Money Moral Dilemma: Who should pay for my non-refundable concert tickets?

duchy

I wonder if MSE asked her if she wanted it reposted and rehashed ?

Alienna

...This is an old one - it says at the bottom of the MMD it's come from the forum but has been shortened as to not identify the poster. (:beer:That backfired!)

Just read the whole of the 'old' thread. :mad:

Sounds like a friendship on the brink of sinking. If there's going to be a grudge from either end, not a good friendship. If this was me, I would have been disappointed and upset - but only because the present and surprise would have been ruined! (That being said, I wouldn't have bought tickets for something I didn't particuarly like either!)

Also, in the original post, she gave her friend's background - what has where she came from or how hard a life she's lead got to do with whether she should pay something back?

Grrrr... she obviously doesn't realise gifts aren't usually given with terms and conditions attached, or understand the value of friendship.

Indie_Kid

The only time I've been bought tickets for Christmas or birthday, the other people have been interested in going too.

onlyroz

The problem with "surprises" is that they can backfire like this. If you don't give your friend a good enough reason for why they should keep a particular date free then don't be surprised if they arrange something else, and you certainly shouldn't expect them to pay up for something they had no idea about.

If you told them in advance about the concert and then bought the tickets, then you might have some justification for feeling peeved if they then begged off due to receiving a better offer for that day. But you can't expect them to pay up if they had no idea how much you would be spending.

Hermia

onlyroz wrote: »

The problem with "surprises" is that they can backfire like this. If you don't give your friend a good enough reason for why they should keep a particular date free then don't be surprised if they arrange something else, and you certainly shouldn't expect them to pay up for something they had no idea about.

If you told them in advance about the concert and then bought the tickets, then you might have some justification for feeling peeved if they then begged off due to receiving a better offer for that day. But you can't expect them to pay up if they had no idea how much you would be spending.

Exactly! Whenever I have arranged a very special surprise for someone I have always checked the date with them and told them something very special will be happening and they must be there. If I had spent that much money I wouldn't just make some casual informal arrangement. You can make someon understand the importance without spoiling the surprise. Anyway, when it comes to gifts you can't start demanding money for them whatever happens.

gaving7095

No - your friend has blown their expensive gift, which you could either choose to feel badly about or just say "Oh well - life's too short".

Whereas you - according to what I'm seeing here - get out of seeing a band you don't like AND potentially get to make some of the gift money back! Score! :-)

What, exactly, was the "dilemma" again?!

Ebenezer_Screwj

How very rude of your friend to dismiss her prior engagement with you in favour of what she presumes to be a better offer. There is little you can do except trying to find another couple to take them off your hands.

Feline2001

If this band have fan message boards etc maybe you could post on there with what has happened and ask if anybody has tickets for another date they are willing to swap? That way you don't waste money, and your friend still gets her wonderful present? Maybe to encourage someone to swap you could offer to downgrade your seats, so they get the bonus of better seats?

happyinflorida

Oh !!!!!! - sell them and shut up

Some friend you are

happyinflorida

Ebenezer_Screwj wrote: »

How very rude of your friend to dismiss her prior engagement with you in favour of what she presumes to be a better offer. There is little you can do except trying to find another couple to take them off your hands.

It's a wedding and that does take president you meanie