Childcare- desperate

quidsy

So you mum takes over in the afternoon for a couple of hours? Most aupairs or live in nannies that I know do 8-6 as standard. The hours/salary can be negotiated. It's a temporary measure for another 18 months until ft nursery with 15hr a week funded, comes into play

quidsy

but the hours I need (I am not in 8am- 6:30 pm)

I not we?

And you husband, what hours does he do?

amalis

My husband works 7 to 6:30. Some weeks he works only4 days, but there is no way on earth he would look after baby all day

Spendless

I live somewhere where part-time jobs that are during childcare availability hours are rare. The childcare bill was equivalent to my wages when my eldest was born. No option to go part-time. I had to find an evening/weekend job to fit round my husband's hours.

If you can't find the childcare availability and your Mum can't help out, your husband is going to have to look after baby.

If you give us some more details, we might be able to offer some ideas. What hours and days do you both work. How much do you need to earn?. That's need not want or like.

quidsy

amalis wrote: »

My husband works 7 to 6:30. Some weeks he works only4 days, but there is no way on earth he would look after baby all day

You seem so matter of fact about it. Like it's something you just accept passively. Is this something he has TOLD you or something you assume based on past behaviors?


Is he on a other websites looking at childcare options? Or researching nursery/nanny/au pair costs? Or are you doing all the work like a mug?

GwylimT

So on the days your husband chooses not to look after his child what is he doing to solve the childcare situation?

When we had out first we both dropped down to part time hours so we didn't need to rely on childcare. A fit and healthy person of that age would struggle to look after a baby fulltime.

amalis

GwylimT wrote: »

So on the days your husband chooses not to look after his child what is he doing to solve the childcare situation?

When we had out first we both dropped down to part time hours so we didn't need to rely on childcare. A fit and healthy person of that age would struggle to look after a baby fulltime.

Oh, dont get me wrong, he is not just sitting on a sofa watching TV. On "free" days he is aither taking some extra job or studying for the importnat qualification exam he should pass soon. Thats current situation.
But even without exam he prefers to take extra work, just not ot stay at home with a baby.

marleyboy

amalis wrote: »

My husband works 7 to 6:30. Some weeks he works only4 days, but there is no way on earth he would look after baby all day

Then what kind of a DAD is he?

I dread to think what would happen if you took ill and had to spend a short spell in hospital.

GwylimT

amalis wrote: »

Oh, dont get me wrong, he is not just sitting on a sofa watching TV. On "free" days he is aither taking some extra job or studying for the importnat qualification exam he should pass soon. Thats current situation.
But even without exam he prefers to take extra work, just not ot stay at home with a baby.

So what childcare arrangements is he making?

amalis

GwylimT wrote: »

So what childcare arrangements is he making?

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