Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

tea_lover

Pyxis wrote: »

I hope they told him to leave you alone?
And to leave them alone as well!

Yep. My dad said he seemed confused but harmless - which seems to be the general consensus of people who've spoken to him over the last few days.

I agree that he's harmless to me, but am getting seriously worried about him. I have such a bad feeling about this.

codemonkey

I'm wondering how much the whole lonely at Christmas thing factors into his behaviour tea? Also, not to freak you out but harmless can easily flip into harmful.

Well, I'm a mess. Just been invited for another interview for this job and as soon as I found out I burst into tears. I've said I'll go and Mr CP wants me to take this job but the fact I'm sobbing at the idea of it isn't saying much for my ability to handle this kind of change well.

tea_lover

You must have done ok on the maths test then? Well done

It's great that they want to see you again, but it can feel like scary pressure I appreciate. Guess you just have to try and see it as an experience and tell yourself you'll worry about the outcome later, for now just focus on the interview part and finding out more about what they have on offer. Try to see it as a confidence boost - which it really should be, they obviously want you! But that doesn't mean you have to take it.

Good luck with it all.

Waves_and_Smiles

Good afternoon all!

Welcome Zippy, I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your husband, that must have really hurt. I echo what everyone else said, I also wonder if he might consider CBT therapy? It isn't based in looking at your past, it is coping strategies for present day to day life. So for example with his work party situation it would give him a different perspective on it so that he could challenge negative thoughts it might cause. It isn't probing and he won't be requested to dredge up painful memories unless he wants to, it will help him cope with difficult situations as they occur.

Can I also say how much it touched me that you are so worried about him, I know that you are already a great support to him and that will help him a lot.

Hello, theresa I was wondering how you were doing. You can say anything you want here as often or as little as you wish. I hate talking on phones too, but you are doing the right thing to help you. It is scary at first but small steps. Be proud of yourself for what you have managed so far.

It does sounds as if FOH is very fragile mentally right now, tea. He sounds unwell and as if he isn't coping at all, that is no excuse for his behaviour, however. Do keep all correspondance he sends you and keep reporting to the police. You aren't going to harm him, in fact if he continues this path he likely needs help and by reporting it you will help move that along. Have a hug, I am so sorry that you are going through this.

I am on the next stage of my sleep treatment! I now have to eat within 3 hours of waking, 8 hours after being awake and eat nothing at all in the 3 hours before going to bed. My professor is struggling somewhat over what we do after this. He asked colleagues and they said strictly no sleep restriction for someone with psychosis, this would normally be the next step. He is looking at the possibility of me borrowing a sleep tracker from the university in the new year. This a watch-like device that I wear on my wrist that monitors my stages of sleep and wakes me with vibrations after a set time when I am not in deep sleep. It is all very interesting!

PS. Is it Christmas yet? I am sure I have been waiting for 6 months now. Your advent videos are keeping me excited Pyxis, as I see the days tick down!

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

I'm wondering how much the whole lonely at Christmas thing factors into his behaviour tea? Also, not to freak you out but harmless can easily flip into harmful.

Well, I'm a mess. Just been invited for another interview for this job and as soon as I found out I burst into tears. I've said I'll go and Mr CP wants me to take this job but the fact I'm sobbing at the idea of it isn't saying much for my ability to handle this kind of change well.

They must think a lot of you if you know you did badly on the numerical test. Look on it as an ego booster!

Remember, you don't have to take the job!

This second interview is also where you could bring up your problems and to ask how they could accommodate you. If they can't, then that's your answer! If they can, then more proof that they really want you!

So, suck it and see!

And you don't have to be pressurised into giving an instant answer......just say you'd like to mull things over, then go home and let it all sink in!

And for now.....forget it until after Christmas! :A

Waves_and_Smiles

What she said^ (Hi Pyxis!)

You are under no pressure to take this job, code. You have done so well to get to this stage, try looking on it that way. It is simply an exercise you are going through at this point, a little experiment to see how far you can get. There is NO obligation at all. Now let it go and look at sparkly things.

Birdie85

It's a really good sign Code, you're clearly awesome if they're still after you! Go you! Don't forget that there's no obligation for you to take the job if they offer it to you, don't rush to say yes or no.

I can't blame you at all for being worried about FOH Tea, but do remember that he's not your responsibility. Might be good to update his Mum so at least she's aware that he's worrying more people now so at least she's looking out for him. I really hope he stays away over Christmas.

codemonkey

Apparently I got decent scores which surprised me.

I actually can't stop crying. What on earth is wrong with me?

Waves_and_Smiles

What are the emotions, code? Fear? Insecurity? Shock? Change can be very hard, even if we actually aren't planning on changing anything the thought we might be able to can be very scary! Have a huge tinsely hug while I shake snowflakes over your head.

Georgiegirl256

Well done code! Change is always scary, you're bound to feel unsettled. Is the interview before or after Christmas?