Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 2

Waves_and_Smiles

Hahahaha! Bondage fruit!

WaSp did tell him which was handy as all of the food is vegetarian so it may have appeared! I know from my friend that the temple here gives an awful lot to the local community for all sorts of reasons, they never publicise it though, in fact they are quite private and do not discuss religious or community matters outside of their temple.

One interesting thing he did tell me is if I ever needed a meal or somewhere to sleep to enter the temple and ask, someone is there 24 hours a day. They will call families and find someone to take you in for the night and feed you, no matter what your circumstance. He also told WaSp that if he ever needed to go somewhere urgently to always ask the temple to find someone to sit with me and they would quickly find someone willing to do so.

WaSp did point out to him that religion is a trigger to me so that may not be a good idea but he told him part of their belief is to be private in their faith and no one would ever mention it to me unless I initiated the conversation. They would be more likely to bring some food and cook for me and clean my flat instead! The sharing of food is very important to their beliefs. Several members are voluntary carers for people nearby who have different religions and it simply doesn't come up in conversation. They do things like this all of the time but it is rarely spoken about. It is obviously backed by a religious faith but they have no limitations on whom they will help in their local community, everyone is welcome to whatever they have to offer.

Wellyboots6

After all the talk of games I find the postman has delivered a parcel, more cards and dice...
If you dont hear from me again I have got buried under a pile of game expansion packs and am having to survive by chewing on dice!

jobbingmusician

What lovely people they are, at that temple!! xxxx I did a module on comparitive religions at the OU many many years ago, and we toured all sorts of temples. My favourites were the Sikhs - this really surprised me as I had thought of them as quite different before. On their 'altar' they have pictures of religious people and not only have Guru Nanak, who developed Sikhism, but pictures of ALL the main gods, including Christ. At the end of their services they have a meal for EVERYONE - this was originally introduced to challenge the practice of not eating with untouchables, IIRC.

I do love people who try to be inclusive and welcoming, which is one reason I think it's so important in this thread. (QUICK - Indian buffet being served in the fort! Suitable for all, including those like me who are fasting today!) :EasterBun

PS ETA - well done Calley! Absolutely brilliant!!!! x

whitewing

I haven't caught up properly yet - silly me started from the most recent thread and read backwards.

WaS, of course you deserve it! Anyway, you aren't accepting on behalf of yourself, you are accepting for the duvet fort folks! I think I am more excited than you are!

System

WaS how wonderful the young man, and his community sound, it lovely of them to do such a thing, and clearly he thinks a lot of you to have put you forward. I hope you enjoy it

I had a bit of a rough day, my mood crashed (yes..i ran out of meds...for the millionth time...i know ( so was feeling pretty crappy. Told Swain i didn't think i should see him when i was feeling like this. He said it was my choice but he'd like to see me so he can at least give me cuddles and try and make me feel better. He really is such a sweetheart. Honestly no previous partner has ever been accepting or understanding of my MH problems. Its always been an issue. And yet no matter how bad i'm feeling he always tried to make it better. I apologised for being like i am and he said there's no need, he knew it would be like this and the highs of being with me far outweigh the lows.


So yeah, i was feeling bad, but then i realised i actually have someone very special who's there for me and cares about (and apparently loves!) me, and now, i feel better realzing that.

whitewing

Wow, MU, he sounds like a real gem.

Wellyboots6

He does sound lovely MU, and its nice he focuses on helping you feel better. People often take it personally when you feel bad and feel like its something they have done, which then means that not only do you feel bad, but then you feel bad for making them feel bad! Swain sounds like he deals with it better than that though which is lovely and shows how much he thinks of you.

System

Wellyboots6 wrote: »

He does sound lovely MU, and its nice he focuses on helping you feel better. People often take it personally when you feel bad and feel like its something they have done, which then means that not only do you feel bad, but then you feel bad for making them feel bad! Swain sounds like he deals with it better than that though which is lovely and shows how much he thinks of you.

whitewing wrote: »

Wow, MU, he sounds like a real gem.

He said to me before he understands how hard things must be for me and that i'm "so amazing for managing to cope"

May have cried a little I certainly don;t feel amazing, and wonder if i am bloody coping half the time! But i'm touched he sees it that way.

He doesnt take it personally at all, all he wants to do is make me feel better, and he listens, if i go off on one of my depressive rnats he's just..there..he listens. he doesn't judge. Having someone with such compassion, patience and understanding is pretty much alien to me. I;ve had exes who dissuaded me from getting help, who blamed me and got angry at me, who didn't think there was anything actually wrong with me and that i just needed to snap out of it... :mad:

Right now i'm feeling very humble and very lucky to have someone like him in my life. For once i'm feeling a lot less alone in dealing with my illness. I saw something on facebook that said "when you replace I with We, Illness become Wellness" Whilst i will never be free of this illness, knowing i'm not dealing with it alone is something that is a huge help to me.

Sorry...i don;t mean to be all gushy and going on about it when i know others might be feeling not so great. Just not very often i feel i have something positive to post so felt i wanted to share

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, MU! Swain really does sound like a lovely guy. You are two lovely people together!

I am feeling thoroughly miserable. Heartburn started at 7pm last night and is still going so I haven't slept at all, I can't lie down or sleep sitting up. I have tried my prescription medication, simple anti-acids, milk, peppermint cordial, yoghurt, bicarb, pints of water and codeine, the latter just made it worse. All that seems to help is standing up, thing is I can't stand for long without being in pain from my legs and back. This is worse than the last time, then I felt fine unless I ate something, this time it is just constant burning in my chest. I am so tired and bliddy fed up!

Optimistic note-it has to stop hurting eventually...

Pyxis

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

He really is such a sweetheart. Honestly no previous partner has ever been accepting or understanding of my MH problems. Its always been an issue. And yet no matter how bad i'm feeling he always tried to make it better. I apologised for being like i am and he said there's no need, he knew it would be like this and the highs of being with me far outweigh the lows.
So yeah, i was feeling bad, but then i realised i actually have someone very special who's there for me and cares about (and apparently loves!) me, and now, i feel better realzing that.

Oh MessedUp! He's wonderful! Please, please can you clone him? Pretty please? Clone him! Clone him!
What a wonderful guy! Do let him comfort you when you're feeling bad, if that's what he wants to do. He will feel needed then. After all, if you were in bed with flu and he wanted to look after you and bring you hot drinks etc., I'm sure you'd let him do that.
The fact that he wants to look after you when you're in the pits says a lot about the man. Also, if he sees you at your 'worst' and still loves you, well, you've cracked it, lass! :T

Now, start cloning!






Edit eeeeek! I just did a great long edit and now just lost the lot!
Aaaargh!
WaS I was wishing you well!
Can't face writing it all out again!