Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

elsien

My company did that for me - there was some funding floating around to get CV updated which was quite helpful, given my last one was pretty much when I left school.
The people I found most useful though was a day put on by my mortgage protection insurance. They were far more help on how to get the best out of agencies, linkedin etc as they seemed to have moved with the times which wasn't entirely the case with the free funding people.

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

Aww monkey cat sounds adorable Georgie.

He's beautiful code! It's amazing how animals pick up on your moods. They just know when you need extra snuggles.

Pyxis wrote: »

You could give it to me to throw at Tea!

Tut tut Pyxis, I don't condone violence....what's your address? I'll send it first class!

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Georgie jobs market is picking up (as I am showing, getting interest anyway) the current company if it's a big redundancy will lay on a consultant to get LinkedIn cv etc sorted for him.

Hope so Melly.

Tea, you are doing exactly the right thing. Every thing no matter how insignificant it seems needs to be reported to the police. I'm so glad you got those locks changed. If he does anything else, get straight on that phone to the police. It may seem to you like you're making a fuss but you are not. It isn't worth taking any chances.

Pyxis

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Tea, you are doing exactly the right thing. Every thing no matter how insignificant it seems needs to be reported to the police. I'm so glad you got those locks changed. If he does anything else, get straight on that phone to the police. It may seem to you like you're making a fuss but you are not. It isn't worth taking any chances.

And whatever you do, DO trust your instincts. After all, you've known him a long time and the mere fact that you are imagining him being capable of dire things says a lot. Your head may try and rationalise it and deny it, but your subconscious will be picking up little things and putting them together and sending you warning bells, so don't dismiss your instincts or intuition or gut feelings.

Anything, anything at all, get on the phone to the police.

Penguin Do you know, it's much better to be proved wrong, feel embarrassed and sheepish, but be alive, than to be proved right, and be dead or injured. End penguin

Pyxis

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Wellyboots6

Yes it's my birthday, thankyou for the lovely messages
Currently being screamed at by Escapette, which doesn't help after I've had a stupidly busy day at work.
Sat on the rug in the living room having a 'pizza picnic'. No cake, got a garlic bread though if that counts?

Keep logging things Tea, it will make the police's job a lot easier.

Try not to worry Georgie, D will find something easily if he needs to. Anyone linked to this thread seems to have more job offers than they know what to do with! We certainly are a lucky bunch.

MU, you OK out there?

Waves_and_Smiles

Happy birthday Welly!

Hugs to all that need them, I am reading but finding it hard to talk right now. Something has been bothering me. Tiny penguin about suicide. It is becoming likely that Lemmy took a morphine overdose when he discovered he only had 2 months to live. I was coping fine with him dying until that. That would make 5 people who have been in in my life that have taken their own lives. I know I'm not that powerful but I feel to blame. Why do people I have met keep doing this? I feel like a curse. End penguin

I will be fine, I am colouring lots and keeping myself distracted. Still here with you all, just quiet.

mellymoo74

WaS he made his decision and it was the right one for him and very brave.
So if it was you (which it wasnt) you gave him the bravery to make the right choice for him

mellymoo74

Today was a good day
Then OH had an attack of OH and wrecked it, why, he's tired and had CBT today so has morphed into a !!!!

codemonkey

Back to work blues/anxiety has kicked in.

Plus there is nothing on the tv that I want to watch so bored.

mellymoo74

I know code
I'm watching judge judy