Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Wellyboots6

Dreading Christmas. Always do, but this year it's different.
People keep talling about Escapette getting things from Santa. It makes me feel awful to think I'm going to lie to her for years. I really want her to have the magic of Christmas, but the thought of her eventually finding out I've lied to her breaks my heart.
Such a silly thing to get upset about, but I can't shake the feeling

heartbreak_star

Georgie and Code...I understand and send love and hugs and positive thoughts to you both. I miss my dad too, I missed him in essence for about 10 years before he died (vascular dementia) and then also in body when he finally left us (it was a release by then )

It took me five years to be able to hear Abide With Me before breaking down in a mess. I was hysterical at my Nan's viewing because it came on in the funeral parlour. The Olympic ceremony was a no-watch as well. Funnily enough, it still makes me cry but the music also fills my heart with joy because it's so uplifting - I can see why my father loved it so much.

*wells up and smiles at the same time*

HBS x

Georgiegirl256

That's not a bad thing to say at all code, infact it's perfectly understandable. It must be so hard to see someone you love very dearly go from a vibrant fun loving person turn into a shell of the person they used to be. It must be heartbreaking

Thanks kitty

Yup tea, grief is an absolute b*tch I think it a probably to do with me overthinking things (who moi?!) and with it coming up to the anniversary soon. I can't believe how fast this year has gone by.

Anyhoo, on a lighter note, I'm trying my best to get organised for Christmas, and so have just ordered some wrapping paper and gift tags off eBay and am browsing for gifts. I'll get up to Gretna yet....blooming weather grrrr!

Anyone got any chocolate? I'll swap it for some Jelly Beans!

Georgiegirl256

That was a hymn played at either my Nana or Grandas funeral HBS. It's such a lovely hymn, but such a tear jerker too. It might have been played at my Dad's, but I think I was in that much of a daze, I can't really remember. Love and hugs to you too x x

codemonkey

I don't feel bad that my parents 'lied' to me about Santa, or the toothfairy or anything else. I just remember the excitement of going to see 'Santa' and the rituals like leaving biscuits and whisky (I'm guessing my dad was 'Santa') and finding the perfect carrot for Rudolph. You're going to tell her a lot of lies over the years anyway. But if you don't feel comfortable with it, then you don't have to do the Santa thing. A lot of people don't. You and the bearded ones are her parents so it's your choice. You're overthinking this just now. I don't think you need to decide when she's only a few months old anyway. It's not like she'll remember.

I am dreading Christmas which is unusual for me, as what I really want to do is stay at home and watch films and eat buffet food, but DH doesn't want to do that, and now I have to cook proper food in a kitchen that isn't mine, and it was only supposed to be for four and my mum keeps inviting people, including the brother that I don't really get along with. I have decided the run up to Christmas will be my actual Christmas where I'll wear my onesie and watch rubbish tv and eat junk food and cheese. Soooo much Christmas cheese!!

Kitty Happy belated birthday.

geminilady

Wellyboots6 wrote: »

Dreading Christmas. Always do, but this year it's different.
People keep talling about Escapette getting things from Santa. It makes me feel awful to think I'm going to lie to her for years. I really want her to have the magic of Christmas, but the thought of her eventually finding out I've lied to her breaks my heart.
Such a silly thing to get upset about, but I can't shake the feeling

I can understand this,we bring our children up to be honest then tell them a big lie from when they are old enough to understand.I told my son the truth when he was eight as I did not want him teased by school friends,hardest thing I had to do as he was still convinced.If it helps he is an adult now and remembers the magic of Santa and is so glad he has the memories and would hate to have missed out on the magic of Santa.
Some people tell children just the Christmas stocking is from Santa and parents and relatives give the other presents,maybe this would make it easier

Georgiegirl256

I know I didn't think my parents ever lied to me regarding Santa, tooth fairy etc once I'd found out. Infact, I can't even remember when or how I found out? Although, my Mam is that matter of fact, she probably just told me right out "he's not real you know?" Or "you're too old to be believing this now" :rotfl: But like I say, I really don't remember, but I certainly wasn't upset or anything that they'd "lied" to me.

I don't really class it as lying as such. To me, it's about creating the magic of childhood. Like code says, I'm sure we can all remember the excitement of putting out a mince pie and sherry for Santa and a carrot for Rhudolf and then being so excited we couldn't sleep and then creaping downstairs to see if he'd been yet!

Anyhow, she's only a few months old, I wouldn't worry about it until she's old enough to understand about Santa, and then decide what you want to tell her then.

whitewing

We talk about Santa to littlewing. She doesn't really believe in him - a frightening concept - but she certainly believes in his presents! We all go along with it because of the joy family and friends get out of it, and we see it as history and magic.

If she asks outright, I would tell her the truth (if no other small children are around) but I would also make it clear that it is not her place to take the magic away for anyone else.

DS is considerably older and he still has a stocking so as not to destroy littlewing's Christmas!

codemonkey

geminilady wrote: »

I told my son the truth when he was eight as I did not want him teased by school friends,hardest thing I had to do as he was still convinced.

Are you sure? I pretended I still believed in Santa for a few years after I realised because I was worried I wouldn't get as many presents :rotfl: I don't think we ever had that talk, I think it just kind of tapered off as I stopped writing Dear Santa on my Christmas lists.

whitewing wrote: »

DS is considerably older and he still has a stocking so as not to destroy littlewing's Christmas!

I still insist on a stocking and new Christmas jammies.


Yay. My things have been delivered. Sadly, they're in the office and I am not, but I'll get them tomorrow. Everyone will my old phone to continue a little longer. I've had to take the battery out 20 times today.

Georgiegirl256

I'll be buying these this year! http://www.bmstores.co.uk/products/giant-christmas-stocking-302359 From what I remember from a quick glance the other day, they did seem to be fairly big, although I can't remember how big exactly? I wonder if they'll fit a coffee machine in? :think:

I usually get new jim jams off D, usually David & Goliath ones!

Glad your phone has turned up at last code :j

Got an item listed on eBay for £25 make me an offer....someone just offered £3! I mean there's trying your luck, and there's taking the P! :eek: