Weekly Flylady Thread 8th June 2015

funfairprincess

Good morning flyfriends x

I'm just up, DD still snoring away, DS2 and OH are away to work. Not sure what to do first. I need to bring the bins in, make the beds, a quick s/s all round and nip up the street to the chemist. Need to get it all done before work at 2. DD is going to be happy she's coming with me today and that means no internet connection for her!

mummyroys and YL big hugs xxx
Mrs MP that poem is lovely xxx

Jazee

Good morning flyladies, lovely supportive thread as alway. Glad to hear that things went well for Natty's DH and CY. Hope the day improves for those with struggles.

I ended the week on a more positive note than it started. Paid stuff went well so there was no need for the three day headache worrying about it all and now I know that next week will be just fine too.

Today it is pouring with rain here, so I'll do some indoor jobs (from the list) this morning. This afternoon there is an indoor event in the village to attend, and then a lovely evening in planned with DH.

Right time to get dressed. I didn't get up till nearly 8 this morning and so far have only done a meal plan, made a fruit salad and sent a shopping list to DH. Oh and me and the dogs have eaten.

Have a great day everyone.

pigpen

bossymoo wrote: »

Pigpen did you enjoy doing the lists so much you want to keep doing or shall I take charge next week?

I always loved doing them. If you want another week or 3 off I don't mind doing it but I don't want to steal it off you unless you have done your stint and had enough?


Pouring with wetness here today, Squeak wet her clean bed last night.. Pixie demanding to use the potty again .. Just waiting for Jacob coming here and then I get to ear ache DS1.. he may even get a slap.


Kitchen still needs a fair bit of degrotting today, I want the wrksurface of doom decluttered and visible again.. it is full of paint but if I can get it clear of crap I can use the paint to decorate the kitchen!

Jazee

Me again. Finally dressed, and I've WUDUPA and hoovered/swept/mopped through the house.

I was going to sew a tear in LittleyDog's bed next but OldDog is asleep next to the cupboard where the sewing stuff is and I don't want to disturb her. I even mopped round her.

Still raining so time to look at the listy.

funfairprincess

Hi all x

Beds made, washed up, washing lifted from various floors and put in the basket, bins in and DD and I walked to chemist.

Just going to make lunch then see if I can squeeze some knitting in before work.

Honey_Bear

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

I might just look into that honeybear, thing is I'm not her carer in any official capacity. She "doesn't need or want one" one of the nurses asked if she had a carer, I said I look after her and do her shopping cleaning etc and go with her for Drs and hospital visits. So mil said see I manage by myself.

Hmm. Right. I believe support groups are not for 'official carers,' they are for people who are providing support to people they care about. I think that's you, isn't it?

The rules will have changed since I was a carer, but Attendance Allowance and Carer's Allowance kicked in automatically where certain conditions were met and people applied for them. I don't know whether they're appropriate in your case and that might help financially if you are juggling things but that can, to my mind, be much less important than just knowing you're in the same room with people who share the same emotional pressures along with all the practical stuff.

I never, ever said a word about my mother's behaviour in the Parkinson's Support Group which was for those with Parkinson's and their carers; it was a 45 minute exercise class led by a physiotherapist aimed at everyone in the room, followed by tea, coffee and biscuits, with informal chatting if you wanted to join in. Or not. It was exactly what I needed and absolutely nothing to do with Attendance or Carer's Allowance.

pigpen wrote: »

Right... that... is banned... you are not permitted to apologise for having $h!t going on.. We are here, we all care, you are our family, our friend and we need you too.

MIL feels about her hubby the same as you feel about yours.. it is enough to bear your own pain, accepting someone elses is hard to add to the mix.. you need to stand together, be strong for each other, that is what family does.. and if you need to tell them that.. do it.. You need their support and they need yours.. you CAN get through this, together. FIL is being difficult because he is unwell and also frightened.. tell them you understand that but you 2 feel the same and need to unite..

Of course Dave is terrified of his operation.. but he is being strong for you.. Tell him how you feel, I know you are thinking the worst, it is all part of being human. Tell him how you feel, not just the fear but the love too.. don't be afraid of feelings they are the thing that makes us human, the reasons we love each other, the reasons we choose people to share our lives and the reason we push others away. Nooone needs to be strong, or hide, it is ok to break down and we can then find a way forwards through it...

As for your niece.. she is a little troubled soul isn't she bless her. Sadly it is one of those things you have to be there and just keep on keeping on. It sounds like she is craving a sense of belonging and thinks she will find this with a bunch of dead beats.. I've been there with DS1. You obviously love her dearly and she you.. She will get through this period in her life with constant love and care. So long as they know they have someone who loves them and is there, it provides a road back through.

Hugest of huge pink fluffy hugs heading your way.. and please offload whenever you need to.. it is all part of the service!

