Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

calleyw

Code,

Don't feel guilty as going to see the person one last time is really for you and not them.

if you can't face it then so be it.

give yourself a big duvet hug and pop in to the fort I have apple crumble made by my mummy and some extra thick turkish yoghurt which as JM points out is a lush alternative to cream.

Yours

Calley

Pyxis

Yes, Code, I agree.

If you don't feel strong enough to go, then so be it.

I did something similar. I was broken and had no reserves left to cope with it. So I didn't go. I don't feel bad about it, as I know that if I'd had the strength it would have been different.

((((((((Code)))))))))


Remember, flu of the brain. If you had physical flu, you wouldn't be able to go. If you have 'flu of the brain' it's the same.

Pyxis

The regular-ish repost!

Pyxis wrote: »

(The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(type of trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc.

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
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This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

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IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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!!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

codemonkey

Am taking time today to remind myself that in just a few weeks green will start sprouting through the ground, leaves will return to the trees and the world will have colour again. Until then, I hope for snow and beautiful frost patterns

mellymoo74

http://www.allthelyrics.com/lyrics/labyrinth_soundtrack/bowie_david_chilly_down-lyrics-77501.html

whitewing

Littlewing and I are watching Labyrinth too.

whitewing

..and there is room on the sofa for anyone who cares to join us.

mellymoo74

It's being remade
Which is wrong

Pyxis

whitewing wrote: »

Littlewing and I are watching Labyrinth too.

Isn't it a bit scary for Littlewing?

It scared me, the first time I watched it, and I was well an adult!

mellymoo74

Dark crystal (also a favourite is much scarier)
Love this film