Men and women being friends

System

onlyroz wrote: »

Even if you are both happily married to other people?

What's that got to do with it? Feelings of desire just don't switch off cause your married to other people.

VestanPance

I don't think men and women can be friends. I have female acquaintances, not friends. I'd see them when out with a group, but never on a one to one basis.

Pretty much every guy I know who has been "good friends" with a women has had a huge crush on them.

Grenage

Gavin83 wrote: »

I think you've misread the post.

Thank you, and yes I think the words were taken the wrong way.

I'm not saying I view women as sex object, or that they are in any way unequal to men, or have no value as friends. I'm just saying I don't entertain active friendships with women; active friendships being going off to the cinema together as a couple, or inviting them round for a beer and a chat, or going off to a museum.

Two reasons; men and women are generally different enough that I would be a bad friend to a woman, and they to me.

I don't want to foster a situation where feelings may develop through long-term contact - not when I don't have to do so. We're all human.

PenguinOfDeath

I must be weird then, having worked in mostly male dominated places I have many male friends who I would never have romantic feelings for, and vice versa. It is very possible to get on well with someone of the opposite s ex and not fancy them...Eww it would be like seducing my brother!

Indie_Kid

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

I must be weird then, having worked in mostly male dominated places I have many male friends who I would never have romantic feelings for, and vice versa. It is very possible to get on well with someone of the opposite s ex and not fancy them...Eww it would be like seducing my brother!

I must be strange too then, because this is how I feel.

Grenage

I'm pretty sure nobody said that one view is right, or another is wrong; nor did they say the majority do this, and the minority do that.

We do whatever we're comfortable with.

System

There really is only room for one male in my life.:)

Well apart from me grown up kids that is...

JohnFree

There is nothing wrong with it! As long as they dont have history or feelings for eachother

System

I have some good friends who are male, as mentioned before my best friend is a guy (and shock horror also an ex! :eek: ) but we've been friends for over 10 years, i get on great with his gf who i also consider a great friend and i'm honorary aunty to their son

I think people who assume people of the opposite sex can't be friends probably have their own insecurities somewhere.

Wilma33

Delree wrote: »

I used to have a more idealistic viewpoint and scoffed at my friend who told me this pointing to a long standing friendship I had with a former work colleague. Years we'd been friends, then one night we were having a drink she took my hand and asked me back to hers.

Did you go??