Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Pyxis

The regular repost..

Pyxis wrote: »

(The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(type of trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc.

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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!!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

whitewing

pyxis, you are so good with your regular reposts.

Genes in autism: https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2015/09/131871/new-autism-genes-are-revealed-largest-ever-study

mellymoo74

Up since 5.20 booo
Another busy busy day. Need to sit with my boss before the sunrise meeting.
Got got got to do some nvq stuff so I can get the right level of membership for iosh
Got a naughty tomcat cat food kiss this morning and have doggy loves now

Flybaby

**rushes through fort, dumps some cheesy bites, and runs back outside to carry on repainting the forts defensive shields, trailing fence paint all the way**


Squishes to all you lovely lot


Since we are talking about eyes - does anyone else have squeaky eyes? When I rub my eyes they squeak.

Birdie85

Well done on the opticians Georgie! I feel disappointed when I can't read all of the letters too... but then I figure that we're not supposed to or it wouldn't be a real test?! I always get confused when you have to do the clearer/brighter comparisons, I just can't tell the difference most of the time and worry that I'm annoying my optician so I lie... which just causes more confusion!

Flybaby- I get squeaky eyes too. I'm not sure if it's because they're dry, or if they just like to talk to me?!

Code and Ono - I'm like you with replying to texts too! I'm currently sitting on 2 texts from the weekend that I've been putting off replying to. One is an invite to a night out in an unfamiliar city with unfamiliar people (so I'm just going to fob my friend off but trying to find a good way of doing it!) and the other is a friend who is terrible for replying herself and I get annoyed when she doesn't reply to me... so I'm not replying to her to save my feelings in some twisted way?!?!

Hi Dom, that is a pretty name! As for 3 HOUR rumpy pumpy sessions, who can manage going at it for that long?! I wonder how they were walking afterwards?! :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

Flybaby wrote: »

Since we are talking about eyes - does anyone else have squeaky eyes? When I rub my eyes they squeak.

Yes, now and again I do too! I get very itchy eyes too and can't help but rub them.

Birdie85 wrote: »

Well done on the opticians Georgie! I feel disappointed when I can't read all of the letters too... but then I figure that we're not supposed to or it wouldn't be a real test?! I always get confused when you have to do the clearer/brighter comparisons, I just can't tell the difference most of the time and worry that I'm annoying my optician so I lie... which just causes more confusion!
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I find that part quiet difficult too and am always thinking "what if I give the wrong answer?"

Regarding texts and especially emails, I'm also quite bad at replying....me and my cousin are as bad as each other, so a conversation can quite easily spread over a few days to a week or more! :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

Oh btw :wave: Pyxis! Sounds like you having a fun but busy time!

Pyxis

.....rushes in.....


Opticians....just do what I do and say you're finding it difficult to differentiate. There is a difference but you can't explain what it is!

I'm glad I'm not the only one! My optician says I have sensitive sight! Perhaps that's a euphemism for being a bloody nuisance! :rotfl:


Squeaky eyes? :rotfl: :eek::D
I've heard of seeing sounds as colours but never having noisy eyes! :rotfl: how do they squeak? Do they bubble as well? :rotfl:


Birdie...don't lower yourself to their standards....retain the moral high ground by giving a short reply that you're sooooo busy, you're afraid you can't go!


Today.....lecture, 2 concerts, but then up at midnight for a 1.00 am (Thurs a.m.) concert, then 4.00 am, 6.30am, 9.15 am, noon, 3,30 pm, 6.45 pm, and 9.15 PM concerts. In between that lot, there's breakfast, a guided walk and dinner in a college hall, so bye bye until Friday! :rotfl::rotfl:


rushes out with matchsticks to prop eyelids open!.........

calleyw

Morning,

Showered and dressed 1st time in two days.

Thank you to everyone for yesterday for being brutally honest, understanding, caring and considerate. It has helped me come to understand and terms with what has happened.

And a hell of lot cheaper than counseling session :eek:

Its a long road that I have to travel I know. I hope I can get to the end as I really don't like the person I am at the moment.

Anyway hoovered up and that was a carp job. Think hoover needs a good clean out.

Anyway will think about what I going to do for the rest of the day.

Yours

Calley

codemonkey

Argh. Nice relaxation from yoga class yesterday deserted me as soon as I went into the office.

If you don't hear from me again, I'm in prison for beating my colleagues to death with a stapler.