Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

elsien

I have just seen someone in the supermarket in pyjamas, dressing gown, slippers, turban on hair and a face mask on. In the middle of the day.
What on earth are they thinking???

Georgiegirl256

Wonder if it was someone off the 'going out in your nightwear thread'?! :rotfl:

You've just reminded me, I've got a Lush face mask in the fridge to use later.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! Interesting elsien!

That is a really good idea, whitewing! If I record a positive after each section it might stop me feeling utterly useless. When I completed the last form I left some details about how I am affected off because I simply couldn't face writing down more doom and gloom. I really like the idea of counteracting each section with a positive here.

Funnily enough my feet are so soft that as I have said, I find it very hard to find shoes to wear. I never wear shoes indoor so I have them on maybe 6 times a year for a matter of hours? On the bright side I have almost perfect feet, no bunions or hard skin or anything. There, I made a positive out of it!

mellymoo74

It was probably me elsien

You know when you start asking yourself why you married someone it's time to leave isn't it?

Waves_and_Smiles

Big hugs, Melly! So sorry to hear OH is being so difficult. Is he still having therapy? Do remember that even though he is unwell in some aspects it is still fine for you to tell him when he is behaving inappropriately. An illness doesn't give another person a right to be cruel to another person, ever.

tea_lover

(((Melly)))

Obviously I don't have the best relationship history (ha!), but I'm pretty sure everyone wonders that, or something like it, at some point. Is it a lingering thought? Or a reasonable reaction to a particular annoyance?

mellymoo74

Therapist contract ended WaS a different one not yet been assigned so it's limbo.
Marked deterioration in behaviour that's already pretty !!!!.

He's his mum basically so everything is my fault nasty poison pours out of his mouth.

What set him off today is apparently we.dont have the insurance money for the car he couldn't tell me this before petrol went into it and I bought food. This is I some.way my fault

We only had money for food and petrol thanks.to Elsien xx

Waves_and_Smiles

It isn't your fault Melly. Remember that. I can understand a little from OH's point of view because therapy brings up some very bad feelings at times, especially if someone has had a difficult childhood. For therapy then to be cut off before those feelings are worked through would be very difficult for someone to cope with. So it sounds as if he is resorting to his failsafe position which in this case is to use the behaviours he grew up with.

However, he has no right to take this out on you! Ok, as a one-off we all take things out on those close to us because that is often the only time we feel safe to do so but if it becomes a regular thing that is not ok. Do tell him Melly if he is upsetting you. Illness is never an excuse for being consistently mean to another person.

mellymoo74

Oh I have told him WaS the response was !!!! you

I am out of energy
Need to prepare for the 2nd interview gotta put myself in the right frame of mind.

Fly just got back she's got 3 assignments and obviously the work she sends love.

Waves_and_Smiles

Ugh, OH's response isn't helpful at all. Do make sure you grab some time alone even if it is having a soak in the bath where you can relax for a while. You need time to close off from everything for a while. He is very lucky to have you, you have been so patient.

Good luck with interviews, you will be fine! And thank you for passing my squish onto Fly.