I WILL get there!!

kirtsypoos

Ah that makes me feel better! I actually gave birth weighing 4kgs less than I was when I got pregnant so the GD wasn't all bad for me :rotfl: 20 days post birth and I'm 14kgs less than I was pre-pregnancy, I can get into clothes I haven't been able to wear for years!

We have discussed it and would want to wait until donut is 2.5 until we try again so he will be at nursery and have his free hours by the time new baby arrives, but it will be dependant on what the docs say about the endometriosis and PCOS now I don't have the luxury of pregnancy masking the symptoms! I'm not due to see my gynae for another 6 months so hopefully the pregnancy has had a good effect on the issues
My sister is struggling at 32 weeks pregnant with an 18 month old and she's had a fairly easy pregnancy so I can't imagine HG/GD/SPD and a toddler :eek: xx

XSpender

Congratulations on the arrival of Donut! Sorry I am late to the party but I have not had much MSE time lately.

I desperately wanted to breast feed DS and managed a week and a half with formula top up but as he was getting more blood than milk the midwife convinced me to stop. He is a healthy, bright, strapping almost 8 year old now with a healthy appetite who will eat a wide range of foods.

I know it feels awful if you have to stop but you have tried your best and you have to do what is best for you and baby whether that is continuing to do what you can or moving on to formula.

System

Your poor sis. When I was 32 weeks pregnant my eldest was 21 months. I had SPD, insomnia, and genuinely feeling rubbish & yeh it was really hard. All worth it though Just kept telling myself it was only temporary! Will never forget having to walk half a mile carting a huge bottle of milk and picking up my daughter whilst being 8 months pregnant though :eek: The monkey didn’t want to walk!

Wow on the weight loss!!! I put on 4.5 stone with mine :rotfl: lost it though thank god Well done!!

Fingers crossed that pregnancy has had a good effect on the endo and pcos

Mummy_bear

kirtsypoos wrote: »

Mummybear, was having the tongue tie snipped awful? We have to decide what to do and everytime I think about it I end up in tears, I'm scared it will hurt him lots and then won't make any difference

It is definitely worse for parents. They generally do it in another room where you're not present. Baby does cry but who wouldn't with gloved fingers prodding the inside of your mouth. I believe there are no nerve endings under the tongue until around 16 weeks of age so they don't actually feel the snip.

There will be a bit of blood. You'll be encouraged to feed straight away - which I've always found to be a heck of a lot easier when snipped. The bleeding will stop very quickly as does the babies tears.

Turns out both me and DH are tongue tie which explains why our mums struggled feeding us.

In some cases the tongue tied reattaches - so that is something to think about.

All the best with what ever decision you make x

monz

Hun end of day you do whats best for you, you will know the decision and that will be right so dont beat yourself up

scoobysnax40

Hi Kirsty,

Discovered your diary after I joined MSE about 10 days ago and have just finished reading the last post.

Wanted to drop by and say 'Hi' :hello: It certainly has been an emotional and hugely successful almost three years for you and I wanted to offer my congratulations on being debt free (besides the joint debt) and more importantly, on achieving your goal of being a mum. I have a friend who suffered terribly with endo for many years and was told she would never have kids. Thankfully, the doctors got it wrong and she has an adorable boy and girl now. Delighted for her, as she is a great mum and delighted for you now also

I'm starting out on the debt busting this month and, although I half-expected this to be another half-arsed attempt by me (one of many over the years), I'm inspired by your story and your love of spreadsheets; so much so that I spent an hour last night setting up one of my own.

I'm also intrigued by PAD and have found the thread here on MSE - I've gone through some of it already and it's very informative and helpful. Like you, I love round figures so the whole PADing thing is really appealing to me.

Keep up the good work, and enjoy every minute of your maternity leave. The years go by so quickly.

Scooby

kirtsypoos

I've been rubbish at updating again in my defence it has been a busy and quite rough few days!

Thank you so much with persevering with my rather long diary scooby! I wish you all the best with your debt payments, PADing really does make all the difference. It was invaluable for me, and the PADers are a lovely bunch who will encourage you all the way

Went for donuts tongue tie consultation on Thursday and I expected to be able to talk it through with OH then book the appt but they were all set to do it there and then the specialist had a look and a feel and it was much worse than we were originally told - he couldn't move his tongue from side to side at all, couldn't stick it out past his gums and had no undulation movement of the tongue to get the milk - no wonder the poor mite hasn't been going on the boob, he must have been starving for the first few days!
I'm still not over it - I had to hold him down and hold his mouth open while they did the procedure which was over quickly and felt like a hard pinch to him according to the specialist - he was inconsolable for 5 minutes and wouldn't entertain eating even from a bottle. I was in bits and am still feeling so guilty. I know it was for the best but he has been really unsettled since. I was told to expect it as he is getting used to being able to move his tongue for the first time but my happy baby has changed to one who cries constantly, even in his sleep.
We have had a breastfeeding breakthrough today though, he has fed from me for all feeds apart from 2 expressed bottle feeds. Cluster feeding isn't much fun but it's what he wants and needs so it's what I'll do

Not much MSE news going on here, more fire fighting with lack of sleep and I've got a cold and throat infection so everything hurts which makes the lack of sleep seem worse. Fingers crossed I get my happy baby back soon xx

sashybo

Aww poor donut & poor you, Kirsty. That doesn't sound nice at all but as you said it's for the best. Don't feel guilty, once he's recovered he won't remember it & it will make things much easier for both of you - better now than when he's bigger. :T

Hope you get some sleep & feel better soon.

PositiveBalance

Ooh, that does sound rubbish, Kirsty, but at least it's done now.

In some ways, doing it there and then was a kindness to you - it stopped you having extra time to work yourself up about it.

I hope things are settling down for you now.

Big hugs. :kisses3:

dawnybabes

Don!!!8217;t feel,guilty - he won!!!8217;t remember it and if it!!!8217;s helping him then it!!!8217;s all good.