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geminilady wrote: »

sorry you have had such a bad day maybe whoever did it will replace them by tomorrow if they have any decency they will and you can still have your bath.Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

thank you. i doubt anything will be done, most likely i'll get a knock on my door from one of two housemates complaining about me leaving a note...however..the note is technically in the bin with the candles...so if i get questioned on it..in wrote the note in anger but threw it away.. :whistle: not my fault if they read it...

god i am a horrendous passive aggressive...

Pyxis

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Indie_Kid

calleyw wrote: »

Beki,

have a huge hug. People like that drive me up the wall. I hope you manage to get through sunday ok.

Ok my day ended well. At 10pm get a message from a friend to say he was popping in.

Please don't think badly of me. He is married but there is nothing going on between us honestly. He is nice bloke and we just chat. But he lies to his wife about where he is or who he is with. As she would chuck a huge hissy fit as the jealous type. I have no interest in him like that what so ever.

I have told him what he needs to do, leave but he wont. He thinks that she is cheating on him. But he has to choose to want to leave. Even offered my spare bedroom for him to stay in for a while at a price LOL!!!

Anyway sat out in the garden with some candles lit and had a coffee. It was nice. And another friend is coming over tomorrow morning for a few hours. Yes it is bloke. I only seem to have male friends LOL!!!

We will try out my new garden loppers. Decided to keep it than faff around with a refund etc.

What a social butterfly I am :rotfl:

Yours

Calley

Why does he feel the need to lie to her? To me, this just shows he has something to hide. I remember years ago, I was meeting up with a male friend. One of the first things he said was "my wife knows we're meeting up and what we;re doing".

calleyw

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Why does he feel the need to lie to her? To me, this just shows he has something to hide. I remember years ago, I was meeting up with a male friend. One of the first things he said was "my wife knows we're meeting up and what we;re doing".

As I said she is jealous and he is not allowed to go and do anything with out 20 questions. I don't doubt him as he has no reason to lie. But he has said even when he has been up front and honest about female friends. She still gets jealous and causes problems. And he is not allowed to meet them even with her present.

As I said there is nothing going on between us apart from being friends. We talk about his situation as he really does not have anyone else to talk to.

Wish I had never said anything now. As it seems I am the baddy in all of this when all I have done is offer my ear to listen to someone who needs it.

Yours

Calley

Flybaby

Morning all - up and down week for me. The dreaded MIL visit commences today - fingers crossed it all goes well and she is not her usual "accidentally rude" self.......... however on brighter note.........thank you for the advice about the passion flower - look what I have on the plant


EDT - frustratingly can't add the lovely photo at the mo...........hmmm...........

Pyxis

calleyw wrote: »

Wish I had never said anything now. As it seems I am the baddy in all of this when all I have done is offer my ear to listen to someone who needs it.

Yours

Calley

Calley, I don't think anyone has suggested you're the baddy. :A
Nothing anyone said has come across like that to me.

It's nice that he can offload onto you. A lot of men can't, and bottle things up to exploding point. You're a good friend to him.

It's just that he's really storing up trouble for himself by keeping things from her, even though it seems to make for an easier life.

There seem to be some fundamental problems with his relationship, and they both need help in dealing with it, otherwise the things she fears will come true!

Wellyboots6

I agree with Pyxis, noone has said anything negative about you Calley, just that it's good for him to have someone to talk to. If someone is jealous then they will be jealous whatever you do, the only problem would be is if she found out he meet you and lied, then she would feel it proves her point and would use it to justify her jealousy. Even though nothing happened between you she won't know that.
But that Calley, is HIS issue, not YOURS so don't worry!!

It's good he has someone he can offload to, it may help him clear his head.

Good luck Flybaby! My mum is the same, accidentally rude and rather insulting. She claims she has to say what she thinks and isn't comfortable not being honest, but when that hurts people I am not entirely sure that is good justification for it!

MU, I had a similar situation with a with colleague and kept telling management how awful he was. They always made excuses for him, until one day they had to work a couple of shifts with him and realised for themselves.

mellymoo74

Good luck flybaby!

Ok so yesterday's meeting it became apparent that the point of it was to try and bully me out of the ombudsman case and it left me furious.
Don't worry I made sure they knew I was furious whilst still being professional.

I emailed company yesterday to accept on the proviso my salary increases once I have my NVQ. Really looking forward to it but they offered 1k more than they wanted and 2k less than I wanted so this makes it be more middley.

Upstairs just came and watched me out with the dogs again so raised that as an ASB and will contact the police again.

About to batch cook this is very important we are going to have very little money if I start at new place 1st Sept.

codemonkey

I used to have a male friend I went to rock clubs with. We were just friends who liked music and wanted to go out and dance/play air guitar. He was married and his wife wasn't into the same kind of music and I was single so we went together and we always had fun. Then I found out that he was lying to his wife and saying he was going with another guy instead of me. It made me uncomfortable as if his wife had found out, it would have seemed a lot more than it actually was, otherwise why lie? (Not that anything untoward had happened but it would have seemed to her like there must be a reason ) . I stopped going out with him after that as I didn't want to be a part of it.

Watching the athletics. I think I missed my calling as a shotputter.

Waves_and_Smiles

Aw, Calley. No one thinks you are the baddy, promise. I had a very close male friend for years too, sadly his girlfriend stopped him speaking to me. Of course he had a choice whether he did or not, but he loved her and didn't want to lose her and couldn't find a compromise. I am still sad about it and I miss him.

Big hugs MU. I really hope that today is better for you.

Crossing everything for a relatively peaceful weekend for you, Flybaby!

Katy! Now? Maybe now? What about now?

The sleepies are lessening! I am now sleeping for around 12 hours a day, this is much improved! It is a huge relief.