Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Wellyboots6

Happy holidays Elsien and Pyxis!

Welcome kitty! I know how hard it is to lose a pet. My previous dog was a rescue I got when I first moved to my own place. He saw me through some very tough times. He died not long after I got quite a few things sorted in my life. It was awful, but now I see it differently. It was almost as though he was there to get me set up and settled, and when I was strong enough to cope he moved on. I like to think he helped me out (and me him, he came from an awful background) and then moved on when he knew I could handle things.
My current dog is another rescue and an absolute nightmare at times, but knows exactly how to distract me out cheer me up.
Would you ever consider another cat?

I think if you tell your new job about your autism they can't penalise you for it as it would be discrimination. They obviously think you are well suited to the job to have offered it you, and so by telling them they may be able to offer you more support if you need it.

Thanks for all the well wishes everyone, I appreciate it a lot.
I'm feeling a bit more positive at the moment so have given hubby a list of things to remind me of tomorrow if I get down again.
We've just been out to a friends party and were both drinking squash but enjoyed it. I don't miss alcohol at all, and even hubby is getting used to not drinking, not sure how long it will continue though!

Wellyboots6

If I don't update for a little while you may want to start cutting the virtual cake! Think my waters have just gone.

codemonkey

Yay welly!!

Errm, I mean....hope it's a nice, easy arrival.

Apparently I woke DH up at 6am with my snoring so cuddles on the couch with DA dog.

Welcome Kitty. I cried for straight days when my other dogs died. DA dog is my 'heart dog' (saying that makes me feel guilty about my other dogs who I loved too) so even thinking about him not being here anymore makes me sad. He was 5 when he came here and I'm so aware that we get less time.

Wellyboots6

I get like that too Code, thinking about Little Sod. It's awful but I already have a plan of where to get my next rescue once he goes as I cannot be without a dog. Didn't manage 24 his between my last. Some people prefer to wait and grieve, but I don't seem able to do that.

Off to hospital in a bit once I've peeled hubby off the ceiling, he is rather excited!

Indie_Kid

whitewing wrote: »

I am interested in how people disclose to employers etc. I have been advised against it: why make life difficult for yourself? is the comment I normally get.

I can't exactly hide my Autism. I attend a group on a Wednesday. There was a misunderstanding over something between me and another member and I felt I had no choice but to tell him. He pretty much told me he knew. He used to teach Communication before he retired; so probably realised pretty soon after we met. And I know (because I overheard) that at least 2 other people suspect I have it.

And when you do need adjustments at work, (I've got various issues, including issues with noise) it leaves you with no choice but to say something.

Welly - hope it's good news!

Georgiegirl256

Wellyboots6 wrote: »

It's awful but I already have a plan of where to get my next rescue once he goes as I cannot be without a dog. Didn't manage 24 his between my last. Some people prefer to wait and grieve, but I don't seem able to do that.!

I'm the same. After out first cat died, we were of course devastated, I think after about a week, I mentioned getting a new cat. I was in no way trying to replace Charlie, but really wanted to get another cat as the house just felt empty without a cat in it. D said it was too soon. But, then after another week (and me saying I really wanted to give another little cat a home for Christmas), he decided we should get another one too.

So 2 weeks after we'd lost Charlie, we went to our local RSPCA and found the one and only crazy furball that we have now. Everyone thought we were rushing into it and were trying to replace Charlie. As if we could do that, each and every animal has it's own personality. Charlie was so laid back and such a sweet little Garfield like guy, and this one we have now....well, he's well what can I say, he's a one off....no seriously, he's sweet but a little bit (quiet abit) crazy! Totally different personalities, and you have room in your heart for so many animals, so you are not replacing anyone.

Oooo good luck Welly!! How exciting!! Can you just hold on until tomorrow (cream cake day for me!)....just joking, no seriously I am!

Indie_Kid

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I'm the same. After out first cat died, we were of course devastated, I think after about a week, I mentioned getting a new cat. I was in no way trying to replace Charlie, but really wanted to get another cat as the house just felt empty without a cat in it. D said it was too soon. But, then after another week (and me saying I really wanted to give another little cat a home for Christmas), he decided we should get another one too.

We said that with our dogs. We weren't going to get another. But the other dog was being clingy and generally being a right pain back in the !!!!. And like you said, it's too quiet.

4 years later, mum talked dad into getting another dog. Partly as a playmate (the other dog doesn't know how to play) for one of the dogs.

Kitty777

Morning everyone!!!

@whitewing I told my previous employer a while after I joined them and I realised that my autism may affect my work (however it didn't). They didn't really say much, other than they were here to guide and support me through whatever I needed. The instore trainer also told me 'my door is always open if you need me' which was lovely...but I am quite independent at work so it was all good

I actually said to my boyfriend that my biggest achievement wasn't getting the new job, but the 'small talk' that I had with the interviewer while we were filling out the forms. About Christmas, family and my move etc...I managed to do that without having a meltdown or looking uncomfortable so points to me!!

@Wellyboots6 I wish you the best, goodluck!! xx

I am off to London for the day now, I will catch up with messages on here when I get back. I hope you all have a wonderful day!!

elsien

Welly, if you could time the arrival for before 4 pm, that would be lovely as it will give me the excuse to finish working my way through the cocktail list at happy hour.

dragonette

*hugs to Welly and offers hands for squeezing* will keep sending positive vibes for as quick and easy a birth as possible x

My pattern of getting a normal amount of sleep continues - problem is that means my pain levels are far too high!