Weekly Flylady Thread 8th June 2015

missymoo81

Mrs MP it does sound like you're doing a lot, be kind to yourself. Yes I agree with everyone pigpen, it seems you do need a hug! (((Hugs))) you know you love all that touchy feely stuff really! *runs before something gets thrown*
Thanks to whoever it was that sent me GUAG thoughts. I put the littlies to bed and didn't stop for 2 hours!!!!! Didn't follow the list sorry, but I have tidied the rest of the clothes from the floordrobe, put some rubbish out, cleaned the work tops, loaded the dishwasher, washed up, cooked some rice for the next few days, got majorly freaked out by finding rice weevils or whAtever horrors they are!!!!!!! How dare they eat my food!!!! Gutted I had to throw a 2/3rds full bag of brown rice away!!!! Especially as on tiny shopping budget this week, literally about £10, as had to buy a new blender as the motor on mine keeps burning out and stopping, managed to get an amazing deal on a Kenw00d one though! So trying to make up the difference with tiny food shop, freezer and cuoboards are bursting so shouldn't be a problem.

The most amazing thing I have done this evening is..... I've cleaned 2 major hotspots one of which is the top of the kitchen island, I haven't seen the top of this for about 2 months!!!!!!!!

justD_2

Finally some time to post, disaster of a day, especially since it's my first. Not sure i managed anything except keeping boys enterained. Did cook dinner for the next 3 days, but oh pulled a face at it when he got back from work. Tried to do some damage control in the garden but couldn't find my tools. Exhausted and feeling a bit down. Tomorrow is another day, can only get better. Definitely need some tips on how to get anything done with 3 smallies.

Natty68

Evening all, thank you for the hugs today. I really need them today, if anything can be thrown at me then it can... All I want to do is just bury myself under my duvet and not come out until winter...it's that bad

Unfortunately I haven't got over my cold which turned into bloody pneumonia, so I am still fighting that off. And I keep getting a sore throat and losing my voice, then my glands swell up again and now my ear has swollen up too...:mad: I'm also so exhausted that it's unbelievable, if I try and do anything like housework I am knocked flat on my back..it's not funny.

My FIL keeps being admitted to hospital as he keeps passing out, and the bloody hospital keep sending him home without finding anything out. I personally don't think they are doing enough tests but my MIL won't stand up and make herself heard etc.. She won't even query why they keep send him home, only for him to be admitted again 48 hours later. And I'm the one that she rings for support..and I personally can't handle it at the moment. I have enough going on..

My Dave has been undergoing heart tests and has had an angiogram a fortnight ago, with the upshot of this being that he is going into hospital this friday for heart surgery. I am having to be strong for him and I don't want to let him know how scared I am because I know he is absolutely terrified. He's only 54 and hasn't even been getting symptoms of heart problems. This was picked up on a statement to his Dr that his father has heart problems and he wanted to update the Dr in case anything arose in the future. And his Dr gave him an ECG and within a couple of days Dave was in front of the top heart surgeon for the county.. Scary stuff, but at this time we are so glad we have private health care as I really couldn't imagine having to wait with this over our heads. Now he is going in to have heart surgery and will be at home for 4 weeks recovering.. On top of that we told his mum about what was happening and she turned round and said, to quote "I can't cope with this, I have enough to cope with". His dad got quite angry and was annoyed that Dave was having this surgery and they wouldn't offer it to him. Well there is a difference in age, Dave is 54 and his dad is 85. His dad's heart consultant won't do it and has told him why but he won't have any of it.

On top of this my adopted niece has been running away from home, living rough and sofa surfing on a regular basis. She is being brought home 2, 3, 4.30am in the mornings by the police, and she hasn't even said sorry. She has got in with a rough crowd and basically wants to spend the time with her friends rather than stay at home. She is 15, 16yr tomorrow - has aspergers and has the mental growth of a 10yr old. But she wants to be treated like an adult and can't understand why we won't. My "sister" is going frantic and is now looking at putting her into voluntary care for a while. Mainly because she has said she doesn't want to live with the family, but can't give a reason why..which is annoying in itself. She says there isn't a problem with them she doesn't want to live there at the moment. She wants to be with her friends. She was attacked by one of these so called friends, and has bite marks all over her arms and back. The police have been notified and she has made a statement and it will be taken further.. Everyone is at their wits end with all this. I have offered to have her stay with us temporarily which is being considered because she wants to stay here. BUT it is in the town that she doesn't want to be in.. I love her dearly and this is tearing me apart because she won't accept any help, or even explain why she is like this. She is on a path of destruction and won't budge. She has no idea of stranger danger or boundaries..which is scary. These friends are a bad lot but she can't see it, all she says is that they understand her.. So we are playing a waiting game now..

Therapy was also hard today as I found out a couple of things about myself that I wasn't aware of and it sort of hit me quite badly. But then I suppose that's what therapy is about..

Oh and to top it all Dave's bank are making redundancies and closing branches. So we aren't sure if he will be affected, although they haven't mentioned the corporate side of things which he is manager of. Plus apparently he actually wants redundancy, as do a lot of people that have been in the bank the same time as him or longer. But I am just worried about it all, especially with him having this surgery etc..

