Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Flybaby

JM - laughing so hard at all the comments and reviews on the unicorn meat...........and of course - accidently saw zombie jerky while I was there and, with my households zombie obsession, now have to buy that! Lol - pooping rainbows - that is going to keep me amused all day!

Flybaby

Welly - {squish} - anything specific or general carpness?
The SAMS are perfectly used to crying and sobbing down the phone - call them back and let someone help. Big {squishy} for you.

Wellyboots6

There's some specific penguin stuff, and just general yuck too.
I can usually keep it in a box but I think hormones have scuppered that today.
Got a midwife appointment later and was hoping to be able to hide and not go but hubby is taking me. Had an appointment with the horrible hospital doctor yesterday and didn't go to that either.
Not going to things is usually not a good sign!

And my face looks like a pumpkin from crying so I don't even want to take Little Sod for a walk. Halloween costume sorted though!

codemonkey

Welly, you can do a Web chat with the samaritans I think, or at the very least email them.

You are not alone. As a member of Team Was, you can tell us anything. If you want to penguin and are struggling, don't. If you're genuinely in crisis, we'll understand.

How to penguin on a tablet if the button isn't working:

Type (COLOR="White"]Your penguin[/COLOR) Change the ( to [ and the ) to ] though as those are only there so the tags will show up.

Georgiegirl256

Morning all! Sorry about the lack of posting recently. With me not having mental health problems as such, a lot of the time I don't know what use I can be, what advice I can offer and also, I don't want to potentionaly say something wrong.

A lot of you will be wondering "well why is she on a thread dedicated to mental health then?" Well, after losing my Dad, I really needed people to talk to, to get things out in the open, and you all offer such good advice in here and offer such good solutions too. I still have my down days (been having a few more lately, and with this year flying past so fast, it'll soon be the anniversary ) It is a lovely little thread (thank you WaS for creating it!) with the most AMAZING people on it!

So sorry that a lot of the times I can't offer much more than hugs, and most importantly of all , Walkers Sensations crisps....or cake! . But, hopefully I'll come in useful sometimes! :rotfl:

I guess I'm just having one of those days. Found put some really sad news about a family friend last night, and it's really unsettled me. Just in kind of a reflective mood I guess. Just wanted to say that although sometimes I don't know what to say or what advice to offer, I'm always reading and listening.

Georgiegirl256

Katy, definitely call the Samaritans if you feel the need. They are an awesome charity and most definitely can help you.

Wellyboots6

Thanks everyone!
The challenge of trying to type a legible reply has snapped me out of it a bit, so thank you.
Will attempt to penguin the main issues, and if anyone can spot what is hormone-fuelled and what is a genuine concern then let me know!

Medical/baby related pengu


Five days overdue now with baby and midwife appointment today where I think she will offer me a sweep and book me in for an induction.
Didn't want to have to have a sweep but preferable to an induction.
Terrified it won't work and I will need to be induced anyway.

Scared of that because it can take days, and you can be shifted around wards and beds in the hospital depending what stage you are at, and I don't cope with not knowing timescales and what is happening well. If it doesn't work then they would do a c section.

I have been worried all along about having to stay over night in hospital anyway. I'm not good at being away from home, and the idea of spending the night alone somewhere strange with a new baby is terrifying. I know nurses will be there but they won't be there all the time. The way my moods are I wouldn't want to be alone with the baby.

Next worry is, if I tell medical staff that then they will get concerned over babies welfare.

Also feeling very out of control. An induction or c section is someone else 'professional' deciding to take my baby out of my body. I can't get my head around that at all.

Ideally I would have had a home birth but its impractical and I have images of Little Sod thinking he is an honorary midwife and trying to help! I agreed to hospital as was hoping I would go in to labour naturally and would take the lead from what I could feel happening, and feel a bit more in control. Going in to labour on my own is still possible, just getting less likely.

Mum called last night and I ignored it as didn't feel up to dealing with her. Then hubby thought she might think I was in labour and try and turn up, so I rang her back. Made the mistake of telling her how I was feeling and my worries about hospital and medical intervention. She told me she wants me in hospital so that I can have the medical interventions when things go wrong. She has often said she can't understand people going overdue, as all hers were early.

Made me feel like she was expecting me to fail at having a baby and that I'd need professionals to help me as I wouldn't be able to do it. Also that she didn't listen to any of my concerns and just decided what she wanted to happen.

That then brings up all the family stuff as they have always made sure they are the ones who fix everything, have to do everything as us kids are not capable of doing anything right.

Upset hubby as told him I was tired of the whole thing and didn't care if I had the baby or not now. Also told him I don't actually like the baby and don't think I will when it is born as it is making me feel so rubbish.

Just feel like giving up and letting him try again with someone else who didn't end up such a mess.



Sorry it's so long!

Wellyboots6

You can't say anything wrong Georgie! Anything anyone says is only ideas and opinions, there is no right or wrong. Something you say may really help someone, so its always worth giving it a try, even if it seems to be totally different to the majority of opinions. Sometimes that is what is needed. So don't ever worry about saying the wrong thing!!

calleyw

Morning my Lovelies,

Well stop being sick if you can call it that. A bit scared to eat anything yet. Can hardly walk not my back but my hip this time.

Am at a cross roads with something. don't want to talk about it with anyone. But just wish when you ask a question you get a straight answer rather, than Calley don't say it like that. In my head I am like umm pardon. How else can me or anyone else see it but for what it is.

Anyone seen or heard from Melly. I know she is having massive stressful time at the moment.

Want hear something funny. I managed to knock my mouse in to my sick bowl and the batteries fell out and it got all covered in sicky stuff :rotfl:

Hugs, handshakes and squishes all round. And jaffa cakes but think I have put myself off after last night LOL!!!

Yours

Calley

codemonkey

Georgie -You've always been really supportive. I look at this thread as somewhere where people can discuss and learn about mental health but also somewhere you can receive unconditional support with all things emotional even if you don't have a label.

Penguin response

Welly, I've never had a baby so I don't know personally, but you're not a failure. Lots of women go overdue and many need induced. If it comes to an induction, it's not a reflection on you, just an intervention to make sure that you and escapee are safe. Same with a c-section. I came out of the sunroof and it didn't make my mum any worse at being a mother than she was with my traditionally born siblings. It's not wrong to need medical intervention and don't let anyone, including yourself let you feel otherwise.

As for the other thing, the way you take care of LS makes me think you won't do anything to harm escapee, although I understand your concern. Don't be afraid to ask for help though. Social services, your midwife team and health visitors aren't going to take your baby away if you're struggling, but they can arrange some help to stop you falling down that hole.

Also, pretty sure every expectant mother feels the same as you secretly. It's a huge life changing thing and it's normal to be apprehensive about it.

Huge hugs and squishes and labour inducing vibes.



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