Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

codemonkey

Ooof they're creepy. I thought they were going to be like the microbe toys you get.

Georgiegirl256

Code, you're probably already sorted for packaging hamper wise (shredded paper etc to go inside, cellophane bag to go over the top etc), but I've just read on the Home Bargains thread, that they sell a packaging kit for about 79p. Don't know how big they are, but I think I'll check it out tomorrow as I might make a hamper up for my Mam and the MIL.

elsien

I prefer the drawings - they're spikier and I'm not keen on soft and fluffy.

I've also just had to google misophonia.

mellymoo74

Got up at 3am in an attempt to go to work for the train in
Failed
Tired, feel poo and really hope the fireworks calm down

tea_lover

Oh my, I had the most shockingly inappropriate dream about a manager at work. I need a boyfriend!!

piggles1

I once had an inappropriate dream about christian horner, F1 team principle at red bull. I don't actually think that way about him, but it was a long time ago and he's since married gerry halliwell so I think I got away with it

Still not written my thing, I decided a wall needed painting in the bathroom instead. But then I have allocated days for things. Weekdays are for chore type things, weekends I tend to forgive myself not getting on with stuff and do things that are fun instead. But then weekdays I'm very hard on myself not getting things done and seeing the days go by with it still not done.

I think those cartoons are quite good but I'm not sure on the cuddly toys. My illnesses hang about anyway so I'm not sure I'd want a personification of them sitting premanently in the corner of the room, or worse, on my pillow. And I can't imagine how long it would take me to make the thing myself.

I also have a bit of a dilemma. I want a kitty but I can't get to the places where they're available and the vet isn't nearby either. I had a lovely cat for two decades and I used to promise him I'd always be there to look after him and not get ill again and go back to hospital, and he kept me going. But he's gone now and I can't get over it. And then I think of all the kitties waiting for someone to look after them. I keep looking to see if anyone round here has any litters but there's none.

I'll penguin this little bit about not getting over stuff like that: I was never taught how to get over people not being here any more, and the same applies to my beloved cat, so I've ended up stuck at the guilt bit with all of them, and it's as if they're all sat in a gallery above me looking down and judging me. Even my cat sitting up there thinking he hates me which is awful. I loved him. But I can't remember any of the nice things from any of them before. The very first bereavement when I was small my mother stopped me crying and said I was only crying for myself. She had absolutely no sympathy and now I've lost all the family that I liked and actually thought something of me, and they're in that gallery.

Georgiegirl256

piggles, I can relate to your penguin.

Penguin reply

. I still feel a lot of guilt about my Dad and always feel like I let him down. It haunts me, and sometimes I find it hard to move on to the next stage of grief. Other times I'm ok and know he wouldn't want me to blame myself as there's nothing to blame myself for, but I do wish I'd done a lot of things differently. I guess (I hope) it'll happen in time, and I'm sure the same thing will apply in your case too. Your cat doesn't hate you, it'll be looking down thinking what a lovely, happy, and safe home he had . .

Penguin end

Regarding the kitty, do any of your local places have a website? If so, you could view all the cats on that, and maybe (I don't know if this is possible, but a women (CPL) we got our first cat off used to do it) they might be able to bring him/her to your home?

codemonkey

I have inappropriate dreams about the weirdest people, not all of them attractive. In fact I had a dream the other night that I was having sex with loads of people. It's always really awkward after one about someone in real life though as I'm always convinced that somehow they know, even though logically I know that's not possible :rotfl:

Not such a great day today - more death penguin My mum phoned to tell me my aunt has terminal cancer. Following on the heels of my friend dying, it's not a cheerful time. I ended up telling my sister I love her, which I haven't done for 30 years at least. end penguin.

codemonkey

Also penguin reply to piggles Your mum was wrong to stop you from crying and shouldn't have done that. Of course you're crying for you. Who else would you be crying for? Weirdly, it's only a couple of years ago that I realised a funeral isn't for the deceased. It's catharsis for those left behind. Perhaps you could work on making the gallery something less Statler and Waldorf and a bit more like they're encouraging you and making sure you're not alone. Would that help a bit end penguin.

codemonkey

And an actual penguin