Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Georgiegirl256

Hugs (((((code))))) I'm not fussed about birthdays anymore either, they are so overrated. Well, tbh they've never been a big deal for me, it's just another day really. I don't think anything can beat my 6th birthday party where I got a caterpillar cake and a purple Bonnie bike....it was all downhill from there onwards! Ah, Facebook, can not be on with that whatsoever and got rid of my account years ago.

I can imagine what a shock it was to see how fast your Aunty has deteriorated in the space of a week. It's frightening how fast these things happen.

Penguin reply

Having never seen anyone in the final stages of cancer before, it truely shocked me, scared me and upset me so much at the speed my Dad just went downhill. In that last week, especially the last few days the deterioration was staggering. Like you, I just didn't know what to do, I felt helpless and powerless, and as you know, I feel guilty that I didn't do enough, didn't do the right things and wasn't there for him enough, especially that last day when he was crying out. That still keeps me awake at night as I go over and over it again thinking what could I have done differently. Your last sentence particulary hit home to me. Having witnessed my Dad being so ill and then his passing, it scares me sh*tless about me or any of my loved ones dying like that. It truely terrifies me, and that keeps me awake at night too. Thinking of you all, and hoping that your Aunty has a peaceful and gentle passing.

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Georgiegirl256

Hugs (((((Charlie))))) It must be so hard having to deal with everything with your OH being away. I can understand that it just felt like the last straw when your dogs ran off, no wonder it all got too much for you. Fingers crossed they haven't hurt themselves too badly.

Glad you're going to book a doctors appointment WW. You've just had a new coil fitted haven't you? Possibly it's something to do with that?

Good luck Melly

:wave: Pyxis!

tea_lover

(((code))) (((georgie)))

Georgiegirl256

(((((Tea))))) How are you today? Any news off police baby yet?

tea_lover

Nope! Apparently he's back in today but I don't know whether that's a day or night shift.

Have had another call and some flowers over the weekend so at least I'll have plenty to tell police baby if he does ever get in touch! Didn't bother trying to report anything after the response I got when I called about the letter from his mum.

Still going round in circles about best way to go from here (not helped by either not sleeping or dreaming about it all). I don't think I want to press charges anymore

Izadora

Morning and massive hugs to all.

How do weekends go so quickly?

Melly - good luck today

Tea - Why do you not want to?

elona

tea

Maybe pressing charges will get him the help he needs. Or at the very least stop his stalking of you making you ill.

Georgiegirl256

It's a tough one tea. I can imagine if D was doing the sort of things FOH is doing, I probably wouldn't want to press charges either. Although, things can't go on like they are, because he's not getting the message at all.

If police baby has anything about him, he should hopefully get in touch with you today, and as always, mention everything that's happened since you last spoke.

Can you get a restraining order in place? Or does that involve pressing charges? Although going by past form, he'd probably break it.

tea_lover

To get a restraining order it has to go to court. I can get a civil injunction (non-molestation order) but I have to pay for that and tbh I can think of things I'd rather spend £500 - £1500 on!

I can't explain it any better than "it doesn't feel right" - re. pressing charges. It seems like I'm punishing someone for being ill, and that just isn't sitting right with me.

onomatopoeia99

Just back from the hospital, decided to walk as it's only a mile and a half from work and the letter advised of parking problems due to building work, plus the exercise should do me good as I get far too little. Going there I got hailed on, coming back I was walking into a 60mph wind, sometimes I seemed to put my foot back down exactly where I had picked it up from and it felt like I'd walked 10 miles by the time I got back into the office! Not the smartest decision I've ever made I did have the foresight to bring a change of clothes with me so at least I'm dry now.

code, I'm another that pretty much ignores birthdays (I haven't done anything for it in 15 years, and you can count the cards I receive on the fingers of one hand, which is fine as far as I'm concerned). The same is true for the 14th February as well, whether in a relationship or not. That has caused me problems in the past, apparently "I didn't get you a Valentine's card because I love you just as much on every other day of the year" is not the right thing to say!

tea, rather than thinking about the specific decision to press charges or not, would it help to think about where you want to get to long term regarding FOH and work backwards from there to try to work out the best way to achieve it? Don't know if you've already thought of this, but sometimes when it comes to making difficult choices I find I get a case of "can't see the wood for the trees" and need to step back to find a different way to approach it.