Here we can all be heard for a little while

elsien

Can you appeal your banding? With most councils, medical need should put you higher than that. Have you got the banding criteria? - it should be on the council website.

Flybaby

{Moosquish}
Loving the instrument JM - you deserve it! SO wish I could hear you play
Katy - yea to them finally looking at the hole!
MR3 - ugh - know what you mean about yet another thing to look into - don't know how you do it with kids as well.
Pyx -{squish}

mellymoo74

O have them on a recording stating ours would be more for mental that physical health they are looking g at the physical health.

It's ok I am not responding (tho I have sent a picture of him parked behind me) tomorrow I will pay a solicitor and send that to the ombudsman

Pyxis

Melly, you must be exhausted with all this research, litigation, reporting and whatnot.

Why not have a break from it, and treat yourself to some pampering?
Maybe book tickets for a show, or a trip to the seaside! Buy a candy floss and a toffee apple?
Let the dogs have a run on the beach, or somewhere with a nice forest?
Just to get away from the constant conflict?

Or even a weekend break! Needn't be very far away, just somewhere different, maybe a cathedral city, or a beauty spot.

This is all so bad for you, I'm sure you could do with a break from it.
What do you think?

mellymoo74

A break isn't possible
Solicitors is next move

elsien

Horizon programme tonight about OCD , if anyone's interested. 8 pm BBC2.

mellymoo74

Thanks elsien

Pyxis

elsien wrote: »

Horizon programme tonight about OCD , if anyone's interested. 8 pm BBC2.

Thanks, Elsien, I had planned to watch it, as I know someone with severe OCD, but don't know much about it.

mellymoo74 wrote: »

A break isn't possible
Solicitors is next move

Melly, I know we've talked about this before, and I know you're feeling very angry and very upset, on behalf of yourself and your OH. I feel that there's so much pain there for you. All this pain might, just might, be starting to have a very damaging and destructive effect on you, which is what I'm worried about. And I expect others are worried too.

That's why I thought that, if you were to step back from it all, just a little, it might mean that your health could improve, and that would give you some strength.

Do you get my drift? Maybe, just easing your foot off the accelerator might give you a bit of peace. :A

We're all here for you, you know. You mustn't feel you're all alone.

Georgiegirl256

Birdie85 wrote: »

If someone does mention your weight, turn it into a positive, like 'Oh, I used to be such a stick, I'm loving my curves now!'

Thanks Birdie Thing is, I'm not not what you would call overweight, but I'm the heaviest I've ever been and it's noticeable. I'll try my best to be positive whilst breathing in at the same time! :rotfl:

codemonkey wrote: »

Georgie - people probably won't mention your weight, and if your bil does just laugh and tell him he's not exactly Brad Pitt. I am dreading the one in 2 weeks as I think some of DH's friends from back in the day will be there and I'm sure they're going to wonder how on earth he ended up with me.

Good idea code! I'll have that one on stand by! If not for me, for DH as I bet BIL will say something to him about his weight....usually does. If anything, your DH's mates will be thinking "wow! He's struck lucky!", especially when they see you in your gorgeous dress!

Flybaby wrote: »

Georgie - As always I think Pyx's advice is very sound.
If someone says something nasty, you do not have to put up with it - just look at people blankly and say (politely) "I think that is rude" and walk away to talk to someone else or go into another room. You may have to attend the event, but you do not have to be made to feel bad in doing so. Try and stick with DH throughout so that you can support each other. In order to try and avoid those I know are not my type of people, I try and make a point of finding the person or couple or family at a wedding who do not know anyone else and make friends or polite chit chat - helps them to feel a little more relaxed and helps me to avoid the nasties.

Thanks to you to Flybaby You're right, Pyxis always offers great advice, as does everyone on this thread! Talking things out on here always helps.

Georgiegirl256

Melly Hun, I'm worried about the stress you're under Pyxis advice for a trip away is excellent. Sounds like you and DH could do with one. Shame it's not possible atm, maybe in a few weeks time perhaps?