapler.........to try and keep your mind off doing away with annoying colleagues - I challenge you to find a way to do it with sellotape, paperclips and paper!!!


Welly.....hmmm......... personally I am on the page of she is your baby and your rules apply. Whilst I agree with the fact that handing her around will help her with socialisation in the future - this does not apply at a few weeks old. She is new, delicate and yours - if you don't want to hand her about - why should you? Anyone who gets upset or annoyed by new parents not wanting to pass around a few weeks old baby is being rather selfish I think. It is no comment on their ability or otherwise to hold a small baby, it is about the parents getting comfortable and finding their feet. I think others should respect that.
A trick could be to leave her in the baby seat and if people ask for a cuddle, say that she is having a poorly day and you do not want to unsettle her. Hopefully she will sleep most of the time and you can say you don't want to wake her.


{squishes} for all who need

whitewing

Faerie,

Sounds to me that your mother was probably abused as a child, and maybe has even blocked it out herself. (Still no excuse for her behaviour to you; just a reason).

I also wonder if part of her celebrated you looking like a boy because it was a subconscious way of trying to protect you - and herself - from these 'monster men'.

If you want to report anybody, you could do so anonymously through Crimestoppers. If you know someone is harming anyone then you could report it. I would wholeheartedly support you.

For yourself, try contacting these people?

"NAPAC (National Association of People Abuse in Childhood)

Helpline: 0808 801 8331

napac.org.uk

We are the only national organisation focused on supporting adults who have been abused in any way as children. We know that most children who are abused don't talk about it until they become adults, and NAPAC exists to support survivors of child abuse when want to talk and receive support."

I saw this on a This Morning (the TV programme website) so it is a reputable source.

I think you should carry on here with us in the duvet fort but also speak to carefully-selected real life people face to face or on the telephone where you have a confidential relationship that you don't have to screen details like you do on the internet.

(I had Cognitive Analytic Therapy and that helped me a lot).

SingleSue

*Wanders in in a sheepish manner*

Not visited for a while, I think the suggestion from the doctor that I was depressed had me reacting against it, so I actively started to avoid coming here just in case...I know, weird logic but it made sense to me at the time.

Turns out my mood levels are 'normal' (although apparently I should not be as optimistic as I am with my disabilities/pain levels) and that it was in fact a physical problem causing my increased pain and not depression after all but I am so so over sensitive about being labelled as having mental issues again as I have fought so hard to overcome them, that I tend to over react at the slightest suggestion.

Anyway, been a rough couple of weeks, nothing too out of the ordinary, as middle son went away to uni, the house is so empty (despite youngest still being here - he is complex autistic and doesn't do the social thing) and of course, it has meant my world has got smaller again as there is no one to push my wheelchair apart from at weekends (if and when youngest feels upto being outside and amongst people). Typical empty nest syndrome from reading other threads, so nothing to worry about.

Anyway, I will wander sheepishly out again before everyone shouts at me for being a silly billy :rotfl:

jobbingmusician

*waves to Sue* Welcome home, Sue! Always open here, with lots of chat, virtual refreshments, friendship and support. Dip in and out as you find it helpful

We have a well stocked nest for anyone who fancies a bit of company. In fact, it's rare that the thread has been abandoned for as long as 6 hours at a time - everyone must have slept well last night!

Hope they have sorted out your physical stuff rather more. I wonder if any local schools have volunteer programmes where kids might enjoy taking you out once a week? I suggest this a bit diffidently as I suspect you would resist being seen as a 'charity case' - but the aim of these programmes is to work two ways, and you sound as if you might have an awful lot to offer back. I often think that one of the reasons individual music lessons work so well is that it's fairly rare in our society for kids to have a one to one relationship and friendship with someone who isn't a close relative, and lots of kids really benefit from this.

Anyway, I will stop rabbiting - I'm probably suggesting stupid ideas anyway.

SingleSue

I wouldn't mind the role of helping youngsters though talking or encouragement but I think I would find it extremely difficult for those same youngsters to be taking me out and about, I've only just about become comfortable ish with my own children doing it and even then, there are certain places I would rather struggle about with my crutches than be seen in my wheelchair.

I'll be fine, I'll find a way round things again and adapt as I usually do...there is always online shopping delivery and sitting in my garden watching the world go by.

Thanks for the thought though x

whitewing

Maybe there would be a knock on advantage of having someone come to take you out - it may encourage your home-son to come out with you both?

Good morning everyone.

Pyxis

Hiya! I've emerged unscathed from the marathon of 8 concerts and a guided walk over a 24-hour period. And I mean 24 hours, round the clock!:eek:

Have one more lecture, a guided walk and a last concert, and then it's braving the return train journey, hoping my lumbars survive the case-lugging.
(Makes a total of 17concerts, 3 guided walks and 5 lectures since Monday afternoon! )

I haven't caught up with the thread since Wednesday, but will save that for the weekend, which I plan to spend entirely in bed, catching up with internet, TV and Sleeeeeeeeep!

Pyxis

Courtesy of the "It's a Panda!" Thread.......

Mum and pandakin!


Altogether now..... Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

whitewing

Are you all asleep?

I'm working hard but could do with some background chatter, lol.

DomRavioli

Hi whitewing,

we're not all asleep I'm at work! You ok?