I suppose my mental health is starting to suffer too as I am slipping back into some bad habits of mine which if I'm not careful won't do me any favours. Oh gods I hate having a MH illness..

So there you have it...!!!!!!!!

Sorry it's long, and I know others of you have much more going on and I feel awful now.. If you have managed to get through to this bit then WELL DONE!!!

I am going to have a shower and go to bed now I think as I am mentally and physically drained and I have to do the nieces school run still for my "sister"...

funfairprincess

Evening all x :hello:

piggers kh is a kh hugs sweetie whether you want them or not
LW do I have to come over there? We are here for you so get posting pronto!
natty huge hugs xxx

Been and done the paid stuff. It was the shift from hell. Had to empty the two ball pits by hand :eek:and sort the balls into smaller and larger ones. Bag up the large ones as the keep sticking in the ball cleaning machine and put the small ones back in the pits. 4 hours it took 2 of us to do it, my back is breaking and my arms are sore. :mad:

Not a great deal of flying here today. The dailies and that's been about it.
Tomorrow I need to get with it. I have to pick up the other half of DDs and OHs prescription as they didn't have enough today/tonight, really starting to get annoyed with them its all the time this happens. Will try to catch up with the lists too as I'm off tomorrow and DD has no ballet :dance::dance:_party_

Good night all sweet dreams xx

ionafan

Natty, big hugs xxx. I do hope that telling us all about your worries has eased them a little bit - a problem shared is a problem halved, they say. I shall be sending Flylady healing vibes in Dave's direction on Friday, and hope a few prayers for you all won't come amiss also. For you I have a whole jarful of spoons, and for your BD an armful of sticks. Please be gentle with yourself.

Big hugs to mrs-mp too xxx. Have you managed to do something for yourself today? - I don't mean housework or decluttering or even gardening, but something that is just for your own pleasure. You deserve it!

At times, life seems so unfair...

Pigpen, there are no words to describe my reaction to KH :eek: :eek: :eek:

pigpen

Natty68 wrote: »

Sorry it's long, and I know others of you have much more going on and I feel awful now.. If you have managed to get through to this bit then WELL DONE!!!

Right... that... is banned... you are not permitted to apologise for having $h!t going on.. We are here, we all care, you are our family, our friend and we need you too.

MIL feels about her hubby the same as you feel about yours.. it is enough to bear your own pain, accepting someone elses is hard to add to the mix.. you need to stand together, be strong for each other, that is what family does.. and if you need to tell them that.. do it.. You need their support and they need yours.. you CAN get through this, together. FIL is being difficult because he is unwell and also frightened.. tell them you understand that but you 2 feel the same and need to unite..

Of course Dave is terrified of his operation.. but he is being strong for you.. Tell him how you feel, I know you are thinking the worst, it is all part of being human. Tell him how you feel, not just the fear but the love too.. don't be afraid of feelings they are the thing that makes us human, the reasons we love each other, the reasons we choose people to share our lives and the reason we push others away. Nooone needs to be strong, or hide, it is ok to break down and we can then find a way forwards through it...

As for your niece.. she is a little troubled soul isn't she bless her. Sadly it is one of those things you have to be there and just keep on keeping on. It sounds like she is craving a sense of belonging and thinks she will find this with a bunch of dead beats.. I've been there with DS1. You obviously love her dearly and she you.. She will get through this period in her life with constant love and care. So long as they know they have someone who loves them and is there, it provides a road back through.

Hugest of huge pink fluffy hugs heading your way.. and please offload whenever you need to.. it is all part of the service!

I think we need one of our evenings of light booked in for Friday or Thursday.. healing for flyminions, fly-partners, fly-parents, fly-babies and flybeasts..

missymoo81

Oh natty, what an awful lot going on for you my dear. Big hugs. I'm sorry I can't offer any advice, but I hope sharing your worries has helped a little. X

Jazee

missymoo81 wrote: »

Oh natty, what an awful lot going on for you my dear. Big hugs. I'm sorry I can't offer any advice, but I hope sharing your worries has helped a little. X

What she said!! And hugs to anyone else who needs them.

Right, two hours before the paid stuff, better get cracking and look at the list.

Have a great day everyone.

Biscuit_monster

Morning,

natty I hope it has helped to share, we all need to sometimes, and it seems that you have just loads of stuff going on at the moment. It sometimes happens like that, it all comes at once. Keep sharing if you feel like you want to, it's why we are all here. Will be thinking of you and yours on Friday x

Right, off I go. Busy today, DD2's birthday (5! My little baby) party at soft play after school, Going with OH to get results of his ECG, dog walk, plus getting from level 3 on Mondays list hopefully onto Wednedsay xx

boddy

I am sad to read that so many of my flylady friends are going through so much at the moment. So I am sending light, love and healing thoughts to you all. Also big warm hugs. Even you pigpen

Not doing too bad with the flying. Will see what can get done today.

Need to nip to the shops. Pick some trousers up and get DDs lunch sorted. Off to a friends later for coffee. Oh and write GS2s birthday card out.