Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Georgiegirl256

codemonkey wrote: »

I swear home made presents end up being more expensive than stuff you buy in the shops.

They probably are once you get going and put loads of stuff in!

We always made one up for my Mam & Dad because all the ones in the shops were too fancy and full of stuff they just wouldn't eat. So we went round the supermarkets and bought loads of stuff they buy everyday, ie tinned meat, tinned fish, soup etc and added some treats such as chocolates, nuts, drink for my Dad and candles for my Mam. Plus other gifts too. They loved sifting through to see what they would find next! Don't know if my Mam will want one this year though

Just bought my first Christmas present. Not for anyone I know, but for a secret Santa I'm doing.

Waves_and_Smiles

Hello Shazza! Welcome, it is lovely to see you. Hopefully you got some sleep. Can you speak with your daughter today and talk things through? Making it clear that you she is as important to you as your GD? We are always here to listen, crossing everything for you.

Eeeeep, Melly! When I had mumps the swelling lasted for a week so hopefully it isn't that, Glandular Fever is no picnic either though! Good luck at the clinic.

Take it easy today, MU. You did so well to go into work when you felt so ill but it really does sound like you need to be home for a while.

Code, there is no such thing as a bad hamper! Hampers are my favourite gift in the world!

I was a paranoid wreck yesterday who couldn't speak to anyone because I felt I was a big stupid idiot and today TOTM started so that explains that. I am psychotic enough without hormone changes making it worse. Hmph!

DomRavioli

Hi all

Sorry I haven't been around much, work has been manic and I've had problems too.

House is going well, survey came back clear and mortgage approved so just waiting (always waiting, I hate it so much). My OH has spent this morning teaching someone how to use a site he designed for them, the only problems are 1. I hate her (she was my boss for a month or so, she's got some serious MH issues and is pretty horrible), and 2. He's been gone for 4 hours. It takes about an hour to train a new user, and my mind is doing somersaults - I know what she is capable of, and I honestly know what I would do if anything did happen (I'd be on the news).

Not sure if its the anxiety mixing with past experience and coming up with completely illogical conclusions, or whether its a gut feeling.

Shoulder/back is hurting too, its not helping. But on the bright side I've lost a whole pound, which is a start.

Hugs to all that need them.

Waves_and_Smiles

Good news on the house, Dom! Hopefully it isn't too much longer.

Try not to worry about OH. She might be struggling to understand it or any one of other innocent problems. Hopefully when OH has taught her how to work the site neither of you need to have any more contact and you will feel better then. You know that OH loves you, he wouldn't throw away what you have. Have a hug, it is horrid when your mind goes into overdrive. You could always text if the anxiety gets too much?

onomatopoeia99

There are some people to whom you can explain computer stuff over and over until you are blue in the face and they just don't get it, no matter how you try. And even when it seems they have understood they ask a question which shows that they understand nothing.

If he's been there trying to explain for four hours, I expect your OH is completely frustrated and longing to get out of there!

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahaha, what Ono said! WaSp used to get so frustrated with people when he was trying to explain things that we had a code. When it got to the stage of him tearing his hair out he would quietly call my phone and then hang up. This was my cue to call him and tell him that there was an emergency and he had to come home, we did it on several occasions, often with the same customers. I reckon Ono is spot on.

Waves_and_Smiles

Argh, one of the Things-I-Will-Not-Think-About looks like coming true. The house next door which is also owned by our landlady has been redecorated and she is advertising the flats in it for £175 a month higher than our rent and not to benefit tenants. I am really hoping that she allows those of us who are living here to move out of own accord rather than evicting us. There is absolutely nothing I can do about it if she does decide to throw us out so I am trying hard not to worry. But still, Argh!

whitewing

WaS,

New tenants would surely be more of a business risk than tenants she already knows.

Also, if the place next door has been redecorated perhaps the higher rent is because of that.

And perhaps 'no benefits' or whatever it was, is just for the first couple of years while the decorations are new if she thinks that it will be better taken care of.

I don't think you need to worry.

codemonkey

WaS from a financial point of view, it's not worth evicting existing tenants and starting again, especially if those tenants always pay their rent and don't destroy stuff. Chances are she'll do this with flats that tenants have moved out of, but leave you be.

I was thinking of you when I was out with DA dog today. It was raining, the park was deserted and the trees around the water were all orange and red and it looked so lovely. You'd have loved it.

Fireworks going off all over again tonight. DA dog is actually quite calm, but I wish they'd stop now. When I was a kid I used to love fireworks. Seems they're much louder and less pretty now though or maybe I've just got a bit jaded.

Penguin regarding helping someone through loss My friend/sort of ex sent me a message last night telling me his dad had died. I told him I was sorry to hear that but I didn't get answer. I know he feels a bit lonely and isolated at the moment and I want to send another message (I don't have his phone number anymore since my phone bricked and he lives in England so I can't visit) but I'm worried it'll look like I'm bothering him or stalking him or something. What would I even say? My parents are still alive and I have no idea what it's like to lose them and I really don't want to say the wrong thing. end penguin

Georgiegirl256

WaS, a tennant who respects their home, pays their rent on time and is no trouble whatsoever, the landlady would be mad to evict you. I really can't see it happening. It'd be more hastle than it's worth for her to do so.

Code, all you can really offer to do is to lend an ear if he wants to talk, and a virtual (as you can't meet him) shoulder to cry on. Just knowing you are there if he wants to talk will be a great help and comfort to him I'm sure.