Dumped out the blue....

Maddybee33

hes 24 and im almost 35. The thing with the age difference, it never made a difference cos he was quite mature for his age and said he didnt like girls his own age, had been there done that with the going out partying etc.

People are never mature for their age. There will always be something that sets someone off, it's not always obvious- but it's there. Often the people who seem mature, are the least mature.

I know that this probably isn't what you want to hear (especially coming from a 22 year old x-)) but 9 months is not a long time to feel secure. It's a very small amount of time that almost anything can happen in. I've learnt that, from my parents' divorce, almost nothing is completely out of the blue, there are signs to look for.

Also, my boyfriend is 24- we both hate partying, but that doesn't make us mature or immature, it's just down to preferences.

19lottie82

I'm sorry but I'm another who thinks he cheated on that night out, and went into panic mode. People don't end a relationship like that for no reason.

System

It is all a game he is playing, he will be expecting you to chase after him to give himself a sense of need and to make you think you need him. The old relationship status switch is a cheap blow because he knows you would look but you have given him 1 point by deactivating your fb. He is now 1 up on you and every time he calls or texts you will come running.

You can believe me on this, i used to be a bit of a player

j.e.j.

Spinkz wrote: »

It is all a game he is playing, he will be expecting you to chase after him to give himself a sense of need and to make you think you need him. The old relationship status switch is a cheap blow because he knows you would look but you have given him 1 point by deactivating your fb. He is now 1 up on you and every time he calls or texts you will come running.

You can believe me on this, i used to be a bit of a player

Spinkzy, you old dog :rotfl:

System

j.e.j. wrote: »

Spinkzy, you old dog :rotfl:

Jejjy i'm not old or a dog but i am the donne de cafetiere when it comes to women

duchy

I wouldn't see him just yet.

I'd wait a couple of weeks. If it really is love then it won't hurt to wait - and it will give you a chance to work out what you want from this relationship -and if he is capable of providing it. Same for him.

The biggest red flag for me is that he keeps you away from his friends. I do think he cares about you - but whether that is enough or if he needs to grow up first and realize that "mates" don't come first when you are in a relationship first is something he needs to work out.

duchy

Spinkz wrote: »

You can believe me on this, i used to be a bit of a player

Of course you did Dear

System

duchy wrote: »

Of course you did Dear

You're already calling me dear. That's me teasing those pheromones of yours

I can tell you how this will play out. He will keep the game going for a week then tell her he cheated (but never had sex) and that he left because of all the guilt and that he loves her and cant live without her and she'll give him another chance.

duchy

Spinkz wrote: »

You're already calling me dear. That's me teasing those pheromones of yours

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Of course such perception illustrates what a "player" you are (in Spinkz world at least)

Any man who claims to be a player -generally isn't !!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Now leave the OP alone - Her bloke isn't a player he's immature -and the two only sometimes go hand in hand. From what she says he's just immature not both.

I really hope she takes some time for herself before even thinking of taking him back though.

System

duchy wrote: »

Of course such perception illustrates what a "player" you are (in Spinkz world at least)

Any man who claims to be a player -generally isn't !!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Now leave the OP alone - Her bloke isn't a player he's immature -and the two only sometimes go hand in hand. From what she says he's just immature not both.

I really hope she takes some time for herself before even thinking of taking him back though.

I'm not any man but you'll see i'm right dear when this thread concludes and that your any man philosophy is incorrect!