Here we can all be heard for a little while

mellymoo74

Perhaps them not happening is for the best.
The white base coat means the blue is really bright tho.
Bit high as the tequila one is a cheap shop one and us verrrrrry fumey

mellymoo74

Why have I started painting my nails when my left side is so pants most of its all over my hands lol

Pyxis

codemonkey wrote: »

I am fed up. Work is so busy and I have no idea what I'm doing. Been attempting something for days and it's not worked so asked on a technical forum and was made to feel like an idiot. I feel hopeless and like I want to make an actual blanket fort and never come out because clearly, I'm an idiot.

ETA: I should change my name to crappy codemonkey.

Code, last year, when I hadn't been frequenting the forum for long, (I was no longer a newby, but hadn't made many posta), I asked a question on one of the tech threads.
I can't remember what the question was, just that it was something I really wanted to know how to do.

Someone replied in this manner...." Well, it's such-and-such, obviously!"
I found that somewhat upsetting.
My reply was that it hadn't been obvious to me, which was why I had asked the question.
Interestingly, a very short while later, he deleted his post.

(A couple of other people gave me some useful information.)

No-one is born being the fount of all knowledge, and the only reason we know things is if we've been taught them, either by others or by experience. If someone has an enquiring mind and wants to learn, that should be congratulated, not ridiculed.
If someone ridicules you for wanting to learn, then it is they who are the idiots, most certainly not you Code!

Wellyboots6

What do you do to cope with your migraines Melly and Dragonette?
I get them quite regularly, usually triggered by points of light. We've had to change most of the light fittings in the house, and I once had to leave a job due to the florescent lighting.
The doctor gave me tablets to take when I feel one coming on, but they start too quickly for the tablets to have any preventative effect.
Lying down in the dark doesnt with for me as the room spins and I get very sick.
I do wonder if they are hormonal too as haven't had half as many these past few months.

Escapee is learning the jive tonight, vigorously. I half wondered if it was time earlier but I think it is just wishful thinking!

WaS, it sounds like you are doing all the right things. You can get through this, you know what you are doing.

dragonette

With migraines, a dark room helps me. Sometimes with sunglasses! Lying down make me feel sick too, so I usually stay sitting up. I find I sway slightly to stop it feeling like the room is spinning.

I don't get them often enough to be much help, sorry. A very quiet radio or something to listen to sometimes helps as it stops any other noises from being so jarring. Emmm, if I think of anything else I'll post in the morning

Nn all, special soothing hugs to all who need them x

Pyxis

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seven-day-weekend

Solarjunkie wrote: »

Someone I know had a hamper for a golden wedding, It included a golden delicious apple, golden shred marmalade, golden crunch biscuits, even SMA gold baby milk!

Although not a golden shower I presume :eek:

mummyroysof3

Argh this is why I'm exhausted all the time...hubby woke me up at 1am to talk then I took ages to get back to
Sleep then had a nightmare i did go back to sleep but yo test got up at 4am and it's impossible to keep him happy and quiet.

On the plus side it's my birthday today and hubby and eldest 2 are doing a fry up for Lunch and tea will be Chinese and wine, eldest 2 are sleeping at my dads for first time

Pyxis

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Argh this is why I'm exhausted all the time...hubby woke me up at 1am to talk then I took ages to get back to
Sleep then had a nightmare i did go back to sleep but yo test got up at 4am and it's impossible to keep him happy and quiet.

On the plus side it's my birthday today and hubby and eldest 2 are doing a fry up for Lunch and tea will be Chinese and wine, eldest 2 are sleeping at my dads for first time

Oooh! Happy Birthday, MR3! :T :beer:

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, Happy birthday, MR3! I am so glad that you joined the thread when you did so that we could all wish you a lovely day! I hope the tiredness abates and you have a wonderful time!

You made me giggle, SDW!

In his amusing way, WaSp made me feel a bit better about the whole welfare situation. He asked "What are you going to do for a job exactly? You would be fired after a morning! You couldn't even make a cup of coffee for the boss without sticking your hand in a kettle of water and ending up at A&E nevermind peering out at everyone from under a blanket!" There is truth in that actually even though it makes me sound terrible. He followed that up with reminding me that I think that I am 'normal' because it is my day to day life, but I am not 'normal and am in fact, a fruit basket!' Ok, he could have put it a bit more PC, but I get his point and it made me giggle quite a lot. Then I threw things at him, soft things. That probably sounds bad but we joke about my mental health all of the time, if we didn't we would be (even more) insane after 20 years.

I am ok, I suppose. The sleepies have gone which is a good thing as it means my thyroid my stabilising. What really pee's me off though? The intrusive thoughts, the nightmares and me waking WaSp up crying in my sleep are back. As soon as the sleepies are dealt with I am back into psychosis. I know it has to be this way but at times it's really disheartening, it was actually pleasant sleeping a lot and just passing out without feeling awful first, even if it was caused by an imbalance. I am not unwell by my standards by any means, it is business as usual. It's just that this can be really depressing after getting a break from it. I either sleep for 16 hours a day and feel better mentally when I am awake or there is this, plus it is always harder to adjust again after I have a break from it. I shall stop whining and get on with it.