Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

tea_lover

You are definitely on a roll melly! Looks like 2016 is going to be full of opportunity for you.

WaS - hope you and your colouring are ok xx

Georgiegirl256

D just found out he's got a face to face meeting next Wednesday, so that is his first consultation. So 30 days from Wednesday he could be out of a job. It's all getting very real now.

Well done Melly! Like tea says, you're on a roll!

codemonkey

Well done melly. :j

Hugs for Georgie. At least you'll both know the situation. Next Wednesday is a long time to worry.

I am being mega lazy today and DA dog is assisting by being super cuddly.

Birdie85

Great news about all of the job offers Melly!

Not so great about your DH's work Georgie, but at least you'll know what's happening soon. Not knowing is the worst bit in these situations.

Yay for lazy days Code!

Happy birthday Welly! Hope you're drowning in cake. :bdaycake:

Pyxis that holiday/tour sounds great

Georgiegirl256

You're right code, it is a long time, we just want to know now.

Aww to DA dog cuddles. Monkey cat is being super cute too. He jumps up and we meet forehead to forehead and snuggle! He's always been snugly with us, but he's calmed down a lot lately and has been even more so. The vets wouldn't believe it's the same cat. :rotfl: He's a little snuggle monster!

tea_lover

Just had a call from the police to say that they've logged both of the incidents I reported online.

Which is great - but part of me does feel utterly ridiculous for involving the police about a couple of messages on an online dating site and a visit from a neighbour. It's not the things in themselves that are freaking me out (they all seem so minor on their own), more the mindset behind it if that makes sense. It's like, if he thinks that's ok, then what else does he think is ok. If I carry on not responding what will he do next to get my attention. What if he moves from upset to angry. All the things that race around my head at 3am every morning.

Penguin
It's like I can see this all in some horrible slow-motion inevitability that only ends when he kills me. Which is utterly melodramatic and to be fair he's never been violent or threatened violence but the whole thing just makes me feel so.... vulnerable. Which I really don't like.
End penguin.

codemonkey

Tea - it may feel stupid as one incident, although I still think it's creepy, but cumulatively, it's a very worrying pattern of behaviour which is escalating. Penguin i don't want to freak you out but I am so glad you changed the locks as I was worried he would come in and rape you. He just can't accept that you don't want him and in his mind it'd be ok. end penguin. Someone who just can't take no for an answer, isn't someone you can reason with. You've told him no, your family told him no, the police told him no and he's still persisting, bringing strangers into it and contacting you on dating sites. You need to log every attempt to contact you.

Aww monkey cat sounds adorable Georgie.

Pyxis

tea_lover wrote: »

If all else fails Georgie at least you could throw the candle at something (just blow it out first!)

You could give it to me to throw at Tea!

tea_lover wrote: »

Just had a call from the police to say that they've logged both of the incidents I reported online.

Which is great - but part of me does feel utterly ridiculous for involving the police about a couple of messages on an online dating site and a visit from a neighbour. It's not the things in themselves that are freaking me out (they all seem so minor on their own), more the mindset behind it if that makes sense. It's like, if he thinks that's ok, then what else does he think is ok. If I carry on not responding what will he do next to get my attention. What if he moves from upset to angry. All the things that race around my head at 3am every morning.
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Well, Tea, keep your phone by you at night, and fully charged, and at all other times too.
Could you ask the police if they have a victim support person for this sort of thing? I bet they do. It might help to talk this through with someone who is 'official' but not actually police, IYSWIM.
It's starting to make you ill now.
What a bas*tard. How dare he do this to you! Tell you what, let me throw the candle at him instead. I'm soooo angry, I feel like getting my armour on and buckling my sword! And I'm a pacifist!

Perhaps I should go and have a good LARP!

mellymoo74

You can self refer tea.
Worth seeing if the brave project covers this.

Resting now been busy

mellymoo74

Georgie jobs market is picking up (as I am showing, getting interest anyway) the current company if it's a big redundancy will lay on a consultant to get LinkedIn cv etc sorted for him.