Wedding gift for niece - how much to spend

TBagpuss

One of my sisters is telling me that I need to go up the day before the wedding so that I can look after my mum while everyone else is busy.

Why you? It is reasonable for the sister whose daughter is getting married to be occupied with that but your other siblings should be just as able to help out with your mum. It is fine for you to tell your sister "I'm sorry, we won't be arriving until the day of the wedding"

Rebel_Cause

We were invited to a wedding, both the bride and groom were on five figure incomes and asking for money as a present. We didn't go as we thought it was in poor taste to ask for money when they are both on combined incomes of £50,000+

I thought the prescence of the guests would have been enough!

Bella73

TBagpuss wrote: »

Why you? It is reasonable for the sister whose daughter is getting married to be occupied with that but your other siblings should be just as able to help out with your mum. It is fine for you to tell your sister "I'm sorry, we won't be arriving until the day of the wedding"

I agree with the above. Let someone else look after your Mum. You are spending enough of kitting out four of you, driving up and back and giving a gift.

As for the gift I would personally give £50 and the maybe a small photo frame from the teenagers, who cares if they don't want a photo frame it is a gift end of.

Stop worrying so much about what people think, at the end of the day a wedding is about the wedding vows and the couple being married, as long as you don't dance on the tables naked or anything I am sure your niece and new husband will be delighted with whatever you wear/choose to give.

Counting_Pennies_2

Going to weddings is very costly, you are going as a guest and there is no compulsion to provide a gift to the cost of the overheads of each guest attending.


I would suggest giving a gift you are comfortable with. Do not feel you have to give money, a nice vase or photo frame from a shop you can afford, perhaps in glass or chrome that is very plain so isn't easily distasteful if you don't know their preferences.


If you do wish to go for cash go for what you are happy with. £25 is a very generous gift, and as you state your income is low and it will pinch if you give more.


At our wedding we invited a few guests who were friends of my inlaws. One guest, who had recently made a huge amount of money from selling shares in a family business, gave us £2.50 napkin rings. Those were her choice and they were very gratefully received and have been well used.


It is not about the value of the item or the means of the person giving it. It is what they feel they are happy to give.


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