Money Moral Dilemma: Who should pay for my non-refundable concert tickets?

Petaldust

If you can afford to spend £200 on someone's birthday gift for a band you don't even like then you can afford to lose the money. I wish I had that much spare cash to lavish on people who don't even sound like they're very good friends since you can't just be honest with her and tell her what's happened.

fierystormcloud

Petaldust wrote: »

If you can afford to spend £200 on someone's birthday gift for a band you don't even like then you can afford to lose the money. I wish I had that much spare cash to lavish on people who don't even sound like they're very good friends since you can't just be honest with her and tell her what's happened.

This ^^^

Also, she needs to just sell the tickets.

ALSO, why is this exact subject being brought up again? :huh:

This was done to death only a few weeks back.

meritaten

I am getting SO fed up of these 'Dilemmas' by the Forum Team! we have enough REAL dilemmas on here. I hate these fake ones.
either that, or so many people are registering as 'MSE *******'! actually I am not sure that the prefix MSE genuinely means they are really on the MSE team.

Pollycat

meritaten wrote: »

I am getting SO fed up of these 'Dilemmas' by the Forum Team! we have enough REAL dilemmas on here. I hate these fake ones.
either that, or so many people are registering as 'MSE *******'! actually I am not sure that the prefix MSE genuinely means they are really on the MSE team.

I don't think it is a fake dilemma:

Person_one wrote: »

Here's the original 8 page thread from about two weeks ago on this very board:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5311774

What's the point of rehashing the whole thing but with even less info to go on to provide help?

I agree with Person_one, there seems to be no point at all with this particular thread.

Do MSE mods think we're stupid - or maybe have the attention span of a goldfish & can't remember something from a couple of weeks ago?

paul2louise

Now I have seen original post with so much more detail it makes me cross. These dilemas are deliberately vague.

fairy_lights

How bizarre - did the OP think she would get more sympathetic replies if she had this posted again anonymously I wonder?

Pollycat

MSE_Nick wrote: »

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

I bought a concert tickets for myself and a friend as a surprise birthday gift. Before booking I asked her to keep a specific date free for us, which she said she would. However she's just told me she has to go to a wedding then. The £100-a-pop tickets are non-refundable, and though I might be able to find someone to take her place the fact is I don't particularly like the band - I was going with her because it's her favourite and she's never been to a concert before. Should she pay for one or both of the tickets?

This Money Moral Dilemma has come from the forum but has been edited and shortened so as to not identify the original poster.

"Not identify the original poster"?
I don't think so! :rotfl:
I think we all know who it is.

Maybe we should all agree with the OP (this time) and tell her that her friend should pay to avoid going through it all again.

trishno1

GIFT ... definition...." Something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation "
" A thing given willingly to someone without payment; a present: "


Get over yourself and flog `em on Ebay !!!


Oh! and don`t forget to give your friend half the proceeds.


Happy Birthday?

Elisecas

It's annoying but these things happen. You bought the tickets as a present. You can't expect her to pay for anything. She didn't even know what you were doing.

You can normally sell the tickets legitimately through Seatwave and recover the face value.

Then go and buy her a really great gift so as to remind yourself that your only intention was to do something lovely for your great friend.

Pollycat

Elisecas wrote: »

It's annoying but these things happen. You bought the tickets as a present. You can't expect her to pay for anything. She didn't even know what you were doing.

You can normally sell the tickets legitimately through Seatwave and recover the face value.

Then go and buy her a really great gift so as to remind yourself that your only intention was to do something lovely for your great friend.

The OP (of the original thread) does think her friend should give her half the money:

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

It seems there are 3 choices if these tickets are not sold.

1. She pays me nothing and I resent her and our friendship may eventually finish because of it.

2. She pays me the full amount and resents me and our friendship may eventually finish because of it.

3. She pays me half/my ticket/her ticket. I treat what I've paid as a unwanted/useless gift, she treat what she's paid as compensation to me for her mistake. This may not be the ideal for both but this option is to meet halfway on this and move forward. We may still resent each other, but not as much as the first 2 options.

Now I'm not saying I will sever the friendship if she don't give me half the money (I think she will offer if she can't find a buyer) and the first 2 may not ever result in the ending of us being friends.

FWIW, the OP of the original thread last posted on MSE (on her original thread) on 24/8/2015 at 7:50 pm.
She has not logged back in to MSE since 25/8/2015 at 11:25pm - that's over a week ago.

So how can this be 'This week's MoneySaver who wants advice'?