I think we need one of our evenings of light booked in for Friday or Thursday.. healing for flyminions, fly-partners, fly-parents, fly-babies and flybeasts..

^^^ Wot she said. I'm sorry I haven't been reading this week and missed, entirely, what has been happening. I've only read up to Page 5 so far and am horrified to know how much pressure you're under Natty. Hugs, healing vibes for both you and Dave, and the housework will wait until you feel like doing it. A bit of dust never hurt anyone - am I allowed to say that on this thread?

cyclingyorkie wrote: »

I am about mine. My family don't seem to get this atm. I spent a lot of yesterday trying to catch up on the ironing and was duly k*******d last night. One family member told me that I could milk the sympathy after the op not before. Then DS gave me a ton of washing that was out of his room.

Life has been further complicated by the arrival of Aunt Flo for the first time since January.

I am finally admitting to myself how terrified I am. Not easy.

Huge (((hugs))) for you, CY. In the playground we used to ask if our best friends wanted us to bash someone up for them. I'm tempted to ask, but no doubt your 'family member' is on the receiving end of your unconditional love and you'd want to protect them from me. I'm rather strong, so it would cause more than a slight *ouch* if I were let lose on them.

I was thinking of you yesterday, wishing you well, and I hope that when you're recovered enough to catch up with Fred that you are feeling better in every way. (((More hugs)))

I have been distracted by frog-munching which took all week to work out and complete. *rivet* *urp* *rivet* It feels marvellous knowing it is completely finished and no longer my responsibility.

Now I can get back to flying over the next 24 hours and then finally get away for an (almost) three week holiday at the chalet, long overdue. Sorry you don't like caravans, Ionafan - the chalet's more of a shed-in-a-field, to quote the chap who used to own the one next door.

In the meantime, I'll catch up with Fred.

Jazee

Still raining. In the last 40 minutes, I've fitted new chains to the sink plugs, emptied the upstairs bin, cleared the worksurfaces in the kitchen and repaired LittleyDog's bed.

Half an hour till I go out, lets see what I can do.

missymoo81

mummyroysof3 and YL, i hope you both feel brighter soon x

oh the rain!!! its horrid, so horrid, in fact I am still in my pyjamas, well I'm not going out anywhere!

today i have helped the little ones make smoothies, made lunch, gone through the cupboard and freezer, as OH has just informed me that having to pay the nursery fees this month is going to really skint us, and i don't want to add to the CC, as it will prob be much the same next month! so seeing what i can get in tosco, as have a few vouchers and trying to get as much for my money as possible.

Have managed to load the DW, do one load of washing, tidy May's bedroom and just pick up random bits and pieces. house doesn't look hugely better though. spoke to my step mum for nearly an hour as her brother died on wednesday, so she's in a bit of a state.

Don't know what to do with the hoodlums, think it will be a dvd this afternoon, so i can write a meal plan and get the shopping sorted.

Honey_Bear

bossymoo wrote: »

I have a p***y duvet :mad:

A bad mum would have made DD sleep in the wet bed, while you slept in her nice clean dry one. You're a fabulous mum. Just needed to say that.

Ionafan, your words about your friend ... *snif* Gentle hugs for both you and your friend.

I'm sorry I missed the Cirle of Light last night, but thank you Natty and CY (via Ionafan) for letting us know that both patients were making satisfactory progress.

Someone asked if anyone found that by Flying any of us had found that we weren't embarassed by the state of the place when people came round. Yes and no. What's changed is that I no longer apologise if things are dusty or there's detritus on the carpet and washing up in the sink because this house is a lived in place with lots happening. The kitchen's a relatively hygienic sort of place, guests get clean bedding and towels every week and the guest shower room and loo are spotless; nothing else matters. The kind of people who think the place is squalid if it's untidy don't belong here and I'm now at the age that I don't embarrass easily anyway. The people who are welcome are the sort that value the fact that the kettle's always hot, the Twinks tin is always full, the cat wants you to pick him up and stroke him and the dog will lick your hand if he's allowed to.

Now, to actually get on with flying ....

Valli

Finally caught up with thread this am but was on work i pad and I don't like typing on that. Sort of missed the circle last night but I did decided to light a couple of candles I was given by my friend so maybe I was being 'in' even without knowing.
Love to both Natty and Cycling
Am thrilled that I found a teaspoon in the compost bin I turned and moved last night - the conifers from the back have sent roots into the bin and it was bone dry and not composting properly. The teaspoon was a set which was a wedding gift (first Mr Valli) and from a section of my family (Aunt, Uncle and cousins) and nowadays I use it everyday even though it is my best set because I had a rethink some years ago (after I joined the thread I think). I'm still missing a dessert spoon - well - you never know. It will have a couple of rides in the DW;)

DS is working in Steel city; am about to take DD who is helping catering at an event in Hathersage (there's posh!)