Finding Mr right.....

pinkandblueshoe

I wouldn't touch zoosk with a bargepole. Or badoo or whatever its called now.

vodkachick68

torbrex wrote: »

Where were you 6 weeks ago when I was looking for someone to go to Hawaii with me?

Ha ha blast I missed out on that opportunity,never mind there's always next time lol

vodkachick68

pinkandblueshoe wrote: »

I wouldn't touch zoosk with a bargepole. Or badoo or whatever its called now.

Oh really can I ask why not zoosk? What about match.com?

pinkandblueshoe

It's just rubbish. Match, as far as I know a lot of people who are on the free dating sites are on match as well. Plus Ive heard of tales of people feeling that match really isn't good value for money and you also have to watch how long you sign up for as I believe the payment renews.

I think the best way to see how rubbish zoosk is is to have a look on it yourself. One person I did see on zoosk was a family member's mate, who had his profile pic with his wee boy (and he's in a relationship).

Im not a fan of dating sites full stop, speaking as someone who is 40 something and single, far far too many time wasters on them all as far as Im concerned.

marleyboy

Met my Partner here on MSE. It wasn't planned and we were not particularly looking, were both in our mid 40s and are now a happy family, so don't give up hope. Let it find you, what is destined to happen will happen without having to look for it.

pinkandblueshoe

Id also stay well away from Tinder, some people might find a life partner on there, but a lot of folk are on there looking for a casual hook up (and if thats what folk want, fine).

Retroguyuk

vodkachick68 wrote: »

I am a really sociable chatty person and easy to talk to,I just find the whole pof malarkey hard work!! Do you think it's worth joining a paying dating site? If so which ones are good...I was thinking of zoosk?

I don't have any experience of Zoosk myself, but I've heard that it's not that great. I've always used Match, and found that pretty good. There are a few people who think that they create loads of fake profiles to try and encourage people to subscribe to see the contents of emails they've been sent, but I've never had a problem with that personally.

It's worth considering that although you'll probably get less volume of messages on a pay site than on a free one like POF, and that the standard should hopefully be slightly higher, the principle is pretty much the same. If you find POF hard work, it's unlikely you're going to find a pay site much better- what is it that you're finding hard going? You're always going to need to spend some time trawling through a certain quantity unwanted messages, for example. It's like anything in life really, if you want a decent result, you've got to put the time and effort in.

onomatopoeia99

vodkachick68 wrote: »

I am happy in my own company and do like certain aspects of the single life such as doing what I want when I want and having the bed to myself lol. It would just be nice to meet someone to share things with and go on holiday and meals out and just have general banter with

I'm a similar age to you and I (and I suspect, most of the single people reading this) understand this completely. Living alone has many upsides, but life is a journey better shared. At least I feel it is.

vodkachick68 wrote: »

I am a really sociable chatty person and easy to talk to,I just find the whole pof malarkey hard work!! Do you think it's worth joining a paying dating site? If so which ones are good...I was thinking of zoosk?

My cousin was trying to get me to sign up to Guardian soulmates last time I saw her, as she said it was very good (she met her girlfriend there, and doesn't have "Guardian" politics) and even offered to help me write me a profile. Of course being male I've done exactly nothing about it so can't say how good it is from personal experience.

mintymoneysaver

I used PoF. Signed up after a year on my own. Had a few decent dates, a few flirty chats, and then met up with a bloke who had only just split up with his wife, wasn't really sure why he'd joined, and I just met him for a coffee as I quite liked him as a friend.

Over a year later we're still together. I still have my single life, still have my bed to myself, still have all my friends. But I also have a really good man who I see at least once a week, have a great time with and who happily shares his bed with me!

Maddybee33

I've had a few dates but there is never any chemistry or spark there for me.

Personally, I think the 'spark' is an over-hyped expectation that's been reinforced by women's magazines and dating shows. You COULD have the 'spark' but have nothing in common with someone, and I don't think it would last long at all.
Or, you could find someone who you may not necessarily feel the 'spark' instantly, but you have tons in common with and eventually it comes. There is some wisdom in what your friends say (although it might be quite annoying for you), in that people who 'try' often don't get it- it happens when you least expect it.
If all else fails, I've always held the belief that cats are better than people anyway. :-)
Good luck.